Why Compromise Is Important In Relationships

Why Compromise Is Important In Relationships

When relationships go south, welcome change.

I believe in compromise—in truth, in honesty, in respect. In my opinion, the most important factor in a romantic relationship between you and your partner is to talk things out when things get rough.

Why do I think compromise so important? Essentially, it allows you and your partner to balance each other’s needs by considering both of your positions, which leads to mutual understanding between the two of you as well as a solution to the main issue. As a direct result of understanding you each have sacrificed something in order to share the solution with your partner, both of you will gain each other’s trust, and in doing so, commitment.

A good relationship is built on a strong foundation of trust, commitment, and compromise. Trust can waver when you feel insecure. Commitment can get shaky when you feel uncertain. Compromise, though, always exists regardless of how you feel. Should you and your partner continue to compromise on issues between you two, trust and commitment will continue to stand strong and stable.

If you are unhappy with the way your partner is too “this” or too “that,” you should talk to him or her about the situation. Say how you feel about the issue rather than accusing your partner of doing or being “this” or “that.” For example, say, “I don’t like it when you play games too much,” instead of outright stating, “you play games too much.” The first is honest and emotional. It’s how you feel. The second is very accusatory and will put your partner on the spot. Be polite and try to work things out between you in a collaborative manner.

Do not panic if your partner refuses to compromise. Consider this: If it is their first time working out a resolution seriously with a partner, they might see compromise as a weakness or a foreign idea. A saying exists that goes, “it is better to lose the battle in order to win the war.” There will be times where you have to stomach your pride in order to come to a resolution during an argument. But if your partner refuses to compromise, you may have to completely step back for the sake of preserving the relationship, which is more important than winning an argument. For now, it might be troublesome to to let your partner have his or her way, but in the long run, it is worth the trouble. You will maintain a positive relationship and you will know how to resolve problems in the future.

Choosing not to compromise may cost you the relationship in the long run, because similar problems that will not resolve themselves will arise even if both partners have forgotten the specific issue. If it hasn’t been worked out between the two of you, ignoring it will not make it better. If you have a partner who never compromises, then you should rethink the relationship and where it might be headed in the long run. Are you likely to continue giving up and sacrificing for the sake of your partner when he/she is unwilling to do the same for you? Are you content with the state your relationship is in right now? I don’t have the answer to that, because the answer should lie within you.

In the end, it is up to you to decide what you want to do. But if you truly believe you want to preserve your relationship with your significant other, then take a stab at compromising because it can most definitely improve your relationship in ways you might not have thought possible.

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31 Apologies You Wish Your Ex Had Given You

I'm sorry I never licked your butthole.

People fall in and out of love and, as many of us know, love hurts. Love's magical, mystical, and mysterious ways haunt us, and, unfortunately, love can leave unforgivable scars. However, with time pain ends and one can mature from the learned love. Any type of closure, however, is not possible without apologies. So here are 31 "I'm sorries" you need to hear from your ex, whether male or female.

1. I'm sorry I never fully appreciated you.

Some never really appreciate what you have until you no longer have it.

2. I'm sorry I disappeared.

I just thought that maybe it was just a phase.

3. I'm sorry I hung on even when I knew it was over.

I just thought that maybe it was just a phase.

4. I'm sorry I made a fool out of you.



I never meant to, but I guess I played you and you haven't realized until now.

5. I'm sorry I watched **insert show of choice** without you.



You know, some relationships just aren't strong enough.

6. I'm sorry I never respected your family and friends.

Listen to what your friends and family have to say. They are your outside observers.

7. I'm sorry I never stood up for you.

Although you can stand up for yourself, I know I should have been there to support you.

8. I'm sorry I'm not the one for you.

I broke my promises.

9. I'm sorry I ever yelled at you.



Everything happens for a reason.

10. I'm sorry I never trusted you.

I thought you were lying with every word, but it falls on me as I never thought I deserved those words.

11. I'm sorry I never licked your butthole.

I knew you inside and out and, I swear, I loved you, but there was no way I could avoid hurting you

16. I'm sorry I turned my back on you.

I should've known better. I should've stopped before it started.

17. I'm sorry I did what I did.

I should've known better. I should've stopped before it started.

18. I'm sorry you felt alone when we were together.

It was a one-sided relationship.

19. I'm sorry I didn't treat you right.

You deserve better, but I can't be your better.

20. I'm sorry I manipulated you.



Minds have a funny way of being twisted.

21. I'm sorry I never really tried.



You begged and I just turned a blind eye.

22. I'm sorry I got overwhelmed.



It all happened so quickly.

23. I'm sorry I lied.

I thought it would be better to lie, but each lie began to pile up on top of one another.

24. I'm sorry I made a mistake.



I can't deny my past mistakes.

25. I'm sorry I didn't love you as much as you loved me.



You can't help that kind of thing.

26. I'm sorry I was scared to let you go.



But I can't keep holding on.

27. I'm sorry I can't turn back time.

I wouldn't change it all.

28. I'm sorry I was indecisive.



Who am I to say what's right or wrong?

29. I'm sorry I blamed it all on you.



It's both of our faults since it takes two to tango.

30. I'm sorry I was an idiot.

People do stupid things. It's a positive occurrence when one realizes that he/she did something stupid.

31. I'm sorry it took me this long to say, "I'm sorry".

Better late than never.

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5 Reasons Why Online Dating Is Taking Over The Dating World

"Swiping for your true love?"

I do not even know what it is like to actually meet a decent guy in person anymore. Why is this? Dating apps have been taking over the dating world. According to About U.S. News & World Report, "a multi-platform publisher of news and information," presented a survey in October 2017 stating that about 70% of single men and women use dating apps during work! https://money.usnews.com/careers/articles/2017-10-...

I am sure that meeting someone that is not online is obviously possible, but why is it that dating apps have become the new world of dating? Here are 5 reasons why:

1. They are convenient

You can easily set up a date with someone on the apps when you are at work, walking through the city, babysitting; the list is endless. Instead of going out to actually meet people, you can literally sit in your bed and swipe for a date.

2. They are used for boredom

Many people do truthfully go on the app due to boredom, meaning they just want someone to talk to. However, sometimes these interactions can lead to a relationship-- you never know.

3. They are easy to use.

I personally do not think dating apps are that difficult to use. They usually tell you what you should include in your profile. It is easy to view people who may catch your interest and the apps usually match you with who you like.

4. They are great for people who are shy.

Some people really do not like going out in public to meet people. This is why they turn to dating apps as they feel more comfortable connecting with others on the apps first.

5. It can be a confidence booster for people.

From personal experience, I did not know how "admirable" I was until over 100 guys were messaging me on OKCupid for my attention. Not that I am anything that spectacular, but the fact that a guy wanted to talk to me, even if it was for something like a hook up (Ew), it gave me self confidence. Obviously you need to be attracted to the person and their personality, but the point is, getting many "likes" and messages on the dating apps can lift up your confidence.

Personally, I am on and off the apps. But hey, they work for some people.

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