​Respect for EOF

​Respect for EOF

They do so much with so little

From my very first article on this website, a lot of people learned about EOF and why I hold it so close to my heart. The Educational Opportunity Fund program here at Monmouth University allows students from lower income families to take steps towards a future that they want to build for themselves. They do this by providing us with not only financial support but also academic support and personal guidance. EOF is a small family united by the goals that drive us toward common ideas. With all of the support we get from this amazing staff, I’ve found myself questioning for a while now why it is that the EOF program doesn’t seem as important to my school.

Now before I move forward, I would like to set the record straight that I very much adore my school and I wouldn’t dream of attending anywhere else. Monmouth University has treated me well and how I feel about this one particular issue should in no way overshadow the gratitude that I hold for being able to call this school my home.

Last year, I was having a conversation with my roommate, who is also an EOF scholarship recipient, about the size of our EOF building. Why is it, we asked, that the EOF building seems to be shoved into such a far corner of our campus? People walk by it every day and most people wouldn’t know about the building unless someone pointed it out to them. Additionally, why is the size of the building itself so small?

This question is what really got us talking. There are roughly 160 students that go through EOF every year at Monmouth University. Within this small office space, there are a lot of expectations that we as EOF scholars have to uphold. Freshmen are expected to attend the office two times a week, an hour each time, to study in a group of about 8 students. Every student taking a math course is encouraged to meet with our EOF math tutor, Al Fury, for extra help. Everyone is expected to attend a scheduled biweekly meeting with our advisors. On top of all this, when spring semester comes around, we have high school seniors who are potential EOF freshmen for the following year coming into the office every other week in groups as they go through interviews. The ratio of space to number of people constantly coming in and out of this small cramped building just never seemed to add up for us.

Another purpose of EOF is to show students from low income families that where we come from is not who we are. However, shoving all of the students from low income families into such a small building is showing us just the opposite of what EOF is trying to instill in us. This building is putting us into this small confined box that we are trying to break out of. It’s quite honestly, in my personal opinion, a little disrespectful.

The diversity in EOF isn’t something that should be shoved into a corner; it should be shared. I feel like a lot of people my age take so much for granted and are so quick to judge people who are different than them. I’ve heard so many rude comments about how us low income kids are all just lazy dead beats mooching off of the government’s money. They couldn’t be any further from the truth. EOF is made up of a lot of motivated people who are extremely involved in their communities. More often than not, a lot of the clubs around campus are started by EOF students. Putting us in a corner in a small building just reflects those negative comments and enables people to think the worst of us.

EOF does so much for us students with so little. I think it’s time they get the respect they rightfully deserve.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

SEE ALSO: To The Girls Who Float Between Friend Groups

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Supporting Late-Term Abortion Is Actually The Opposite Of Feminism

Feminism is about gender equality and women supporting women- so shouldn't we support the unborn women of tomorrow?


Before you read this, if you are someone who feels strongly that abortions are the "right" choice and that supporting late-term abortions is a step for woman anywhere, I do not suggest you read this article. However, I do want to write that I support conditional abortions- situations where the birth can kill the mother or where conception occurred because of rape. If someone rapes you, that is not okay by any means, and a baby conceived of rape can be terminated by the mother to avoid PTSD, anxiety, depression, panic attacks, and any other mental health diagnoses. Of course, if a woman can bring a baby into the world to keep or give up for adoption, even if it was the product of rape, she should seek life for the innocent child rather than death. And what a rape victim chooses to do is neither here nor there- and it damn well is not anyone else's business.

So why should it be my business (or anyone's) if women have late-term abortions? Agreeing to murder out of convenience should not be societally accepted as okay. When the law passed in New York for late-term abortions, I did not picture 39-week pregnant women rushing to Planned Parenthood to abort their child because they got cold feet. I highly doubt that is the exact scenario for which the law went into effect for, and that was more so intended for women who did not realize they were pregnant and missed the time period to get a legal abortion.

Not that I support early-term abortion, because all abortion is the same regardless of when it happens during the pregnancy. Killing someone sooner rather than later does not make it less worse.

Excuses about how women are not ready to be mothers, do not have the financial means, would ruin their futures, they would get kicked out, lose their bodies, etc. are just that- excuses. Carrying a child for nine months might be an inconvenience, but killing someone will be on your conscience forever. If murders pleaded their motives to police as a way to justify what they did (excluding self-defense), what difference is it if a woman kills her unborn child?

Planned Parenthood might be taboo and have a stigma attached to it, but it does so much more than kill babies. Planned Parenthood is a place where girls can go to see OB/GYNO, get birth control, and learn about safe sex, protection, STDs, etc. Instead of stigmatizing it, young women should be encouraged to go to this institution for woman and feminism. Let high school health classes plan field trips there so that everyone becomes more educated on female health (boys included!). Female health education is very limited, especially in school, and many women feel that an abortion is their only way out, however, it's not. By becoming more educated, the rate of teen pregnancies can go down, as well as the need for abortions. Women educating other women should be the goal of Planned Parenthood, and abortions should be reserved for those who got raped or whose pregnancy cause death, health complications, etc.

Abortion might be giving women a choice- but who is giving the unborn babies a choice?

And of course the only way to 100% prevent pregnancy is abstinence, and if that is your choice then good for you, and if you choose to have sexual intercourse, good for you too. Be safe. No slut shaming here. Women need to continue supporting other women, regardless of their sex life. Women who have abortions are not "whores" and should not be labeled as such- they are just people whose biology reacted to another person's biology.

If you truly do not want to have a baby, please please please give it up for adoption and do not kill it. It did nothing wrong, and yeah, it might be a little inconvenient to be pregnant, especially if you are in school, but there are hundreds of thousands of people that would love nothing more than to raise your baby. Be a woman supporting other woman and give the gift of motherhood.

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