A Reflection Of My Teenage Years

A Reflection Of My Teenage Years

In a few short months I kiss my teenage years goodbye and embrace true adulthood.


My teenage years have been nothing short of a roller coaster ride. From the day I turned 13 all the way to 19, my teenage years have been full of phases as well as trials and errors. Like most teenagers, I have leaned a lot throughout my time being a teenager and now it's time to say goodbye.

Pretty soon I will be 20 years old, it's still hard for me to believe most days. In light of turning 20 I thought I would mention some of my experiences and the lessons I learned during my teenage years.

When I look back at my teenage years the first thing that comes to mind is conformity. Being a teenage girl meant trying to be like all of the other teenage girls your age, at least that's how it was for me. I remember in middle school when I was about 13 or 14, shopping at specific stores that all of my friends were shopping at so I could have similar clothing. How boring is that? Always trying to be like everyone else got old fairly quickly for me. By the time I got to high school I finally started to embrace more of my own style and not just conform to everyone else's clothing.

Another big aspect of my teenage years was phases. I went from being more of a tom-boy to begging my mom to buy me a Lilly Pulitzer dress a few years later to having more of a street style and loving Urban Outfitters and Pacsun. Not only did my clothing interests change multiple times throughout my journey being a teenager, my interests and friend groups changed as well.

During the beginning of my teenage years, I was really focused on being liked and accepted by people and would go along with whatever my friends were doing. However, as I got older I started to be more confident in myself and wanted to start doing things that made me genuinely happy and wanted to find people with similar interests. This took a while. I went through many friendships to find my true friends that I still have today. I'm not saying this is a bad thing, it can take a awhile for a person to truly grow into themselves and in turn find people like them, so it's okay.

My time being a teenager was definitely a journey. I went through many experiences, both positive and negative to get to where I am today. I really did have to take my experiences and do my best to grow from them. With that all being said, I really am grateful for everything I went through as a teenager. From coming home and crying to my mom, to hanging out with friends after school and on the weekends, to dealing with petty high school drama, I am thankful for it all. I know without those experiences and many others, I would not be the person I am today.

Turning 20 is scary, for me anyway. To me it's a wake up call saying I really am an adult now and no longer a teenager. I still have some mixed emotions about it, but overall I think I will be happy when I turn 20. I have lived through my teenage years and learned so much that can help me into my 20's. For the most part, I don't think I will miss my teenage years that badly. I am now a much better version of myself so why would I want to go back?

Being a teenager is hard and confusing. So many aspects of your life change as you grow into an adult. But I survived and lived to tell the tale, so I guess I am ready to be 20 now.

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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Summer And Jobs

Working summers doesn't have to be tedious.


Like many other college students, I was ready for summer but was kinda bummed that I had to work. Its not that I didn't like where I was working, I actually was really lucky to be working in a hospital environment but I just hated being alone all summer from 9-5. I've had this job for a few years now and a few other paid interns came and went but I never really connected with any of them. This year is different though.

I got really lucky to have another intern work with me that was very similar to me. The tasks we got were always simple but they were made to be more fun because I got to do them while talking with someone else. Now I actually enjoy and look forward to going to work.

The key to finding a good job is finding one that you enjoy doing and one that will help you gain knowledge that will help you out with future career plans. Working with friends also make tasks enjoyable! I would be careful with working with your friend however because if your job needs you to be serious and focused, being around your best friends may distract you from that.

Another thing that definitely makes summer jobs more enjoyable are taking breaks! It is your summer vacation after all! I'm not saying don't take a day off just to sit around, but if you make plans with family and friends, take a Friday off and enjoy the warm weather and good company! Employers understand that us college students and on break and have lives, they are usually very lenient with days off!

If you have to do a summer job to make money to live off of or pay for college, the best thing to do is look at the big picture. If you don't enjoy your job but can't afford to quit, remember that the money if going to help you out a lot. Also, this job is probably only for the summer right? So it's not permanent my friend! Get through these annoying few weeks and you will be back at college, taking steps for a bigger and brighter future.

Summer jobs are tough, I know, but make the most of it! And don't forget to enjoy it whenever you can!!!


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