Reasons I Don’t See the Point Of Dating In College
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Reasons I Don’t See the Point Of Dating In College

A modern look at an epidemic on college campus.

Reasons I Don’t See the Point Of Dating In College

I am that girl who has never had a boyfriend, and I am also the girl who has no desire to change that. Most people when they here that I have never been in a relationship look at me with pity, like it isn’t my choice. Most people automatically assume that it is because no guys are interested in me or because my social awkwardness and generally weird disposition has scared everyone off. The truth is that there has only been one time in college when I even seriously thought about starting relationship with someone and even then I came to my senses before that happened. So stop telling me that me and blah, blah would be perfect together and stop saying, “and you wonder why you don’t have a boyfriend” after every time I do something weird.

1. I am an independent person.

I am one of the most independent people I know. I mean yes, I hate siting alone while eating and yes, I hate ordering my own pizza but I am a very independent person. I came to Michigan without knowing anyone and I am going to New Zealand next semester with out knowing anyone. I do not rely on anyone.

2. I don’t have time.

Okay yes, this semester I am not taking a super hard load academically but every other semester here I have been at 18 credits with multiple labs, I work, and I am involved in multiple organizations on campus. I do not have time to put into a relationship with out it hindering my friendships.

3. I don’t know where I will be next year.

This being my last semester at college I have no clue where I will be in the future. However I know for sure that I will not be in Michigan. I would never compromise my future for anyone else. I could never let myself turn down an amazing opportunity just to be close to someone.

4. I am not mature enough for it.

I am twenty years old. I am not looking for my husband. I am not even sure I ever want to get married. The way I see it is when you start a relationship you are looking for someone to spend your life with. If I am not mature enough to make compromises and be equals then I am not mature enough to be in a relationship.

5. I can’t handle the drama.

Relationships are drama. They cause drama, and there is almost no way around it. You and your significant other are going to fight and have disagreements. Not all your friends are going to like him. If you spend too much time with him your friends get angry but if you spend too much time with your friends he feel neglected.

6. It will end.

The major reason that I didn’t want a relationship while in college was because there was an end date. No matter what, when I board my flight to California at the end of the year and vow never (exaggeration) to come back to Michigan, I am going to have no attachments. Personally I rather put time and effort into connections that will last long after college. I don’t know of anyone who is still in contact with their exes from college but I know many people who are still in contact with their friends from college.

I could ramble on all day about reasons I think college relationships are dumb, however the main goal of this article is to inform people that some people just do not want to be in relationships. Not everyone who is single is desperate for one. I do see benefits to being in a relationship, and I also see how it works for some people. For me however, I am single because I want to be and I do not see that changing for a long long time. Give your single friends a break and don’t pity them for being single because some of them definitely think you got the short end of the stick by being in a relationship.

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