You want to hear something funny? I was always told I was too nice. Yeah, literally was. I didn’t see how, though -- I was just being a friend. Then when they told me that, I would apologize for everything I did. Then they said I apologized too much. Well, I didn’t know what to say after that so I said if they needed anything I’m always here for them, and I called it a night after that. I didn’t think anything of it. I mean, I made sure they had a good day and that they were okay, I apologized for what I did wrong, and then I said I’m always here for them. It’s what friends do...or at least that’s what I thought.
Every day I would ask “how are you” or “how was your day” and they would respond, but never ask me how I was. Sometimes they actually didn’t respond so I would say “I hope you had a good weekend and I hope you have a great rest of the night, I’ll see you tomorrow.” There was actually a time where they weren’t allowed to text so I would send them a text every day basically saying how it’s rough right now but it will get better and that I would be there for them every step of the way. It was funny how when I wasn’t okay they were never there.
So what do you do when you’re the only one that cares? I mean I told my friend I didn’t feel important in this friendship. She got mad at me and started ignoring me after that, but I generally thought talking about it was the right thing to do. I’ve been told how this played out for me was the opposite of what should’ve happened, so I have to leave that question up to y’all to answer. I can say that one-sided or not, just think about what you’re doing. Recently a friend cut off our friendship and as much as I wanted them to care about me for once, I haven’t been hurt that much since 2015 and wish I never said anything in the first place.
I understand how one-sided friendships work. I’ve been in way too many of them. Always know your worth and how important you are. Don’t let anyone tell you differently, and if they do, please cut them out of your life. I know how hard that is and how much it hurts, I’m going through it right now, but a little part of me is telling me it was the right thing to do. I know it stinks right now but to get rid of a toxic relationship actually is a good thing. One of the many toxic friendships I tend to have ended in 2015 and honestly it took me a while to get over, but now I can say ending that was one of my better decisions. I’m in a better place in my life, or I was until this one ended, and I’m a lot happier than I was while in that friendship.
So if you’re in a toxic, one-sided, bad friendship, then be brave enough to end it. No matter how much it will hurt, it will help you in the long run.
