It seems as though our generation suffers from sunk cost fallacy in many ways, and for those who don't know what this is, let me explain:
Sunk cost usually applies to businesses and refers to costs that have already been incurred and cannot be recovered. Sunk cost fallacy then arises when decision-making comes into play, and its reasoning states that further investments or commitments into these sunken costs are justified because the resources already invested will be lost otherwise.
So, let me tie this back into our everyday relationships. Our generation puts a lot of emphasis on things that ultimately bring no value to our lives. We often get caught up with the trends of the day and neglect staying true to who we are—I mean I'm sure as you're reading this, you can admit that you have fell victim to this at one time or another, because let's be real, we all have, but it's important to let go of some of those old ways so that we can truly prosper in every aspect of our lives.
That starts with you and what's on the inside, but it also includes the relationships you have with people and the affect those people have on your life. There were friendships I'd had in the past that were frustrating and often times very taxing, but I remained engaged because of the history that came along with the friendship. I would tell myself "Well, I've invested a lot of time into this person, so what if they treat me bad? So, what if they down play my struggles? Who cares, it's still worth fighting for," and I would do this over and over again until it drained me of all of my energy. I was approaching my friendship with a sunk cost fallacy mindset.
I felt that the mistreatment, misunderstandings, silent treatments, and belittlement were acceptable simply because I had already invested so much time and energy into the relationship, so I didn't want to see it fail because I would never get that time and energy back.
But here's the thing, when we finally decide to walk away from those history driven friendships/relationships and we cultivate relationships with people based off of the energy they greet us with, we will live happier lives that provide us with an abundance of blessings.
I'm a strong believer that everything happens for a reason, but I believe that reacting to people based off of the energy they present to us rather than the history you both have together will make for better relationships between people, because that way, you are getting out of it exactly what you put in.
You know what they say, when someone shows you their true colors, believe them, so stop clinging to the history you all have together if their energy is negative with little to no improvement. There will always be another person out there who willing to match your energy and give you the love and care you deserve.