Re: A Thank You To My First College Friend

Re: A Thank You To My First College Friend

Let's be honest, this is long overdue.

Although, if we’re being honest, you weren’t actually the first. But you were the ‘first’ first; does that make sense?

And while we are being honest, let me first admit what you’ve probably learned after spending our waking hours together this past year of college; I’m not good with words, I’m not good at feelings, I’m not good at keeping in contact - heck I'm not good at even making friends - the latter is just too much work if you ask me. But I digress, and will say that above all the things I’m not and probably will never be good at, that I am better at written word. Give me a keyboard or a pen and I will give you everything else I couldn't give or tell you in person.

Which in this case, is a thank you.

Thank you for being open (and patient) enough to deal with that first awkward ice breaker, tentative hi, rant, bus ride, heck - thank you for surviving not only orientation but also surviving me. It was a whirlwind of days full of chaotic but organized activities, and somehow in between those tentative smiles and repressed I-want-to-go-home chatter, you found the time to also deal with me.

Thank you for being there and trusting, and going above and beyond my expectations of what it is to be a friend. You aren't the first to show me that there are those who will be and do more than what is enough, and most likely you won't be the last - but what you are is one of the few, maybe handful, of people I’ve met and have yet to meet to show me that hey, opening up isn't so bad. Making friends is sometimes worth the trouble.


(Well, not really.)

Anyway, thank you. I can't write it out or express it enough. You’ve endured the stressed, coffee-and-sleep-deprived me, and have somehow found yourself stuck (hopefully willingly) with someone like me. (You’ve repressed any expression hinting that you regret our friendship thus far, so I’m assuming willingly for both sanity’s sake and the theme of this article).

That comment aside, we've mourned over grades together, stressed out together, churned out trash essays together, given up together...essentially - we’ve seen a lot of our worst together and somehow have managed to be nonplussed by the other’s levels of hot mess-ness.

So thank you, thank you, thank you.

Crossing bridges is hard, moving off to college is never anything less than monumental and difficult, but if it means meeting more people like you, (only like though, you’re one of a kind, of course), then I’m all for it. You have become one of my tethers, anchors, stones, etcetera to this mad, mad, world and I could have not found a better and more responsible half in this new stage of life.

Sorry for the overdue fluffy speech and cheers and good luck to us braving the next few semesters and endless years together.

(PS. When you read this, I promise I will warn you the next time I decide to become sentimental so you can be prepared and not think this was forced and something is wrong with me.

PS...S. Congratulations on your newest milestone, you adult.)

Cover Image Credit: Mariya Chorna

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It's Time To Thank Your First Roommate

Not the horror story kind of roommate, but the one that was truly awesome.

Nostalgic feelings have recently caused me to reflect back on my freshman year of college. No other year of my life has been filled with more ups and downs, and highs and lows, than freshman year. Throughout all of the madness, one factor remained constant: my roommate. It is time to thank her for everything. These are only a few of the many reasons to do so, and this goes for roommates everywhere.

You have been through all the college "firsts" together.

If you think about it, your roommate was there through all of your first college experiences. The first day of orientation, wishing you luck on the first days of classes, the first night out, etc. That is something that can never be changed. You will always look back and think, "I remember my first day of college with ____."

You were even each other's first real college friend.

You were even each other's first real college friend.

Months before move-in day, you were already planning out what freshman year would be like. Whether you previously knew each other, met on Facebook, or arranged to meet in person before making any decisions, you made your first real college friend during that process.

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The transition from high school to college is not easy, but somehow you made it out on the other side.

It is no secret that transitioning from high school to college is difficult. No matter how excited you were to get away from home, reality hit at some point. Although some people are better at adjusting than others, at the times when you were not, your roommate was there to listen. You helped each other out, and made it through together.

Late night talks were never more real.

Remember the first week when we stayed up talking until 2:00 a.m. every night? Late night talks will never be more real than they were freshman year. There was so much to plan for, figure out, and hope for. Your roommate talked, listened, laughed, and cried right there with you until one of you stopped responding because sleep took over.

You saw each other at your absolute lowest.

It was difficult being away from home. It hurt watching relationships end and losing touch with your hometown friends. It was stressful trying to get in the swing of college level classes. Despite all of the above, your roommate saw, listened, and strengthened you.

...but you also saw each other during your highest highs.

After seeing each other during the lows, seeing each other during the highs was such a great feeling. Getting involved on campus, making new friends, and succeeding in classes are only a few of the many ways you have watched each other grow.

There was so much time to bond before the stresses of college would later take over.

Freshman year was not "easy," but looking back on it, it was more manageable than you thought at the time. College only gets busier the more the years go on, which means less free time. Freshman year you went to lunch, dinner, the gym, class, events, and everything else possible together. You had the chance to be each other's go-to before it got tough.

No matter what, you always bounced back to being inseparable.

Phases of not talking or seeing each other because of business and stress would come and go. Even though you physically grew apart, you did not grow apart as friends. When one of you was in a funk, as soon as it was over, you bounced right back. You and your freshman roommate were inseparable.

The "remember that one time, freshman year..." stories never end.

Looking back on freshman year together is one of my favorite times. There are so many stories you have made, which at the time seemed so small, that bring the biggest laughs today. You will always have those stories to share together.

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The unspoken rule that no matter how far apart you grow, you are always there for each other.

It is sad to look back and realize everything that has changed since your freshman year days. You started college with a clean slate, and all you really had was each other. Even though you went separate ways, there is an unspoken rule that you are still always there for each other.

Your old dorm room is now filled with two freshmen trying to make it through their first year. They will never know all the memories that you made in that room, and how it used to be your home. You can only hope that they will have the relationship you had together to reflect on in the years to come.

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Stop Assuming Your Queer Friends Are Going To End Up Falling For You

News flash: if you're my friend, the chances of me falling for you are slim to none.


Ever since I came out my senior year, I've encountered bumps of my friendships due to my sexuality. I think people understand gay, lesbian, and bisexual identities rather well. However, there are other members of the LGBTQ+ community that isn't as understood as well.

I identify as pansexual but start using the term queer. Essentially, I don't have a preference if someone identifies as female or male. When it comes to love and relationships, I care about the quality of the person and if I'm getting the love and respect I deserve.

However, to some of my friends, they seemed to become afraid. They distanced themselves in our friendships in fear I would end up falling for them.

News flash: if you're my friend, the chances of me falling for you are slim to none. You are my friend for a reason. If I liked you, I would honestly be too nervous to talk to you.

It's nice to know to have that kind of self-confidence where you think everyone has a crush on you. That's the attitude to have because you are a pretty great person. However, sorry to break it to you, but you just are not my type.

There is absolutely no reason to cut off a friendship just because you don't understand. Your queer friends would probably like you to ask questions. It can be a sign you care about them and showing support. There is nothing wrong with asking questions either. When you're in class and you don't know anything, then you ask a question. When you are getting to know someone, you ask questions. Even if you knew this person for a while, ask away!

I think there is a stigma of not knowing something and feeling embarrassed. However, it shouldn't be this way. We should embrace the unknown, learn, and grow from it. It's 2019. It's all about being open-minded to differences. We have to do better for the next generation.

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