My Letters Don't Make Me Better Than You, They Make Me Better Than I Used To Be

My Letters Don't Make Me Better Than You, They Make Me Better Than I Used To Be

What being a sorority girl means to me.

My organization has brought so much happiness into my life since the day I ran home, fall of my freshmen year.

It's not all the media makes it out to be, we don't really party every waking hour of the day, and we definitely are not "buying our friends." For me, sorority life has been nothing but happy times and memories I know I'll have for a lifetime. My sisters have shown me kindness and love on my worst days, and I know I can count on them for anything and trust them with even my darkest secrets.

I can't speak for everyone, but here's what being a "sorority girl" means to me.

Always having a sister to lean on

Whether I need to borrow a phone charger in the library, or my whole world has suddenly just come crashing down, there is always a sister willing to lend a hand, or a shoulder to cry on.

So many leadership opportunities

It seems like every day there's a new position up for grabs or an opportunity to get more involved in the chapter and get to know different sisters better.


Our philanthropies, Prevent Child Abuse America and Girl Scouts of the USA have grown so close to my heart since joining my sorority, Kappa Delta. I've had the eye-opening experience of touring the Child Advocacy Center of South West Florida and being able to volunteer at numerous Girl Scout events. Being able to see and learn about the impact that our organization has on children in need, and to hear little girls say "I want to be like you when I grow up", makes all the hours of fundraising and preparation worth it instantly.

Holding myself to a higher standard

Being apart of my sisterhood comes with certain rules and responsibilities, but I am honored to comply with them because being a member of my sorority means that I am apart of something bigger than myself. I know that I need to raise my own standards because Kappa Delta will never lower hers for me.

Campus involvement

We hold many fun tabling events on campus throughout the semester and host our annual Shamrock carnival where anyone is welcomed. Our Shamrock event raises money for PCAA, while our tabling events are meant to brighten student's days and give them a chance to get to know our sisters.


With 166 active collegiate chapters in the United States, being a Kappa Delta sister has opened so many doors for me. There is always someone to vouch for you and your character based on our shared values.

Endless encouragement

My sisters are always encouraging me to put my self out there, they see my potential and they have given me the confidence to go after what I want in life.

Role models

My organization has given me countless strong, confident women to look up to. My sisters are some of the most positive influences in my life. I see them juggling other groups and clubs, sports, jobs, and internships all while still keeping school their main priority, and having a social life, they can truly do it all, and do it all well.

Empowered women, empower women and my sisters are the best example of that. They've taught me to go confidently in the direction of my dreams, and never look back.

So yes, I'm a sorority girl, and I'm proud.

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5 Reasons Joining A Sorority Was The Best Decision I Made


I’ve never been the sappy type.

I absolutely hate corny sentiments, and I am the last person you want to come to if you are having an emotional day. So naturally the idea of “sorority sisterhood” confused me. I was nauseous at the idea of “joining a sorority to meet my future bridesmaids” and “being sisters for life.”

It seemed as if the relationships were artificial and being formed for appearance. Were these girls that you called your “sisters” really the ones that you went to for advice, or was it just a façade that covered up all of the drama that truly went on?

Regardless of my skepticism I decided to participate in rush in hopes of trying to find my niche on Villanova’s campus. After the draining process, I decided to rush Kappa Delta, and it was the best decision I made in my college career thus far. All the preconceived notions about sorority life flew out the window the second I opened my envelope and rushed home to these girls.

1. Things get weird: and that is OKAY.

Stuffing our faces with five slices of pizza, bowling very poorly, or talking about our weird eating habits is how we do our sisterly bonding. We sit there laughing at the ridiculous moments we all have experienced, feeling completely comfortable around each other. These conversations are pure and genuine and allow new friendships to form out of fun experiences.

2. Big Little Week: only the BEST WEEK OF YOUR LIFE

You walk into your room to find your entire bed decorated with fun goodies. Free t-shirts, fun foods, and sorority décor are carefully arranged on your bed every day by your future Big. Sure, the free items are cool to receive but there is something else that is so special about this week.

Without even knowing the sister that will be your future Big you develop a special connection through seeing how much she cares about you. You immediately feel comfortable around this girl, able to go to her with the smallest concerns. This week is the beginning of a great future of a strong friendship, great laughs, and irreplaceable love.

3. Service Opportunities: DO IT FOR THE GIRL SCOUTS

I love to get involved in helping out the local community, and a sorority was the perfect way to do that. It allowed me to become a part of something bigger than myself and support causes that might not have impacted me, but definitely affected others. I am now actively trying to alleviate child abuse, as well as incite confidence within young girls.

4. New Friendships!

A group of 47 girls were all bound together by one thing: sorority sisterhood. We didn’t know anything about each other yet we immediately started saying ‘hi’ to one other everywhere on campus, supporting individual successes in academics, and giving advice on any conflicts. I now have an amazing group of women there for me no matter what difficulties I face, and I know I can always rely on them when I need them most.

5. Confidence: YOU. SLAY. GIRL.

Although I may be obnoxious and loud at times, I am a very self-conscious individual. I never thought I was pretty, always worried about how white my teeth were, and don’t even get me started on what I think about my nose. However, joining a sorority allowed me to feel comfortable in my own skin. I could have a bare face, my hair up in a bun, and sweatpants on, and the only thing the girls would be worried about is the words coming out of my mouth. I don’t need to put on a façade in order to be in front of these girls. I can just be myself.

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I Am Done Defending The WSU Greek Community

I cannot be a part of an organization that tolerates everything I stand against.

Last semester, the Interfraternity Council (IFC) at Washington State University shut down Alpha Kappa Lambda. The reason?


It was a long process of the report, a temporary suspension, a two-month long investigation by the IFC, WSU, and AKL nationals, and finally, the chapter's charter was revoked.

When the news broke that IFC had shut the fraternity down, rumors spread across WSU's Greek Row like wildfire. People were angry, confused, and everyone had questions, but nobody was giving any answers.

Granted, some details are legally withheld, but finding facts about the fraternity shutting down was next-to-impossible.

I remember sitting in the dining room of my chapter, reading the school newspaper article about it and hearing my sorority sisters complaining, saying they knew what AKL did to their pledges — that it wasn't "that bad," especially in comparison to other chapters on our campus.

I was stunned. What do you mean not "that bad?" What would these boys have to do to be wrong, in their eyes? Also, if other fraternities were doing worse things, why was nobody doing anything about it?

Eventually, the news died down and everyone forgot about the hazing. I stopped thinking about it. I forgot about it. If the university wasn't talking about it, surely it could have been all that bad. AKL was the example, the warning to the rest of the chapters partaking in potentially dangerous activities.

I was so wrong.

I will spare you the details, but Wilson Criscione at the Inlander sums up what really happened at AKL nicely.

After finding this article, I tried to find a report from Pullman or WSU about AKL. Surely, they had to have released something explaining what had really happened those nights.


So I got to digging. I spoke with friends and was horrified to find that while AKL did do some pretty messed up things, it is true that they don't even come close to some of the fraternities on our campus. You know, the ones who physically beat their new members.

Hey WSU, I have a question for you:

Why are you not stopping this?

The Center for Fraternity and Sorority Life (CFSL) at WSU talks a big game with their "zero tolerance for hazing."

First, Washington has a no-tolerance hazing law that requires an organization to lose recognition from the University if they are found responsible for hazing or the University is in violation of state law. Second, approximately one fraternity or sorority is found responsible for hazing every year at WSU and if organizations who are not currently hazing do not talk about it, it often creeps back in. Third, while hazing may, in the eyes of some, bond or unite a new member class, it often prevents fraternities, sororities, and individual members from reaching their full potential and will divide the chapter. -CFSL

Okay, so why does nothing happen to these other chapters? Are you telling me you really didn't see this coming with AKL? The chapter was unrecognized for five years in 2009 for "illegal drug and alcohol use and disregard of WSU policies by AKL members." The idea was that after five years, the "bad seeds" would have graduated and the chapter could start anew.

That clearly worked really well.

I'm not saying every member of AKL is bad. I'm not saying all fraternities are bad. I am not saying the Greek community is poisonous and deserves to burn to the ground.

I've been in a Greek chapter since my first semester of college. I loved the support, the idea of women helping others to become better women, the empowerment of being part of a powerful group of women I knew would someday change the world.

Maybe I was naive. Maybe I turned a blind eye to the deterioration of the positive and safe environment around me. Maybe I should have seen it coming.

I should have walked away when I heard it was possible women in my chapter refused to take one of their own to the ER, even when she clearly needed help. They didn't want anyone to find out they'd given minors alcohol earlier that day.

I should have spoken up when young women and men were sexually assaulted and nothing happened to their assaulters — when the events were hidden from all of us. The Greek community is "safe," they tell us.

I should have never sat back down when a fraternity tweeted about taking "social boner pills" to conquer all the women on campus via their "Buffet Date Dash." They told us the boys would be disciplined — we all know they were not.

AKL is only one of many glaring problems on my campus, and the thing is, it is never going to change. Not with the way things are now. Not until someone actually does something.

I can't be a part of this anymore. I cannot sit idly by as freshmen are beaten, forced to drink until they cannot remember their mother's names, taped to one another until their bottles of hard liquor are gone, not taken to the hospital until it is too late, not given an ounce of human decency. I cannot stay quiet in the back of the room, listening to my "sisters" defend hazing. I cannot be a part of an organization that tolerates everything I stand against.

"If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor."

With all of this, combined with many financial and personal issues accumulated over the last few years, I have chosen to no longer be a member of the Greek community at Washington State.

I'm done remaining neutral.

I'm done being silent.

I'm done defending the Greek community.

I'm done.

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