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Dear Celebrities, Stop Jumping On The Bandwagon To Pretend You Care About Artists Once They're Dead

I love that musicians like Kanye West, Chris Brown, and The Game can claim that XXXTentacion was such a huge influence on them... But they never once recognized him when he was alive.


I was not, am not, and will probably never be a fan of XXXTentacion.

But even though I'm not a fan, I am still shaken by his death because of the senselessness behind it and the brutal, terrifying wake-up call that it prompted. Almost as surprising was the reaction to his death, both from celebrities and common folk, which further proved to me how insincere people can be.

The "Look At Me!" rapper was gunned down on Monday, June 18th in Florida, in what was allegedly a robbery. Reportedly shot in the neck, X died instantly... And that's the most horrifying part, that in the blink of an eye, he lost everything. If we ever needed a reminder of the brevity of life, here it is. So many of us forget that tomorrow is not promised. Instead, we spend the majority of our lives worrying about tomorrow's challenges and preparing for tomorrow's obstacles, rather than living in the moment and enjoying the time we have right now. It's terrifying, but absolutely necessary, to understand that one minute you can be living your life normally and then the next minute it can be cruelly stolen from you. Waste no time, because you're never sure how much time you have left.

The other upsetting part behind X's death is how it happened: at the hands of another black man. I swear, sometimes it seems like black people only want to kill each other — not white supremacy, not colorism, not toxic masculinity and homophobia, not dangerous ideals and values. Nope, just each other. I always side-eye people that use black-on-black crime as a deflection from the very real and problematic injustices Blacks face in the U.S. (and honestly, the fact this term exists is in and of itself a deflection, but that's a story for another day), but sometimes I really have to stop and think whether or not they have a point.

Why is it that we feel so emboldened to further damage our own community and harm each other, rather than work together and build each other up? XXXTentacion, even with his long list of terrible choices, was just beginning to try to change the narrative of rap and bring positivity into the game, all to be rewarded with death and violence. Death and violence from a young man who could probably relate to him in a multitude of ways. We have to stop the violence. We're already being killed (literally and figuratively) by the system. Let's not help speed up the process.

I'm also sick and tired of people being fake. It seems that social media has bred a new generation of attention-seeking, ego-feeding narcissists, and celebs are the worst of them all. I've known X's music for a long time (and listened to it for a while, until I realized he was colorist and an abuser). So I was around when people, especially other celebrities, made fun of him for being "weird," for looking like a "demon," and for being a "woman abuser." I was there when people dragged him and placed him in the same category as all of the "mumble" and "SoundCloud" rappers.

XXXTentacion was not respected when he was alive, but boy oh boy, everyone online is so quick to call him a legend and exclaim how he inspired them.

Now listen, I'm not going to say that these celebs are lying and that they weren't genuine fans... But where was their love and adoration for him when people were making fun of him? Where were they at when people said his music was weird and only for edgy white kids? I love that musicians like Kanye West, Chris Brown, and The Game can claim that XXXTentacion was such a huge influence on them... But they never once recognized him when he was alive. They never once tried to collaborate with him or work on any projects.

And that's tea..

Honestly, it all sounds disingenuous. I am sick and tired of people being bandwagoners. I am sick and tired of people faking sad, angry, or offended simply when it's convenient for them. It seems that nowadays, no one can think or feel a way about something without the approval from others to do so. People change opinions like they change underwear. And honestly, it's damn frustrating. Of course, I don't want anyone to be happy that X is dead. I most definitely don't want them to disrespect his death by calling him names or downplaying his music.

But let's all be honest here: XXXTentacion was not appreciated by the majority of people, and it is offensive to him and his true fans when others try to spin an opposite narrative.

And last but not least, let's not pretend like he was some happy-go-lucky musician with a clean record and respect for everyone. He was not. He was colorist, violent, and immature. He was reckless, and to an extent, it is understandable given how young he was, but I cannot approve of the mass media pretending that his previous actions did not exist, and most importantly, like he wasn't disparaged for it all throughout his career.

Dying doesn't automatically make you a good person.

He was the same person that said, "death to dark-skins."

He was the same person to assault a young woman and then make jokes about the assault, in addition to having his victim's GoFundMe page removed.

It's like the huge ass elephant in the room that no one seems to want to acknowledge. This whole situation reminds me of Amy Winehouse. Remember the talented, yet troubled soul singer who was belittled, mocked, and manipulated all throughout her career, but when she finally died everyone around her tried to pretend like she was some damaged angel that was beyond saving, even though they contributed to her demise in a major way? Yeah, like that.

Admittedly, my perception may be skewed because of the type of media I consume and which blogs I follow, but I remember his scandals were very much a part of his career, and it feels insincere that those who were firmly against him feel the need to flip-flop and disregard everything about him that made them dislike him so much in the first place.

People are so afraid of making others uncomfortable, of addressing the hypocrisies, injustices, and toxic influences that they see on a daily basis. I know that "respect for the dead" is a major contributor to why his problematic past is not mentioned, but I believe that you can respect someone while also acknowledging their faults. All of his faults were actually a huge part of his identity and heavily embedded into his music. We shouldn't pretend they don't exist. Instead, we should use it to open up a conversation.

Conversations about the effect of toxic behaviors perpetuated by celebrities/entertainers that people idolize and look up to. Conversations about how abuse victims are often made to feel responsible for their attack, or whose experiences are outright denied. Conversations about how people can change.

Most importantly when we ignore X's past actions, we ignore that he was at least attempting to make up for them. Older reports of him hosting an event for rape victims and recent speculation that he was hosting a charity event soon in his city, show that he was at least trying to give back to the community. Although not massively supportive enough of his maturation and growth of a person, they were a step in the right direction.

Perhaps he would have righted his wrongs if he was still here, but we must also be honest and acknowledge that XXXTentacion hurt many people, oftentimes without feeling remorse. I am against sugar coating shit and making excuses for people, and death is not an exception. Time and time again, society has more empathy for abusers than for the abused themselves. How many times can we continue to give people a pass for their disgusting actions, simply because they're famous, wealthy, or "artistic geniuses"?

I don't think crucifying him after his death will be particularly helpful, so this is not to bash him but to show that it's OK to talk about people honestly. It's OK to talk about everything honestly.

I hope that the dialogue surrounding his death can be refocused on something else very important in this moment: saving other young people from an untimely and senseless death. Many of us may feel differently about the young artist and what he stood for, but we can all use this traumatic event as a learning experience — so that just for once, something good can come from someone's death.

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10 Rappers Whose Lyrics Will Take Your Instagram Captions To The Next Level

Make your life easy by choosing a caption that's already been written for you.


Finding the perfect caption for you Instagram post is something everyone struggles with. On the contrary, the best rappers in the industry right now seem to have no problem with it. Whether it be Cardi B or Kanye West, you can always count on fire captions. Taken from the rappers themselves, here are the best rap lyrics for Instagram captions.

1. Travis Scott

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  • "It's summertime, why they tryna throw shade?"
  • "Rollin' rollin' rollin' got me stargazin'"
  • "I got 'em stage diving out the nosebleeds"
  • "Anything can happen at the night show"
  • "This right here is astronomical"
  • "Valet park when I pull up in the ride"
  • "Pick up the phone, baby, I know you're home, baby"
  • "Oh my, what a wonderful time"
  • "She said 'where we goin?' I said 'the moon'"
  • "I been up sleepless late nights"
  • 2. Migos

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    • "Walk it like I talk it"
    • "In the kitchen wrist moving like a stir fry"
    • "Put my mind on it, put my grind on it"
    • "We live like sopranos"
    • "Diamonds on my wrist stay drippin"
    • "Addin' up checks, no minus"
    • "I can buy that car, I know that you can't"
    • "No human being, I'm immortal"
    • "Walk in the buildin', they start applaudin'"
    • "Versace, Versace, Versace, Versace"

    3. Cardi B

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    • "I like texts from my exes when they want a second chance"
    • "I went from dollar bills, now poppin' rubber bands"
    • "Why would I hop in some beef? When I could just hop in the Porsche"
    • "You know where I'm at, you know where I be"
    • "These expensive, these is red bottoms"
    • "I don't dance now, I make money moves"
    • "It's not a threat it's a warning, be careful with me"
    • "Poured out my whole heart to a piece of sh*t"
    • "Karma for you is gon' be who you end up with"

    4. Drake


    • "This a Rollie, not a stopwatch, sh*t don't ever stop"
    • "I only love my bed and my mama I'm sorry"
    • "I get it how I live it, I live it how I get it"
    • "No new friends"
    • "Drinking every night because we drink to my accomplishments"
    • "This sh*t got me in my feelings"
    • "With your phone out, gotta hit them angles"
    • "My ex asked me, 'Where you movin'?' I said, 'On to better things'"
    • "My team good, we don't really need a mascot"
    • "Got new money, got new problems, got new enemies"

    5. Nicki Minaj

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    • "Imma keep it moving, be classy and graceful"
    • "In my kingdom, with my Timbs on"
    • "Uh, yo, watch your man, then you should watch your mouth"
    • "At least you took an L off your bucket list"
    • "Defend my honor, protect my pride"
    • "But to live doesn't mean you're alive"
    • "She just mad 'cause he never bought her ice like me"
    • "I fly with the stars in the skies"
    • "They paintin' me out to be the bad guy"
    • "All these b*tches is my sons"

    6. Mac Miller

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    • "My regrets look just like a text I shouldn't send"
    • "Driving with my eyes close, missing all the signs"
    • "I'm a monster with the heart of a lion, divide and conquer"
    • "I got a bone to pick like roses"
    • "I'll do anything for a way out of my head"
    • "Your love is not too kind to me"
    • "Yeah, I got a bad attitude"
    • "No matter where life takes me, find me with a smile"
    • "Imma give you what you came for"
    • "I don't know 'bout you, but me, I'm important, I'm so gorgeous"

    7. A$AP Rocky 

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    • "Same shit, different day"
    • "I got three phones: business, conversation, and relation"
    • "What the face say to the fist?"
    • "I look for ways to say 'I love you', but I ain't into makin' love songs"
    • "Paranoia got me losing all my z's"
    • "Make no mistakes, it's all a leap of faith for love"
    • "She ain't a stranger to the city life"
    • "Can't forget that I'm golden, can't forget where I'm going"
    • "Riding by the rules, I'll abide by it soon"
    • "Ain't a killer so don't kill the vibe"

    8. Kanye West

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    • "Yeah u so mother thick"
    • "Ball so hard, let's get faded"
    • "That sh*t cray"
    • "I'm tripping off the power"
    • "All of my kindness, is taken for weakness"
    • "I'm lookin' for the one have you seen her?"
    • "Don't let me get in my zone"
    • "Let's get lost tonight"
    • "Sun don't shine in the shade, bird can't fly in a cage"
    • "Reach for the stars so if you fall you land on a cloud"
    • "No you're not perfect but you're not your mistakes"

    9. A$AP Ferg

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    • "Gucci down to the socks"
    • "My jewelry glistening why I'm always chilly"
    • "I'm a one night savage"
    • "Put in work, put 'em in the dirt"
    • "Fergy be mobbin' all day"
    • "Ferg is the name"
    • "I'm on a new level"
    • "Don't pray for me pray for the weak"
    • "I was only 8 years old, watching Nick at Nite"
    • "I was fly like a bird"

    10. Lil Wayne 

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    • "Real G's move in silence like lasagna"
    • "I speak the truth but I guess that's a foreign language to y'all"
    • "Okay you're a goon, but what's a goon to a goblin?"
    • "I got some weight on my shoulders, to me it's like feathers"
    • "I am more animal than the zoo allow"
    • "Money talks, bullsh*t walks"
    • "Every night's a long night, every day's a holiday"
    • "I'm a cool cat, but I'm on life nine"
    • "Haters can't see me, nose bleed seats"

    No matter what the occasion, it's always good to have creative Instagram captions on hand. Nobody knows how to make clever captions than rappers themselves. Whether you need creative caption for throwing shade at someone, or you have used only emojis for your past 5 Instagram pictures, rap lyrics make the perfect caption.

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    "Russian Doll" Is Just a Groundhog of Another Color

    Natasha Lyonne stars in the new dramedy that plays off a familiar trope.


    I'm mostly writing this article to prove a friend wrong.

    Haha, what? No, no, no I'm not that petty…okay maybe a little bit. But he's wrong! He's really, really wrong! But maybe we agree on what we're talking about?

    What? You want me to go back to the beginning? I can't—

    Oh, alright.

    So, last week Thursday I had the Netflix original, Russian Doll, recommended to me by no less than three people in a span of four hours. It was good! It was so good! That was the claim they all made, anyways. And they're my friends, after all. I trust them with my TV-watching habits.

    So, I tuned in. That very night. I watched.

    The first episode was good…and that's kind of it.

    Don't get me wrong! In a world rife with uninspired content that doesn't quite hit the mark, it was good. But it wasn't overly so. Not in the kind of preach to the heavens way that my friends had approached me with.

    But I shrugged it off. I kept watching. The episodes were only about a half hour, after all. Surely, it'd get better. Surely, it would reach soaring, post-Icarian heights that man could only dream of. Going where none had gone before.

    But it didn't. It merely stayed good.

    Now, don't get me wrong, that's no small feat. There's plenty of shows that start off good and get the better of themselves as time goes on (looking at you Supernatural). Even as the latest season of Black Mirror is showing us, nothing lasts forever.

    So, I tip my hat to you Russian Doll. To your darkly tragicomic self, a buddy comedy taking direct inspiration from Groundhog Day.

    Wait, Groundhog Day?

    Yes, that's where my friend is indelibly wrong.

    A solid purveyor of the concept that nothing is that original anymore, my friend asserts that apparently Russian Doll is distinctly different from Groundhog Day. Which is utter bologna.

    I am going to describe a piece of media content in this paragraph: A snarky, stressed out, contemptuous fella finds themself stuck in a time loop. Every time they die, the loop resets, putting them back to the exact same singular moment that they first heard the gentle, drifting melody of a slightly too-upbeat pop song. They try to escape the time loop by fleeing, by dying, by doing literally anything they can. That's when they realize it's futile and that they'll be stuck forever, perhaps even erased from existence, unless they can become a better person.

    Now, which product did I describe: Groundhog Day or Russian Doll?

    Truth is, I can't tell either.

    That's not to say there's nothing distinctive about Russian Doll. Natasha Lyonne is wildly funny and I loved the idea of her being trapped with a "partner in crime" in Charlie Bennett's Alan. The setting is obviously different too (New York vs. Punxsutawney) and the character's drug use provides for some trippy fun, there's no denying.

    But in theme, tone, and a lot of jokes, Russian Doll can't escape the shadow of Groundhog Day.

    Hell, even in this review in which they try to avoid talking about Groundhog Day they can't avoid talking about Groundhog Day.

    And for good reason! Groundhog Day is a brilliant movie that condensed a brilliant concept for a generation. It's such a common staple of contemporary culture that the military widely uses the terminology "Groundhog Day" in its slang. Christ, even Congress has preserved it for all time in its library.

    The influence is inescapable and anyone who says differently doesn't know what they're talking about.

    Now, does that mean Russian Doll is unoriginal? Or that nothing Hollywood makes nowadays is all that original? No, of course not. To offer a slight concurrence with my friend, everything really does derive from something. One has to look no farther than Jason Campbell's monomyth to realize the stories that we tell are rarely "original" in the lofty ways that we ideally think about them.

    But the well-worn trope of living in a time loop, unable to escape via death, only via some higher power or greater good, is so thick in Russian Doll that it's similarities to Groundhog Day are particularly noxious. The show would not be evaluated in the same terms today if it had been released in 1992, forever and a day before Groundhog Day premiered. And that matters.

    But Noah, if nothing's original how come you hate Russian Doll more than, say, Black Mirror? Isn't Black Mirror just a reimagining of The Twilight Zone?

    Well, firstly, I never said I hated Russian Doll. I happen to like Russian Doll very much. And Black Mirror certainly can't escape its own history, which is necessarily inclusive of The Twilight Zone. Rod Serling's masterpiece series perfected the spooky, thought-provoking anthology series like nothing else before it. Of that there's no denying.

    I would contend, however, that Black Mirror does not rely on a singular trope to form its core. While Russian Doll isn't Russian Doll without the die, live, repeat gimmick, remove any similar singular element from Black Mirror, say artificial intelligence, and the show still stands. It moves and breathes of its own accord. While both shows are (mostly) masterfully written, Nadia Vulvokov simply plays the drug-addled redhead to Murray's weatherman Phil Connors if they both don't die and live again.

    So call me petty. A hater. A downer. A Debbie downer even. Bottom line? Russian Doll is great. Just not too great.

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