In life, it's inevitable that we will form various types of relationships with different people. Some are friendships, some are professional, and some are with a boyfriend or girlfriend. Some will last and some will fade, but that's just another part of life.
As we've all experienced some type of heartbreak, it's normal to feel abandoned or isolated after a relationships ends. Sometimes, you can even feel this way after you and a friend go your separate ways. But, the way you handle these "breakups" can tell a lot about your character. So, if you're someone that just can't seem to move on, this is for you.
To the girl who can't move on,
You're okay. You will live. It's perfectly normal to feel isolated, abandoned and confused after a relationship ends. Majority of the time, endings aren't meant to be pleasant. Usually, when you begin to feel this way is when you will stop loving yourself. You don't know how to be happy without them. But, you're going to be okay. Life will go on and no, your world will not stop turning just because of a boy, girl, or even a best-friend.
Stop reliving the past.
Stop trying to analyze why someone treated you how you didn't want to be treated. Why they did this is no longer relevant to your life. Trying to fight this old battle is one you'll never win. Don't waste your time rambling on and on about the situation.
Learn to let go.
You can't begin a new chapter of your life if you keep reading the previous ones. Let go of that hurt that you have built up. When your heart is open, light will find it's way in. Don't continue to live in darkness, instead let that light in.
Don't have regret.
Obviously there was a reason why your relationship ended. You should learn from your mistakes and if you didn't like the way they treated you--find someone that will treats you how you want to be treated.
Your past shaped you.
Our previous experiences make us into the person we are today. Whether you let these situations make you into a stronger or weaker person, that's your decision. If you're trying to convince yourself that "you're so much happier." Prove it and stop dwelling on all the negative you say it brought to you.
“There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create." ― John Lennon
I know it can be hard when relationships end and I'm aware that everyone chooses to grief differently. But, for the sake of yourself, let it go and move on to the next chapter of your life. You will be happier in the long run.
