Playing Hard To Get, or Just Hard To Get?

Playing Hard To Get, or Just Hard To Get?

If someone is genuine and wish for their embrace, show them your heart.
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Playing hard to get is quite the tricky dating tactic, but nonetheless, one our generation dabbles in. You’re interested, occasionally, available, sometimes, but yet always intriguing. Does it really work? Are you playing hard to get, or are you just hard to get? Here’s what I think, you’re just hard to get. Playing hard to get never works, but rather is a distraction from the relationship you desire. You’re wasting time playing games with people who are 1) interested in nothing more than your mystique and 2) not worth your time. Playing hard to get makes you mysterious for a little while, until you finally think they're worthy enough to have your heart, and suddenly you're left vulnerable, transparent, and no longer interesting. So it’s simple, if you find yourself having to play hard to get, save yourself the hard part and get far away.

I understand why you play hard to get, let's face it, most people do. It's near impossible to wear your heart on your sleeve in a world constantly rejecting your imperfections. Contrary to popular belief, hiding your heart will not detract from disappointment, or find you the relationship you desire. For it is when we show our true self to others, and only then, that we receive our most intense love from the most permanent people stemming from understanding, and acceptance. Authentic love, in which you will be loved wholly and unconditionally—for the good, the bad, and the downright ugly.

If someone is genuine and wish for their embrace, show them your heart. Put yourself out there amidst the consequences. Because for someone is to be infatuated with you due to your essence of mystery, they aren't seeing you inside-out. They don’t know, nor care, for your heart. And well, a relationship without heart is nothing more than dreadful heartache.

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A Letter To My Best Friend's Future Husband

You're marrying me, too.
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Dear BFF's future hubby,

First of all, congratulations. You've caught one of the sweetest, most beautiful fish in the sea. But I don't need to tell you this. You already know she's a dime plus ninety-nine. Wifing her up is definitely the best decision you've ever made. Our girl (yes, she's mine too) is one of a kind. She's strong, smart and unbelievably caring. Her standards are pretty darn high, so you must be quite the man. If I had to guess, I'd say you're very tall and very handsome. You probably also dress extremely well and drive a nice car. Most importantly, though, I'm sure you're an awesome person who treats my best friend like the princess she is. Now that you two have tied the knot, there are a few things we should get straight.

You married me too.

Sorry to break it to you, but her and I are a package deal. Lucky for you, I rock so this is no biggie. You can expect daily phone calls and multiple visits throughout the week. Some of these visits may result in sleepovers, and some of these sleepovers may be in your bed. Deal with it. You'll learn to love me (almost) as much as you love her.

I'll be your go-to girl.

If you ever need advice or anything of the sort, I got you. I know this girl better than 99% of people so I'll be your main source of info until you reach my level of expertise. It's likely that I played a big part in planning out your engagement so you probably already know how good I am at this kind of stuff. If she's ever upset, call me up and I'll I'll tell you how screwed up and give and how to fix it. If you want to know how to surprise her, I'm your gal. Of course, all of this will be our little secret. You can take full credit for any of the ideas I give you.

If you hurt her, I'll cut your you-know-what off.

I know you won't, but this is something I'm kind of required to say.

I'm so glad she met you.


This is the most important thing I want you to know. I can only imagine how incredibly happy you make my best friend. She doesn't fall in love with just anybody, so I know you're special. You're the one. I can finally stop pretending to be her lesbian girlfriend when creepy guys hit on her at the bar. So thank you. Thank for making her laugh until she cries, for constantly reminding her of her effortless beauty, and for never saying "no" to the pair of shoes she wants. Thank you for proving me right all of those times I promised her there was a guy out there worth marrying.

I can't wait to meet you!

Sincerely,

Your future best friend-in-law

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5 Tips To Surviving A Long-Distance Relationship

Ah, love! The good, the bad, and the unknowns of a long-distance relationship in college.

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There is one thing that the Disney High School Musical franchise got right: the song "Scream" as the epitome of my frustration with AP Calculus and Winston Smith. Unfortunately, breaking out into song in the cafeteria didn't make it to the list. Neither did the portrayal of long-distance relationships! Long distance relationships reflect more of a Harry-Voldemort connection rather than a Troy-Gabriella relationship (see note below).


The end of high school translates to a variety of unknowns (only answered partially by Sharpay's Fabulous Adventure... thanks, Kenny Ortega), including what will happen to existing relationships. Here are some tips to help you keep your sanity in a long-distance relationship:

1. Don't let your relationship take over your college experience

I think that this advice goes for any time in your life while you are in any relationship. Love is great and warm and fuzzy, which makes it so easy to get entangled in. However, college is all about experiencing independence with NEW people; make sure that you don't lock yourself in your dorm room on Facetime every weekend. Most people only get four years of college, so make the most of it.

2. Keep your partner involved in your life

This tip may seem contradictory in context of the last tip, but it's not. While you should be making new and exciting memories in college, you also shouldn't forget the commitment that you made when you decided to stay in a relationship in college. Instead of blocking out your significant other in pursuit of adventure in college or blocking out the adventure of college for love, mix both together! Get an A on an exam or get a new internship? Let your partner know! Make sure to keep your partner in-the-loop of what's happening and what's important in your life.

3. Don't be afraid of letting go of the past

If things start going south and both parties have done everything they can to mend the relationship, don't be afraid to let go. It will be hard because you've known this person for so long and have such a close bond with them, but it is always best to let someone go instead of trying something that you know will not work and making things much worse. Unfortunately, long distance does not always work for everyone, since relationships are not purely formed on love but also a multitude of other factors. Treasure the memories that you have with this person, and if the times comes, let them go so that you can both move forward.

4. Try to stay friends

I truly feel that relationships are deep friendships that are taken a step forward. Through all of the drama, happiness, and stress of the college experience it can be easy to forget that your significant other is also your friend! Don't be afraid to confide in them about your fears and worries of everyday college life. Although long distance relationships do not always pan out perfectly, definitely try to salvage your friendship if it is possible. It is very possible that you guys can work out at a later time and place!

5. Remember why you chose to be in a long-distance relationship

At the end of the day, you chose to be in this relationship despite the hardships involved in long distance relationships. Why? Because you love and care about this person deeply and want to continue your romantic journey with them in your life. Whether your relationship goes the way you hope or not, remember the feelings that you have for your partner because that is what counts.

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year; he is going to Purdue University for mechanical engineering and I am going to Fordham University for political science. Funny enough, my boyfriend bought us a pair of long-distance lamps for college, and they're pretty awesome. The lamps are connected with wifi, and have motion sensors; when one person touches the lamp, the other lamp reflects the colors. It's just an easy way to let the other person know that you're thinking of them.



Unfortunately, I can't predict the future. I don't know if we'll break up after the first week, get married, or anything in between. But what I can do is be grateful for the moments of laughter, shenanigans, and happiness that come with this relationship.

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