Glub glub gone... that's the diction of watery Pisces escaping. One minute you see them, the next minute you don't.

It's a real thing. It happens, even if not completely voluntarily, to us with Pisces in our charts. I have a Venus in Pisces and in ayurvedic astrology, my sign is Pisces. I appreciate this fishlike nature in close relationships which makes sense seeing where Pisces is in the planet, Venus, aka VIP, for the purposes of this article.

Here's a brief recap: Venus exemplifies how an individual typically behaves in love and relationships. It indicates how one might express tenderness and classic conduct. For instance, I identify with positive Pisces' traits like creativity, sensitivity, artistic ability, selflessness, and empathy. I also pick out Pisces' weaknesses like anxiety, too trusting and escapism.

Those who've been abused tend to retreat into another dimension or dreamworld and Pisces can easily get snared by abuse because of they're giving nature. Thanks to the pink shades they wear, they may not recognize maligning characters for a spell. Either way, Pisces can plop where they never saw coming and combining that with their aversion to a conflict makes vacating arduous for them. Pisces selected for abuse most often has a little bit to do with bad luck, being temporarily"out-of-touch" and due to their gentle temperaments that abusers identify as weakness. Their nature of adaptability and transformation is amazing, but the fish needs wisdom and common sense from their counterparts.

Dreams are my favorite part of going to sleep and usually, I have many visions in one night that its impossible to remember every detail. I rely on my dreams and what I see or remember keeping in mind to preserve privacy. They help show me what to do, especially when a partnership isn't working. As I'll mention, when with a Libra, I used to have frightening and recurrent dreams of living in a house that was possessed by scary entities where I was completely unsupported. Once I left him, those nightmares ceased.

Dream and escape are exciting words for a Pisces.

To an outsider, what might appear as a Pisces just up and leaving, if you factor in their astrological ways, the reason is doubtless understandable, reasonable and long-considered. I've never given up easily on a lover but, if I got a message that a situation was severe, I'd heed it as soon as humanly possible. No explanation would be needed as I trust my insights since their track record of keeping me safe isn't perfect, but close.

As I child, I escaped, since resisting wouldn't help, into soap operas and fantasizing about "a perfect world." While growing my love goal was to marry one person and mold them into my only intimate partner. When that didn't occur, I was crushed, so I shut down, burned by the loss. It was ideal and fairytale-like humming,"la la la," in a romance. But...on the other hand... it made me beam. I don't question what would make me immensely happy and go after it. Yet a problem is this: when a Pisces' dream comes crashing down into an ugly reality, it's detrimental to the fish. Imagine every organ collapsing at once inside of your body. That's how it feels, like a natural disaster consuming every corner of your life. However, with encouragement and support, it turns out alright. We can get caught up in fear or negativity which means needing a strong source of conviction to drag us back to possibilities.

This thinking is very unrealistic as VIPs don't love reality. They like dreams and fantasies more. I've got a ton of the earth in my chart as well as water while there are a few places for fire and air. I was born in Aries, but my teacher tells me every time we discuss astrology, "Your energy is Taurus."I've come to accept this, even though it's not documented as factual. Relying on what feels true, is a Pisces' virtue. There is one catch with love which is that when it comes to dating, I wear acutely pink and rose-hued glasses as I defy what's real and embrace what could be.

See the world through rose-colored glasses like the fish.

Like it or not, when I'm feeling someone, they involuntarily float into my mental conceptions. They are a big part of me as I've taken time to imagine and construct a personal pinnacle of bliss. I can see whether or not a man might fit in there, or even a career or domicile. I'll look for if a person is able to hang out in an elevated dimension without damaging my pretty landscapes or if an employer supports the idea of otherworldliness. If it's a green light, I'll faithfully put my trust into that thing, person or idea and assume they'll see the experience as I do. To me, love and life is a complicated dance of spirituality, vibes, intellect, and emotion.

I expect exactly what I give in close relations: trust, honesty, openness, and light. Unfortunately, when, not if I discover a betrayal or sense danger, that tiny moment then becomes the first second of a ten-second timeframe that leads to my disappearance. There are people all over this planet nodding in agreement after reading that.

No meetups or explanations, a Pisces went from their life. just like that. I know this about myself, but it amazes me how many people never see it coming which I chalk up to not thinking I was bright or that my giving nature was used. That's something I'd never dream to do, so it unconscionable for me to perceive that others do it for fun.

Pisces are magnets for vile and evil forces because of an inner divinity that only someone nefarious could despise. Yet, for the most part, people seem to love and appreciate Pisces' loving nature. Moody, yes, but all things like that are fleeting which the fish knows. They can ride out feelings until they pass. Pisces can be naive or too trusting which can work against them until they learn how to have an innocent heart, while still understanding that this organ needs protection at all times, probably more than any other sign.

My rational earthy side gets reality in work environments. I like schedules, knowing what to expect and details. Also, I know right from wrong and don't pause to get into anything personal while remaining focused on the tasks at hand.

If I owned my own school or business, I'd be very selective in who I hired to work for me. I'd take their history into account and I'd be very cautious. The same goes with money and investments. However, my watery side would likely overlook a minor issue or two, after doing the rational work, especially if this person were sincere or downtrodden. If we're talking about love life or even close friends, my selection process has been terrible in that department which is sad and also...very Pisces. One of the reasons for that is the tendency to feel for everybody and being selfless in a quest to connect.

Pisces fall in love or infatuate themselves rather easily on the idea of "being in love." They don't always see a person for who they are in real life which can hurt them when they discover they were wrong or attached to disloyal people. This is not to say that Pisces aren't cautious. I think we are, as far as our insights can guide us, but we are also easily deceived. What might look like a good attribute might really be a mask or fake and it takes time to see others for who they truly are. If we've invested more than we can handle, this can be a handicap. Others constantly attempt to pull stuff over on Pisces that it seems like a lot of time is spent running away or scanning for dangers. Being injured repeatedly can also ensure a fish will struggle with trust.

As a VIP, I've been duped and it was like a knife to my jugular. Most of the time, I got away, but at least once, I failed. We're very sensitive to elements like food, water, pollution, and medication. Anyone of those things can throw us into peril unwittingly. More than one of those things happening at the same time can get us killed. Call it gullibility if you want, unless a girl with VIP has an imposing, masculine force around her, she is likely to be misled over and over. This costs a fish as the more she is misled, the more she loses hope and a sense of purpose.

A brand new start would appear fruitless afterward, like having been tarnished by bad love. This leads to depression and feelings of low self-worth. It would be fair to say that an ideal match for a VIP would be to someone who is accepting, honest and nonjudgemental about the unusual way that a Pisces exists while tolerant of their past. My teacher who is oddly enough a Pisces himself is a great guy, and a lot sharper than I am. I'd never have thought a Pisces could be so strong and fierce, but he's also got a lot of fire placements in him. If there is one thing that I know, it's that I will never be misled by another man for as long as I live because of him. My advice would be to pair up with someone like that if you have VIP or Pisces in your chart.

I was a bit confused about my astrology, as my sun sign made no sense. I liked dating, especially the romance part, but I didn't date often. My decisions were based on gut instincts and what I felt; like nuances. I felt emotion all of the time plus I'm intuitive and sensitive. I notice everything and pay special attention to honesty, respect, and open-mindedness. I'd pretty much give anybody a shot, which I thought was a great thing. And I've concluded that is a great thing, but maybe not in love or friendships.

While I may not have known why some dude gave me a bad vibe, if he ever did, I would faithfully trust that. I did get persistent and troubling feelings, in circumstances, but in one fleeing wasn't an option. I stayed and hated every moment trying to help a monster. It was one of the worst periods of my life, but as I'll discuss, Pisces look for an option that causes the least amount of injury, even if that injury is all on them. It was scarier to take a gamble and possibly get seriously wounded, then allow my natural born instinct to swim off to reign, so I waited for as long as it took. I knew it worked because this person was enraged when I did leave. He didn't see it coming, but it had been inevitable. Most of my energy was used on not giving it away, which believe me, was very exhausting. Pisces like to play our cards close to the vest and we need time to decide what to do, especially when we are scared. If a Pisces is traumatized, severely, it can be equivalent to ruinous. They will need to be sure that wherever they end up after a frightening ordeal is secure and if they have no support, they may be unable to find the will to keep going in their normal manner. Their optimism might be replaced with hopelessness and despair. Without a safe place to go to, a fish might remain in an undesired spot since it guarantees their survival and even if it goes against their wishes. The choice as they see is to stay alive and relatively intact or take a risk that could cost them something very important. That may be why they remain in bad places. Lucky Pisces, have strong and aggressive friends who aren't afraid of danger or confident enough to take someone on who is threatening them. If there's one thing most fish aren't it's imposing and in-your-face. However, they need to learn that sometimes it's required to be forceful if it means preservation.

Outside of that entrapment, a guy could be amazing, hot and successful, but if something felt off about him, even in the slightest, I'd be out the door, like, "Where'd she go?" I can see how that might dismiss many potential situations without really giving it a try. But as stated, the gut instinct is what guides a fish. We don't know why we get a bad feeling, but we don't really want to stick around and find out either. In love, money doesn't matter at all. We look for a man who can provide for basic needs while protecting and encouraging us. I legitimately mean this when I say,"I'd rather be happy in love and poor, then wealthy, unhappy and not in love." In fact, I'd rather be alone unless I'm happy in love. Tall order? Absolutely, since we need a person with real emotional depth, not just a dude with a flashy car and a big house who doesn't wish to love. I'd rather someone who is deep, thoughtful, caring and kind over a person with wealth, fame or popularity. For me, love means "real basics" like: mean what you say, act with care, honor that bond and be devoted to it. We live for it and want someone who appreciates, respects and ideally wants that as well.

A vibe around a person can be visible to Venus in Pisces and unseen by every other sign.

I run from signals that feel strange and acutely aware of the slightest adjustments in others when I go out in public. If someone is standing a little too close or giving me a weird sensation, I jump aisles. Then, I'll wait and go back once it's calm.

Unlike the pickiness I'd utilize in perhaps hiring a nanny for my children or for someone who would work for me, in love relationships, I have always tended to be less selective in the degree of standards. So, if a guy was great and I knew he'd never harm me, but he had a blemish or two in his past, I'd look past that. I'm not the kind of girl who would ever hold someone's past against them realizing that everyone makes mistakes and that when we are young, we are oftentimes dependent on others or helpless to a certain degree because that's what I would want someone to do for me.

When I met the first guy I loved, a Capricorn, I had fields of flowers and joyful images in my mind. There were rainbows and beautiful music playing in the background. We were from diverse backgrounds, but I thought that could be overcome. To me, love superseded all of that.The song that sums up a Pisces thoughts in love for me is the Beatles, "All You Need is Love."

I started dating "J," a Scorpio, one of the few coworkers who I've dated, years ago and the connection was wonderful. J took me to a rooftop restaurant where a cold breeze whipped by and took the sheer shawl I had on over a spaghetti strap dress off of my shoulder. J then lightly picked the cloth back up and placed it right back on my shoulder without losing his train of thought. Meanwhile, I was starry-eyed and floored by his distinct but subtle masculinity. When he ditched my birthday party before that, I was majorly disappointed and thought I hid it well from the few friends who were there. Later, they must have relayed that info to J because the next morning I got a text begging me to let J take me wherever I wanted to go that day.

R, a female coworker, who is a Capricorn, found out about me and J and she informed me that she had been having a relationship with him at the same time. At that moment, J walked right past my office door and the two of us females were staring back, with me having just realized he was seeing us both. I normally smiled when I saw J, but not that day. That must have freaked him out as he looked back like he sensed something. So, he kept quiet and dashed away.

Love is what we love.

R complained, "All J cares about is music! That's all he has time for!" It was true that music meant a lot to J, but that was one of the things I loved most about him. I comprehended how important being a musician was to J and laughed her attempt to get me to gang up on him off. Sadly, J retreated and while I believed R.

Glub glub gone.

Pulling back and gazing from afar, I wasn't 100% convinced and eventually told J what R had told me. His response," R lied. We weren't having a relationship at the same time." After that, I felt stupid and I imagine J felt stupid. We both simultaneously had been orchestrated against one another by at least a few and that really stunk. I more than him, at least I think, was pleased to know the truth and it cleared up so much doubt and negativity as well as built trust.

Years later, J apologized and we're on friendly terms. I'll always appreciate who he is deep down and know that if he wasn't making music, he wouldn't be acting true to himself. He could have loved anything, I'd have supported whatever mattered to him. That's how I am when I really care for somebody, which is very typical of VIPs. We do love, in an all-encompassing and accepting fashion.

Consider the entire galaxy when viewing astrology, not just sun signs.

Most of the things said about my sun sign don't apply to me. For example, a Venus in Aries woman is everything I'm not. If a situation came along where someone was to show me an insecurity in love, that would likely endear me more than it would ever repel me. I like doing new things sometimes, but I don't get an after-rush lull from being in a new relationship. I get comfortable and hardly bored when I like someone. Although a hint of the take-charge of an Aries would benefit Pisces in distress, as well as, Aries' ability to face challenges. That has always been hard for me and not a delight, unlike your standard rams, I suppose.

What I first thought when R approached me was how she wouldn't be a great girlfriend for J anyway if she was envious of what he loved. That's how I viewed what she did for a while and I took her word for it. Most people who aren't VIP would have seen through that right away but, I missed it for a long time and it obviously interfered with me and J. Now, I'd tell J right away when someone was starting trouble and give him the opportunity to explain himself before fleeing and since we had an established connection. If it weren't for that though...Glub glub gone. Fool us once, well, ok. Try it again or get found out, the trust is lost.

I have a Cancer ascendant, Venus in Pisces, and several earth placements in my chart. I'm still learning where everything falls, plus what it means. Now that I know my Taurus influence, I see why I understood and respected my first Capricorn boyfriend's needs to be traditional. However, my Pisces and water side was devastated that he wouldn't even consider departing from that. We were meant to be "in my mind" and it took a long time to get over that letdown. In the aftermath, he was unkind which reinforced the ache. A few years ago, we briefly reconnected when he explained that he pushed away those he shouldn't have. He didn't explain why, but I got what he was saying which was one of the reasons we did alright together. He was uncomfortable expressing himself emotionally, but I could sense what he felt anyway.

His stubbornness about the things that mattered to him would never change. I was very adaptable and accommodating as I usually am in relationships. To me, background didn't matter. The only thing that mattered was love.

VIP heartbreak comes when a love interest begs to differ with an idealized vision. If a guy says, "You must be this or that to date me" that's really harsh to VIPs as we see possibilities, not restrictions. With the concept of love, the options out there are infinite.

Pisces constantly change depending on their environment. The key is that I don't ever do that in order to deceive anybody; I do that in order to feel comfortable. My desire to be unabrasive or avoiding conflicts is a way to keep the peace wherever I go. Peace and harmony mean a great deal to me and all Pisces. There is no area more ultimate for that as in our family and love relationships. If our family life is a mess, know that we are miserable about it.

Elusive and fish-like is a Pisces manner of love.

Most relationships I've had ended well. There was no big spectacle or fanfare, it was short and sweet. The biggest indication of a split might have been lingering feelings on my part, thus lots of escaping and daydreaming, but Pisces' flexibility allowed me to move on and flow into a life where a person was no longer a part of it with ease.

I knew I'd really grown when my Capricorn ex-boyfriend was married with kids and I was genuinely happy for him. I wasn't mad, jealous or sad like I could see what he had wanted the entire time and he achieved it. A conventional side is what I needed when I withdrew from being online pals with him. I wanted to stay distant out of respect for his wife and family while the water side of me thought being friends with an ex online was fine. Luckily, the rational side won that battle.

After him, love got better while losing its immaculate appeal. Since Capricorn was my first love, the hardest thing I had to come to grips with was my fairytale of just one Prince Charming not coming to fruition. I dated a Cancer guy and we got along really well. No man had ever been so accepting of my emotions and it was a huge relief. It's an example of not knowing how much you might need a certain characteristic of a boyfriend because once I received it, I never wanted to go without it. Things were vastly simpler and cozier. He helped me out, taught me a few things and was centered. While most guys I've encountered run for the hills at the thought of "feelings."

Cancer and I dated for a few months when I volunteered to drop him off at his home since he lived in another time zone. We had been driving for hours and it was the middle of the night when we pulled over in the Nevada desert. I must have been grumpy because I got flustered and stormed off in a store parking lot. I sat down on a curb where Cancer could see me. When I felt the strong emotion coming on, from out of nowhere, I liked to excuse myself because I don't like to show tears or frustration in front of others. That's when my Cancer ex actually got into my car and drove directly over to me. I was thinking, "Oh great! He's going to be mad," as I was trying to quietly work out, in a publicly acceptable way, my emotions. Thus there is my eternal struggle, finding a way to handle impassioned conflict appropriately.

I felt a rush of relief when Cancer calmly approached me and showed that he wasn't mad. By that time, I had already begun to placate myself and was happy he had no hard feelings. He was one of the first men I had met who wasn't afraid of my emotions. That was when I realized how important it was for me to be with someone who wasn't afraid of the feelings that terrified me. I needed a person who would not judge or think them unacceptable. I'd seen too much of that coldness by my mother, so I really didn't want to go on like that. To an extent, I'll always be fearful of dark thoughts, even though, they happen. They make me panic which is when... Glub glub gone... occurs.

She's got flowers in her hair, with sunbeams all around.

This ideal picture in my head of the perfect fairytale is nice as it's helped me to remain positive, forward-looking and hopeful. I had a tough upbringing, but what kept me going was "someday" and how it would be perfect and fill me with love. That was why I hung on through so much hell.

There have been some short-lived encounters where I got used and they sucked. My heart had begun to open, riigghht around the time a dude hit the eject button. What I did in those circumstances was the same; I vanished. As a VIP, it feels like being tricked whether artificially or otherwise. In a couple events, the guy withheld his feelings and the good vibes I experienced with him, which gave me permission to give him a chance in the first place felt played upon. That wasn't much better from being physically harmed necessarily, it hurt in another way that felt low, unfair and one-sided. I can't stand that type of selfishness in another person feeding off the goodness of another. If you're gonna play games at least play them with someone who wants to play alongside you. Don't play on the impressionable and tender Pisces, who'll do everything with full heart, unless you really honor what you claim.

Pisces can receive a lot of abuse and they are the last planetary sign to deserve such meanness. Coping comes down to avoiding bullies, toxic people, and triggers which remind of any traumas. It can become a huge inconvenience, but Pisces should do whatever it takes especially if just for the sake of integrity. If there is one thing I'm good at, even while disregarding the times my heart overruled my head in matters of endearment, is that I learn from relationship mistakes. One time is all it takes.

For example, if I met a Capricorn guy today, I'd already know how he'll likely behave in regards to emotions with someone like me. I doubt I'll date one again unless he's got a good deal of water in him as well.

The Pisces escape is a survival thing. Once I've grasped that I picked the wrong person or made a blunder with a union, I try to get out as quickly and nicely as I can. There is this eternal quest for a perfect love that plagues us but also motivates us. Had it not been for that vision, even if just an unlikely fairytale-like scenario, my hope would have been nonexistent as a kid. Minus that I might not have worked as hard or tried to advance myself.

In one breakup, this looked like it came out of the blue, but it wasn't random. What I'm essentially getting at is how I left the longest relationship of my life after taking into account and overlooking multiple points over many years that I should never have allowed. They cumulatively had me jumping ship because of their grand-total-effect.

This person was a Libra and we did not mix well together. Amazingly, I stayed for a long time while missing mutual love and respect. I'd have stayed if we'd had that no matter the circumstances, but the constant dripping of things that resembled apathy eventually wore away at my placid surface. This is the same as with Pisces' sensitivities to substances: one issue is possible to overcome but many circumstances are enough to warrant removal.

When we were dating, this Libra became infatuated with a girl where he worked and immediately, I noticed a change and became distrustful. He started inviting "E" to drive with him over long distances and out to clubs after work. I didn't like that at all as I thought he was being passive aggressive in order to hurt me and I was aware that he was acting with intent, another thing I really dislike.

How Libra refused to be honest about things made me really unhappy too. I'd have handled the truth just fine, had he been upfront, which is compliments of my earth signs and reasonability. Perhaps, the Libra in him made him more pliable than I thought was required to "be with someone" and caused some resentment. Pisces are sacrificial and one of the things we give up is our ability to just flirt with whoever or date around when part of a pair.

One night Libra wanted to go out with E and some coworkers and sort of included me. It would be late and he also knew I didn't like going out late. Instead of feeling like I had to go, I told him that I was staying at home and told him to enjoy himself. It was midnight when we spoke.

We're hesitant of risks while observing which choices are right for us.

I wanted to see what Libra would do when given a choice between me or going out with E. I truly hoped he would select me that night, but he didn't. I had faith, blind at that, that he'd do right by me, a VIP trait. Then, around 2 a.m., I went to bed knowing that the bars would be closing soon.

When I woke up at 3 a.m., Libra was missing so, I called him and there was no answer. Bad feelings started cropping up as I waited while trying to reassure myself from concern. When he got home, it was after 4 a.m. at which point, I was already up. He might have been hurt, but, he was fine. I asked him where he had been and he said he'd been at the bar with E and a friend past close on a Saturday night. I mentioned that they closed at 2 a.m. when he claimed that they were allowed to stay that night. Yet, I didn't buy that. It was the law to close at 2 a.m. and bars are, if anything, really good about kicking people out at closing time. I also didn't know any bartenders who wanted to stay open for two additional hours without wanting to go home.

He had an auto-reply for every question until I asked him why he didn't answer his cell phone. This was when he began to act really strange. I've seen this "freak-out" tell with guys before and it usually involves the mention of another female by a romantic interest. Libra started holding his cell in the air and acted like the phone, that I'd given him, wasn't working. He walked away and outside the apartment while pointing the device at the night sky. I stood on the balcony watching him being dishonest; entertained at the attempt to bamboozle me. My sacrificial nature has gotten me in unpleasant spots before. Sacrifice is an attribute that is wonderful in Pisces, but it also makes them targets for deceitful people. This point is born from a need to comfort or assist others, not to appear an easy mark. But pitifully, that is what it oftentimes comes down to when forcing a Pisces to change.

For example, in high school, a friend of mine cut her toe on an object one night and was crying. She's a Cancer and without a second thought, I stuck my toe out and cut it so she wouldn't be alone. It made no sense and I wouldn't do that today, but the motivation to share in another person's suffering, especially someone I cared for, made me overextend and do anything to make things better. With this particular energy, I have to really work at not letting people take advantage of my good intentions.

I didn't really know "E" as we'll call her. She smoked cigarettes and drove a red Corvette. That night Mr. Libra likely cheated on me, but I didn't know for sure. I chose to look past what I couldn't prove, but still felt in my core. Not listening to your core is a critical mistake for Pisces as it should rule every decision when dealing with attachments since it encompasses all of the spirit, mind, and heart.

E was a smoker, but I wasn't.

The times I really f-ed up in love and life was when I trusted my heart only or my mind only. Unless they were all in agreement, it never worked out well for me. And when I stayed, in the least desirable scenario, it was because I escaped reality. That being: Libra might be unfaithful and slept with a co-worker while I was going to school and earning my master's degree, keeping a home and taking care of many responsibilities. That left me feeling unloved, taken for granted and lied to. There was this pulse going through my veins, "he doesn't really love you," at the time. That had to have been partially from my core, but, I had no proof, yet spiritually I knew something happened. Too insecure to claim that of what I knew but didn't really "know," when I left years later, I used that type of info and have come to terms with how that appeared. What I did was understandable, but the way I did it wasn't so awesome which was because of my VIP.

Add to, my dad had an affair and it preceded the dissolution of my parent's marriage. I think I was trying to prove that a pairing could work out after infidelity and wanted to attempt something that my parents failed at. I thought it could be prevented or worked out if they loved each other enough. Remember,"All You Need is Love."

What I thought was love towards this Libra was really loyalty and insecurity. I was faithful to my role and him, but not strong enough in knowing who I was as a person. He wasn't going to help me find myself either and rather than growing towards him, as I became to appreciate who I was, I began to grow farther away from him. I never spoke of what happened to anyone before because I can't stand kissing and telling. Also, I haven't a malicious bone in my body. This happened years ago, then E moved and we moved.

My ex-was flirtatious and unreliable. He was one way around me and someone totally different around everyone else. I didn't like that, mainly because I saw where it could lead. No matter how hard I tried, whenever I thought of us, I'd see a few decades into the future and how it had played out badly. I felt like he would eventually saddle me with kids and burdens. Then, he'd let me take care of everything that needed to be taken care of. Eventually, he'd go off with a friendly co-worker or a single mother of some kid he worked with. Maybe, he didn't see his gravitational pull, but I did. Also, he'd done it before. If we were married when that happened, I doubt I would have let it go. Because we were dating, I didn't label it as the end that it should have been. Either way, he wasn't happy and sleeping around wasn't going to make things better. He did that after dating me for two years. How's he going to avoid that for our whole lifetime? Must be the earth in me mixed with the insight of water that made that appear a certainty and that I'd be the fool for seeing it yet still remaining.

Also, I got the suspicion that he got close to E by saying things about me that were unfair like that I was unstable or that he really wanted to break up with me. That was him mislabeling my emotions because he was very icy whenever I experienced them. That was also him discussing things with E that he refused to discuss with me.

If I'd truly been a whacko, he tried to capitalize on that willingly by using exaggeration and misdirection with others and tacking my insecurities, when dealing with emotion, to erroneous causes. That was cold-hearted since it was a deep-rooted fear that I worked diligently at managing. It was also a side that I had a tough time accepting and he insinuated my very aura, that kept me safe and provided maturity, was defective. Maybe it needed improving, that I can agree on, but summarizing it as awful, as a VIP, that is no less than insulting.

This picture represents paradise for a Venus in Pisces.

For him, the end justified the means in every scenario. Conniving and cruel, which are definite Pisces' turnoffs, Libra neglected my good qualities and emphasized what he saw as bad qualities. Perhaps, he didn't get them, but that was a conflict in our connection. The right person for me may not get everything about me, but they will at least attempt to understand and relate. They'd also never exploit an insecurity for profit.

My earth side stoically resisted that indecency. Libra never talked to me about any unhappiness he was experiencing but I could sense things. I would have tried to help him out, but as much as he seemed uncertain about his direction in life, he seemed very sure that he didn't want to accommodate or defend me either. It was a gut feeling that he'd never be fair about a split, so that compelled me to avoid one until I could no longer do so. Although my tactics weren't the best, my reasons for leaving him were solid. Once I got to know him and saw glimpses about how he operated, I liked him less and less. I knew a parting wouldn't be easy, but I did what felt true and upright.

By the time, things in my life began to improve, he came around. Yet, he seemed desperate, not devoted. By then, his previous bitter and hateful ways had extinguished any desires I formerly had. The deck had shifted and Libra didn't want to lose power more than anything, as he refused to consociate. This made him appear cold-blooded, lacking real warmth or tenderness.

He cared about what other people thought a little too much which I know wasn't about love and if it isn't loving, I have no time for it. I did tell Libra that I wanted him to be happy. He seemed to want that but didn't seem to want a real love like I did. He'd have been happy in a marriage of convenience, whereas, I would hate that.

Libra didn't appreciate me, so like Pisces, I jumped ship knowing he wasn't my true north. I thought in doing so I'd be freeing him up to find whatever it was that he wanted in life which I saw as a gift and caring. In a way that is exactly what I was saying about myself. I was conveying, "You deserve to be truly happy, yet so do I. If we part, we'll both have a genuine shot at finding that."

Rather than run from uncomfortable feelings I used them as an impetus to do the right thing. Some may have thought I bailed which is why I took heat. Being an unrealistic Pisces, I thought that others would automatically know that if I left, it was for good reason and it surprised me when that didn't happen. I carried misdeeds stoically, giving him multiple chances, but eventually knew where the road was going to stop. Expectations aside, I couldn't put myself or anyone through that. I could see I was reliving a dysfunction that I swore to avoid.

This quote, "Pisces spend the entire relationship depleting their own reserves of energy to help their partners improve their lives. In some cases, Pisceans will build up their partners' confidence, only to have their partners leave them for other relationships," is what I felt inside while with him and with many dissolutions. I couldn't make the situation any better and would have loved to if possible, but Libra refused to budge. When referencing this break up I thought,"If he had shown the slightest degree of passion towards me, like the kind that would cause him to stay out until 4 a.m. with another woman, I'd have stayed."

And all these years I'd have been happy if he had merely thanked me for doing what he was too chicken to do. If he'd done that I would have seen no point in mentioning his infidelity. But because of how he acted so pissed off, pious and wronged by my leaving while showed no mercy in allowing me to move on in peace, I felt it required. Didn't he realize that he could dish it out but not take it? How did he think I felt about being cheated on, misrepresented and misled? It would have been f-ed up if I'd stayed in that toxic dance. I accepted that and thus, I went....Glub glub gone. That should have been "our" final moment.

For most of my life, what I wanted in love wasn't what I got. I was either too shy to make a move or trapped in fantasy. Meanwhile, my real life relations resembled the middle of the road, uneventful and even degrading at times. I'd like to go back and do it all over again. But, then again I wouldn't be where I am today if I did that.

This escapism that is never graceful or planned might help Pisces in dire circumstances, but many times I've used escaping as a mask over something that frightens me. I'm not saying that is a great thing as Pisces need to learn how sometimes escaping things that shouldn't be lugged isn't as much of a sacrifice of duty as it is a punishment, which Pisces need to be alert to and avoid. If I could I'd rewrite some history to when Libra and I had that 4 a.m. talk. I'd have taken a deep breath and said the following:

"I don't believe you and I'm not sure why. Maybe someday I will know. But, lying... cheating ...even if only emotionally, isn't love. That's games and playing. And, I like to reserve that for a man who takes me seriously and respects everything I bring to the table and doesn't like me mainly for where I grew up or who my family is. Rather than hopelessly wishing that you will come around, I'm going to pack up and leave. I don't know where I'm going or what I'll be doing next, but I don't think spending my time with you will make either of us better people. I'm also not interested in an all-out war, so why don't we both put this behind us. I won't make problems for you. Please don't make them for me. If you do that will rock my peace and that is one thing I will defend until I get it back."

That's what I thought was conveyed when we broke up, but clearly not.

VIPs and Pisces are terrific people, but they need to be very careful not to get attached to evil partners. They'll need a plethora of support from a protective source that will keep their rose-colored glasses from blowing up in front of their eyes. If you don't have one of those yet, my best tip is to tell people you're waiting for the right kind of commitment before getting physically involved. Once we do that, it is harder for us to peel away. That will help weed out those who aren't worth your time and likely save Pisces from being someone's toy. That's the biggest psychic downfall for VIP while their capacity to love is their biggest advantage.

Regrettably, it is in the nature of the fish to disappear and escape as a means to make sense of something or to sort out their emotions. Usually, it's the delivery which can be confused with desertion or even drama. People should take the time to understand this innate nature of Pisces, for it will be appreciated, and comprehend that Pisces seek to aid, never harm. In fact, violence is very difficult for us as well as standing up to vengeance.

Assume that if a Pisces evaporated on a loved one, job or event, it was likely because they determined it would be less harmful to all if they did that. Pisces value harmony, happiness, and affection. If they could give the world anything, it would be those things because that is what a Pisces gives when they love and care about something.