Why Phoebe Buffay Is The Best Friend
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Why Phoebe Buffay Is The Best Friend

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Why Phoebe Buffay Is The Best Friend

If you live in America in the 21st century, it is more likely than not that you have seen at least one episode of Friends. As for me, I've seen each episode no less than a few dozen times. I started watching when I was young and would sit in the living room while my parents were watching TV, and I eventually got the DVDs and watched the whole series from start to finish. Although as the sarcastic, awkward, self-deprecating one of the group I identify as a Chandler Bing, I have also always had a soft spot for another character: Phoebe Buffay. Chandler may be the fan favorite, but Phoebe is unequivocally the best character on the show, and here are a few reasons why:

1. She's not afraid to admit that she doesn't have it all figured out.

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2. She's multi-talented.

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3. She has an awesome sense of style.

[rebelmouse-proxy-image https://media.rbl.ms/image?u=%2Ffiles%2F2016%2F07%2F02%2F636030839750805182-113495459_636029810809118971631898748_giphy-2.gif&ho=https%3A%2F%2Faz616578.vo.msecnd.net&s=437&h=a0628fab335379679c4c035f94eca1afc6155d3299f5053fe52399bf785eee43&size=980x&c=6654575 crop_info="%7B%22image%22%3A%20%22https%3A//media.rbl.ms/image%3Fu%3D%252Ffiles%252F2016%252F07%252F02%252F636030839750805182-113495459_636029810809118971631898748_giphy-2.gif%26ho%3Dhttps%253A%252F%252Faz616578.vo.msecnd.net%26s%3D437%26h%3Da0628fab335379679c4c035f94eca1afc6155d3299f5053fe52399bf785eee43%26size%3D980x%26c%3D6654575%22%7D" expand=1]Phoebe's fashion sense is...unique, to say the least. Pigtails are always an option, pretty much any combination of colors works and accessories made out of pom-poms are commonplace. She even makes her own shoes!

4. She's funny when she doesn't mean to be.

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Sure, she's no Chandler Bing--but that doesn't mean she isn't just as hilarious. Instead of having a dry, witty sense of humor or making fun of her friends all the time, Phoebe's own genuine musings are often what get the laughs. This sort of honest humor makes for a very charming individual and a great friend.

5. She survived a horrific childhood.

[rebelmouse-proxy-image https://media.rbl.ms/image?u=%2Ffiles%2F2016%2F07%2F02%2F636030839752046052-1501467787_636029816135608257-932404365_giphy-4.gif&ho=https%3A%2F%2Faz616578.vo.msecnd.net&s=882&h=e6d543920aaf078561d55db59b1cbe64815e2e9db98d18a5810237bcc2dde054&size=980x&c=1163995875 crop_info="%7B%22image%22%3A%20%22https%3A//media.rbl.ms/image%3Fu%3D%252Ffiles%252F2016%252F07%252F02%252F636030839752046052-1501467787_636029816135608257-932404365_giphy-4.gif%26ho%3Dhttps%253A%252F%252Faz616578.vo.msecnd.net%26s%3D882%26h%3De6d543920aaf078561d55db59b1cbe64815e2e9db98d18a5810237bcc2dde054%26size%3D980x%26c%3D1163995875%22%7D" expand=1]Phoebe alludes to her troubled background many times throughout the series. We learn that after her mother (who turns out to have adopted her at birth) kills herself, Phoebe lives on the streets for many years before presumably moving in with Monica and getting a job as a masseuse. Despite having such a terrible upbringing, Phoebe still remains the most positive out of the group and seems to have adopted the "what doesn't kill me makes me stronger" mantra very well.

6. She's a humanitarian.

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7. She's spontaneous.

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8. She's selfless.

[rebelmouse-proxy-image https://media.rbl.ms/image?u=%2Ffiles%2F2016%2F07%2F02%2F63603083975347001440650717_636029823158502828-1646747296_giphy-7.gif&ho=https%3A%2F%2Faz616578.vo.msecnd.net&s=862&h=95527722aa0bfd7cf7af42b414b3eac291c7e992d083295a51cc2b54ff0bf3e8&size=980x&c=2200615649 crop_info="%7B%22image%22%3A%20%22https%3A//media.rbl.ms/image%3Fu%3D%252Ffiles%252F2016%252F07%252F02%252F63603083975347001440650717_636029823158502828-1646747296_giphy-7.gif%26ho%3Dhttps%253A%252F%252Faz616578.vo.msecnd.net%26s%3D862%26h%3D95527722aa0bfd7cf7af42b414b3eac291c7e992d083295a51cc2b54ff0bf3e8%26size%3D980x%26c%3D2200615649%22%7D" expand=1]If the characters from Friends really existed, Phoebe would be your most loyal friend who always has your back no matter what. She always finds ways to help her friends and family in small ways, like trying to teach Joey French, or in big ways, like being a surrogate for her half-brother whom she didn't even grow up with.

9. She can stand up for herself.

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