We have all gone through bad times. And we all know others who have gone through rough patches. People deal with grief in different ways – some express their sadness with sobbing, or typing it out on social media, or some bottle up everything. No matter what happens, we all tend to hear the same things from others trying to comfort us.

And when that happens, it doesn't make us feel any better, does it? We actually get annoyed. I can't be the only one thinking this! Here are a few well-intended sayings you may have said (guilty!), but should never again:

1. "Everything happens for a reason."

Fine. But why now? Why does it have to happen to me right now. What is the reasoning behind this? I don't want to hear, "You'll understand one day," because I want to understand now.

2. "God never gives you more than what you can handle."

Really? Does it look like I'm handling this well? I get where you're coming from, but now is not the time.

3. "At least s/he died doing what they loved."

You know what the loved most? Living.

4. "You're so strong. Don't give up."

Nope. I don't want to be strong. I want to cry and crawl in my mother's lap and sob and eat Ben and Jerry's and watch telenovelas. What's wrong with being weak?

5. "I'm sorry."

Oh yeah. Me too. But that's not helping anyone now, is it?

Instead of saying those things, maybe try the following two. Who knows? It may make the grieving person's day and give them hope.

1. "I'm praying for you and I won't leave your side."

This may not make them anymore or any less spiritual. But, for some reason, knowing someone is taking time to pray for you makes you feel better immediately. And having someone that isn't just saying they'll do something but is actually doing it makes the situation much more bearable.

2. "This freaking sucks. Let's go do some Jell-O shots because this isn't going to get better anytime soon."

Sometimes, honesty is simply the best policy.