It Is OK To Outgrow People, That's Just Part Of Life

It Is OK To Outgrow People, That's Just Part Of Life

Growing and changing is a part of life, and sometimes you may lose people along the way, but that is OK.


You are not the person you were a year ago and you are not the same person you were six months ago. Life is all about changing and growing as a person and going through different life experiences. The cool thing about this thing called life is that we each have our own story that is special and unique to us.

No two stories are the same.

As we grow older we begin to find ourselves and what we want out of life. We often like to think that the people we have had around us since we were young, will always be there, no matter what. We hear these stories about people keeping friends from when they were in preschool or kindergarten, and it is okay if that is not the case for you. It is OK to lose people along the way, but not forget the lessons that person has taught you.

I believe that everyone we meet in our lives serves a purpose and teaches us a lesson, whether that lesson is good or bad.

It is OK if you are not friends with someone anymore, or feel like you need to let a friendship go because it is not beneficial any longer. Just because you feel like you need to move on from a relationship, does not make you a bad person, and does not mean that person is not a good person or friend.

Change is scary, because of the fear we all have that we will not be okay or be happy if we change a current situation and we hold ourselves back from experiencing new things. I have heard time and time again that friendships are no longer working out and that things are not like they used to be. Yet that person continues to stay in the same situation because it would be weird to change things and not surround themselves with the people that have been in their lives for so long.

The reason for that is simple, you both changed and grew. Nothing can stay the same forever, and that is something even I struggle with understanding.

Nothing is permanent and nothing is promised.

Sometimes life is great and we grow with the people around us, and sometimes life isn't so great and we begin to drift apart.

Growing and changing is a part of life, and sometimes you may lose people along the way, but that is OK.

Do not make time be the only reason you keep relationships, both intimate and friendship based. If you feel deep down its time to let go, take it as another life lesson and cherish the memories that were made.

Life is a beautiful thing and it important to get as much out of it as you can, and to take all life has to offer.

It is OK to outgrow people.

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To The Nursing Major During The Hardest Week Of The Year

I know that no grade can possibly prove what kind of nurse you will be. I know that no assignment will showcase your compassion. I know that no amount of bad days will ever take away the empathy inside of you that makes you an exceptional nurse.


To the Nursing Major During Finals Week,

I know you're tired, I know you're stressed, and I know you feel like you can't go on. I know that no part of this seems fair, and I know you are by far the biggest critic of yourself. I know that you've thought about giving up. I know that you feel alone. I know that you wonder why in the world you chose one of the hardest college majors, especially on the days it leaves you feeling empty and broken.

But, I also know that you love nursing school. I know your eyes light up when you're with patients, and I know your heart races when you think of graduation. I know that you love the people that you're in school with, like truly, we're-all-in-this-together, family type of love. I know that you look at the older nurses with admiration, just hoping and praying that you will remain that calm and composed one day. I know that every time someone asks what your college major is that you beam with pride as you tell them it's nursing, and I know that your heart skips a beat knowing that you are making a difference.

I know that no grade can possibly prove what kind of nurse you will be. I know that no assignment will showcase your compassion. I know that a failed class doesn't mean you aren't meant to do this. I know that a 'C' on a test that you studied so. dang. hard. for does not mean that you are not intelligent. I know that no amount of bad days will ever take away the empathy inside of you that makes you an exceptional nurse.

I know that nursing school isn't fair. I know you wish it was easier. I know that some days you can't remember why it's worth it. I know you want to go out and have fun. I know that staying up until 1:00 A.M. doing paperwork, only to have to be up and at clinicals before the sun rises is not fair. I know that studying this much only to be failing the class is hard. I know you wish your friends and family understood. I know that this is difficult.

Nursing school isn't glamorous, with the white lab coat and stethoscope. Nursing school is crying, randomly and a lot. Nursing school is exhaustion. Nursing school is drinking so much coffee that you lose track. Nursing school is being so stressed that you can't eat. Nursing school is four cumulative finals jam-packed into one week that is enough to make you go insane.

But, nursing school is worth it. I know that when these assignments are turned in and finals are over, that you will find the motivation to keep going. I know that one good day of making a difference in a patient's life is worth a hundred bad days of nursing school.

Keep hanging in there, nursing majors. It'll all be worth it— this I know, for sure.

So, if you have a nursing major in your life, hug them and tell them that you're proud of them. Nursing school is tough, nursing school is scary, and nursing school is overwhelming; but a simple 'thank-you' from someone we love is all we need to keep going.


A third-year nursing student who knows

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'The Brighter Side’s' Party Game 'Hoopagoogoonunudoodoo' Is An Instant Classic

Podcast "The Brighter Side's" cardless multiplayer game called “hoopagoogoonunudoodoo" ensures you'll never be bored at a party again.


As we grow older, we use less and less of our time to play.

Community games like Truth or Dare, Twister, Never Have I ever, Musical Chairs, and the ever-scandalous Seven Minutes in Heaven are emblems of youth. The function of these games is to listen and share stories with each other. These games are more than just games, they are social tools — so why are they banished to our pasts? Group games allow us to grow closer to one another through laughter and vulnerability in an invested, open environment. These types of bonding activities shouldn't stay in our closets. With few tweaks, games can enable adults to feel not only seventeen again, but genuinely connected.

Having fun and being silly does not always come at the cost of being intellectually relevant. While listening To The Last Podcast Networks "The Brighter Side," I was delighted to stumble upon a recurring segment dubbed "Hoopagoogoonunudoodoo" — Or Hupagoogoo for short. What strikes me about this game is the pure joy it brings not only to its players, but to its listeners.

This game is compelling people to think outside the box while tackling issues micro through macro. It provides genuine problem-solving opportunities which reveal each other's identities and quirks.

Bear with me, the game sounds childish but it contains multitudes. Resembling Cards against Humanity but without the cards, the rules of the game are simple:

1. Each player submits a statement, or set of statements, regarding something that generally sucks.

Examples include "Rain on your wedding day," "The Zombie Apocalypse" and "Getting laid off." The statements are put into a hat, and drawn at random. (You can choose to reveal it was you who wrote the statement... or not).

2. The objective of the game is to critically (or non-critically) decide upon the best brighter side to each awful situation.

Each player has about 30 seconds to pitch their brighter side. Examples include: "The brighter side of rain on my wedding day is everyone gets a free bath because water supply is a precious resource." and "The brighter side to a zombie apocalypse is that we can finally make use of underground bunkers." and "The brighter side to getting laid off is you can now fulfill your dream of joining the circus."

3. A player is chosen as The Decider.

Each turn there is a new decider — this person chooses the answer they feel is best. The Decider decides how many points the question is worth BEFORE judging the answers. They listen to each pitch without interrupting, then decides whose brighter side is the brightest. The decider does not answer their question. At the end of three rounds (where each subsequent round is worth exponential points) a winner of optimism is chosen!

4. This game can be played with, or without adult beverages.

The next time you find yourself feeling awkward or disconnected in a group setting, don't be afraid to propose hoopagoogoo. A mentally stimulating game might be just what you need to learn more about the people around you, and even make a friend or two.

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