This a letter for parents who are about to send their first child off to college.
Dear parents,
It has come to my attention that you have been a bit selfish lately. You have been mentally preparing yourself for months now, because you are sending your child off to college in August. However, it has been brought to my attention by many of my soon-to-be college freshman friends, that you have made this time in your child's life all about you rather than all about your child.
I know this is a difficult time for you. You have watched your child grow up for 18 years now and the thought of them leaving home and no longer needing you is scary, but you need to let go. In August, they will be discovering what it means to survive on their own and support themselves. Let them go while you are still close enough to lend a hand in any direction.
Please, oh please, oh please let your child make their own decision regarding college. I know you're probably in your 40's (or older) and you think that you have this whole thing figured out, but this isn't your life anymore. You have prepared your "baby" for 18 years for this moment. They need to be able to make the decision that impacts the rest of their life. I promise that they know that money is an issue, but don't force them to go to a cheap school or community college because you offered to pay the loans. The loans are in the child's name (unless its the Parent Plus) and they know the financial burden that comes with that, I promise. Let your child choose where they want to grow at the next four years. Just because a community college is free for two years doesn't mean that it's the route for everyone to take.
If your child goes against everything you say, support them at least. They don't need to walk into this scary new journey alone with no one supporting them and telling them they can do it. They're already terrified to become an adult, they don't need the added pressure of not having a support system.
I know this may be hard for some parents, but during this season, please put your student first rather than your own thoughts and opinions, because it isn't your experience anymore.
Sincerely,
A soon-to-be college student
