We all have had those moments of false confidence. Life hits us with a curveball and then we just have to deal with it-betrayal, rejection, bad news, the feeling of being unloved-the list goes on. But when we are given these challenges are supposed to be dealt with. It’s just a part of life. Oftentimes though, society, especially the media, makes us hide our feelings from others. We are all given battles so why should we sulk about it?
Over the years I have learned that this is actually the weak way to approach things. It’s like ignoring the big elephant in the room and saying, “I’m better than that”. Sure that will give you confidence but there’s only so much you can do alone.
Someone once told me that only the weak ones cry. And for the longest time, I totally believed them. But this year I have learned that this approach is so wrong. Crying gives humility. You are only human. No one has these amazing powers to deal with problems without having an emotional effect. You can be the captain of the football team, 300lbs., linebacker. Doesn’t matter. When your significant other is given 3 months to live, you’ll break down about it. And it is okay. This only shows that you are human-you're not above anyone if you choose not to cry.
My question is, where did this idea come from? Why are we always told “don’t cry it’ll be okay”? Or, “don’t worry, God knows what He’s doing”. Me being a Christian, I understand that concept very well but as humans we aren’t supposed to grasp this concept either. It’s beyond us. So it’s okay to question things. Christian, religious, atheist, Jewish, Muslim, black, white, rainbow, it doesn’t matter what our label is. We are all human. We are all different in our appearance and ideals but we are still the same in that we all have feelings and emotions. We may not feel them all at the exact same times but we all have that emotion in our bodies-anger, happiness, jealousy, sadness-it’s all there. So why do we always try to hide them in front of people? Or even hide it from ourselves?
Our least favorite emotion as humans is sadness, in my opinion because in reality, who likes to feel sad? I know I don’t. But then we have to think back to the idea of, if we were never sad, how would we know what happiness feels like? We wouldn’t. If we were happy all the time, we wouldn’t even call it “happy”. It would just be neutral, boring. There’s a reason why us humans have emotions, and all of those emotions...even the bad ones.