Only Child Syndrome, The True And False

The Mythical 'Only Child Syndrome' Explained, And No, We Aren't All Spoiled

Sure, it was lonely at times and there was quite a bit of time where imaginary friends were a thing


There is always that question when sitting down talking to friends on the first day of school asking, "Do you have any brothers or sisters?" My answer to that question was always, "Well no, but I have dogs!" Yes, I was that girl, but I ended up gaining many qualities from being an only child.

Sure, it was lonely at times and there was quite a bit of time where imaginary friends were a thing. But, I learned how to be very independent and mature from it.

I grew up being an only child with divorced parents at the age of two. I was always a really shy kid and felt a little out of place. In social settings outside of school, I was rarely around other people my age. After I would get home from elementary school, I would always play with my barbies, Polly Pockets, and little pet shop toys. My dog, Smirnoff, (yes her name is Smirnoff) would sit and watch me play with my toys. Smirnoff was like a sibling to me. Just one that couldn't talk… but would always listen.

There are many stereotypes that go along with being an only child. Antisocial, spoiled rotten, loners, and selfish, to name a few. I hate to break it to you but stereotypes are usually wrong. Just because two partners only had one child doesn't mean they're magically going to get be spoiled and get everything they want.

Most of the time only children end up being very independent, social, kind, and empathetic. Since us only children have spent most of our time with older adults we tend to have more of a mature outlook on situations.

I want to clear a couple things up about being an only child:

1. We aren't that weird.

There are many stereotypes out there that claim only children are weird because they aren't around children their age as much.

2. We don't get everything we want.

Our parents are the same as all other parents. They had one child for a reason and that reason being: having kids is a lot of money.

3. We actually don't mind sharing with other people.

Just because we've probably had our own room and bathroom our whole lives doesn't mean we can't be nice and share.

4. We aren't loners.

We have friends, just saying

5. We make sure to respect authority figures.

Growing up mainly around adult figures allowed us to gain a different type of respect for authority

6. We aren't self-absorbed.

"I love me, myself, and I" is not our motto.

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To The Dad Who Didn't Want Me, It's Mutual Now

Thank you for leaving me because I am happy.

Thank you, for leaving me.

Thank you, for leaving me when I was little.

Thank you, for not putting me through the pain of watching you leave.

Thank you, for leaving me with the best mother a daughter could ask for.

I no longer resent you. I no longer feel anger towards you. I wondered for so long who I was. I thought that because I didn't know half of my blood that I was somehow missing something. I thought that who you were defined me. I was wrong. I am my own person. I am strong and capable and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

In my most vulnerable of times, I struggled with the fact that you didn't want me. You could have watched me grow into the person that I have become, but you didn't. You had a choice to be in my life. I thought that the fact that my own father didn't want me spoke to my own worth. I was wrong. I am so worthy. I am deserving, and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

You have missed so much. From my first dance to my first day of college, and you'll continue to miss everything. You won't see me graduate, you won't walk me down the aisle, and you won't get to see me follow my dreams. You'll never get that back, but I don't care anymore. What I have been through, and the struggles that I have faced have brought me to where I am today, and I can't complain. I go to a beautiful school, I have the best of friends, I have an amazing family, and that's all I really need.

Whoever you are, I hope you read this. I hope you understand that you have missed out on one of the best opportunities in your life. I could've been your daughter. I could have been your little girl. Now I am neither, nor will I ever be.

So thank you for leaving me because I am happy. I understand my self-worth, and I understand that you don't define me. You have made me stronger. You have helped make me who I am without even knowing it.

So, thank you for leaving me.

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To The Dad Who Works Out Of Town, Thank You For All You Do

Thank you for everything you do, I wouldn't have the things I do if it wasn't for you.


I want to say Thank you. Thank you for sleeping in hotel beds every night. Thank you for eating sandwiches some days for lunch while I ate my pizza Lunchables in my brand new Hello Kitty lunchbox.

Thank you for taking your truck with no cruise control some weeks for work because I wanted to drive your car. I'm sure driving for four hours straight with your foot on the pedal was pretty boring. Thank you for filling up the car before you let me drive it as well.

Thank you for waking up at 3 and 4 a.m. to head out of town to work and being so quiet while doing so. Thank you for adding lunch money to my account while you're over 100 miles away. Thank you for working sometimes 10-14 days straight without a day off. I can never thank you enough for what you do.

Thank you for filling my truck up in high school every Sunday night before you left for work. Thank you for spending your lunch breaks calling and making orthodontist appointments for me. Thank you for taking days off work to take me to some of these appointments. Thank you for always fitting me in.

While being out of town can make you feel like an absent parent, I promise you are not that. You always make sure to call me during the week. If I'm sick and didn't go to class, you call and check on me. You even call and remind me of things I need to get done like returning my rental book.

If it wasn't for you working out of town, I wouldn't have the luxuries I do now. I want you to know I am thankful for you.

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