On Respect: How to Deal with Its Absence and What You Can Do About It

On Respect: How to Deal with Its Absence and What You Can Do About It

Ever wondered how to deal with disrespectful people in a respectful way? Yeah, me too.


Generally, it is ideal for people to be respectful at all times to one another. Because the exchange of respect (or lack thereof) inevitably must occur between two or more people/entities, this ideal notion is not always practically achievable in the real world. What I mean by this is that if one person is being disrespectful and you are being completely respectful, it is ok to be somewhat disrespectful back. If someone does not acknowledge the honor you deserve and demand from simply being human, one can exemplify a receptive attitude that matches the level of respect being shown to them. However, this is only true if the degree of disrespect you show to another disrespectful person has an appropriate magnitude, does not go beyond the level of disrespect you are receiving, and is done in an amount that is necessary to accomplish something. If the response you show back is one acted upon haste, pure emotion (most likely this would be anger or some subset of it), a faulty line of reasoning, or an offense/ attack to another's personal attributes, it becomes exaggerated, unnecessary, childish, and irrelevant. This kind of mentality when exercising appropriate disrespect yields unproductive results and is a waste of time in general. Therefore, when acting "respectfully disrespectful", one should always be wary and cautious of the limits that should not ethically be crossed .

Is not getting along with someone an exception to this rule/standard? Is it a reasonable justification to act disrespectfully? Well, it is a common understanding (ironically) between all people that there are different perspectives about different topics and people do feel differently about things. This acknowledgement of perspective and dismissal of the existence of one "right" or biased perspective is a crucial aspect in exercising respect. Therefore, not getting along with others and possessing different viewpoints is a celebratory affair; it expands upon existing knowledge and can remove unjust prejudice(s) from society. One should learn and practice the skill of mutually coexisting with others in a world that does not always come to one shared consensus.

When one witnesses a situation in which people are being disrespectful, one can effectively intervene by gently reminding the other person that they are attempting to promote peace and not instigate any conflict. This can assure the disrespectful person that it is not necessary to put up a defense of disrespectful behavior. In other words, the person can rest assured knowing that if they show a respectful attitude, they will not be met with the opposite attitude. This balances the situation and presents a commonality between two people. Afterwards, when it is a more settled and calm environment, one can make valid points and express the problems they found in how the other person was treating them. The expected, ideal outcome of this series of actions would be a simple attitude of forgiveness and a shift in attitude.

Personally, respect is an integral part of my character because my parents instilled its importance within me and have set consequences for not being respectful. This is a moral core value I have held within me since I was young and have spread to other people as well. More than just contributing to my ethical standards, showing respect towards others is a means for me to make meaningful and healthy relationships that contribute to overall happiness and standard of living. It is also, I believe, a very underrated and implicit solution to many issues and can prevent conflicts from arising.

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50 Things to Do When You're Bored and Completely Alone


For people like me, spring break is a time where you come home and have absolutely nothing to do. You're parents work all day and you're either sibling-less or your siblings have already moved out. Most of your friends are on the semester system, so your breaks don't line up. You're bored and completely alone.

Although while being alone sounds boring, sometimes it's nice to just hang out with yourself. There is a plethora of unique and creative things you can do. Netflix marathon? That's overdone. Doing something productive or worthwhile? You do enough of that in school anyway. Whatever the reason is for you being alone, I have assembled a list of unique things to do to cure your boredom.

SEE ALSO: 50 Things To Do Instead of Finishing Your Homework

  1. Have a solo dance party.
  2. Teach yourself how to do an Australian accent (or any accent for that matter).
  3. Learn how to play harmonica (or any instrument for that matter).
  4. Buy an at home workout DVD.
  5. Bake a cake (and eat the whole thing for yourself).
  6. Take a rollaway chair and ride it down the driveway.
  7. Paint a self-portrait.
  8. Plant some flowers in your backyard.
  9. Become a master at air-guitar.
  10. Perform a concert (just for yourself).
  11. Write a novel.
  12. Become an expert on quantum mechanics.
  13. Give yourself a new hairdo.
  14. Knit a sweater (if you don't know how, learn).
  15. Make a bunch of origami paper cranes and decorate your house with them.
  16. Make homemade popsicles.
  17. Reorganize your entire closet.
  18. Put together a funky new outfit.
  19. Make a short film.
  20. Try to hold a handstand for as long as possible.
  21. Memorize the lyrics to all of your favorite songs.
  22. Create a website.
  23. Go on Club Penguin and troll a bunch of children.
  24. Become your favorite fictional character.
  25. Become your favorite animal.
  26. Practice your autograph for when you become famous.
  27. Create a magical potion.
  28. Learn a few spells.
  29. Learn how to become a Jedi.
  30. Put the TV on mute and overdub it with your own voice.
  31. Make paper hats with old newspapers.
  32. Become a master at jump roping tricks.
  33. Create music playlists based on random things, like colors.
  34. Find a chunk of wood and carve something out of it.
  35. Find something that doesn't have a Wikipedia page and create one for it.
  36. Create a full course meal based on whatever's in your kitchen.
  37. Teach your pet a new trick.
  38. Take a bunch of artsy photographs.
  39. Make a scrapbook.
  40. Learn a bunch of new words and incorporate them into your speech.
  41. Try to draw the most perfect circle without using a compass.
  42. Make your own board game.
  43. Memorize some poetry well enough so you can recite it.
  44. Build a fleet of sailboats and float them in your bathtub/pool.
  45. Write a song.
  46. Practice picking locks.
  47. Make a drum kit out of random household items and play it.
  48. Draw a tattoo on yourself.
  49. Give yourself a new piercing.
  50. Figure out the meaning of life.
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High School Seniors Should Be Excited For College, Not Scared

Even though it seems stressful and it is a big new place, it will be some of the best memories you will have for life.


Going into the summer after my high school graduation, all I could think about was college, and how I was going to prepare to go to a new school and move away from home. Just know, it is not as stressful as you prepare yourself for it to be. You don't need to worry about not having any friends or not knowing how to get to all the different buildings because you have to remember everyone else on campus has been in the exact same position you are in, and there are tons of people on campus to help you.

One of the things I was most worried about was classes and how to know which classes to take. My advice is to go to counseling and plan out your classes before you register. Planning out classes will drastically help you stay on track and the counselors will help you make a balanced schedule that you can actually handle.

Another piece of advice would be to not bring as much stuff for your dorm as you think you will need. By all means, bring the essential things that you will need, but remember a dorm room is very small and you share it with another person. You won't have a ton of space for extra stuff and you want to have space to move around and actually live in your dorm.

Finally, if you are concerned about meeting people and making friends, just try and be as outgoing and open as possible. Everyone else in the dorms is just as nervous as you are too meet people, it really helps to try to branch out. Joining clubs or greek life also helps you meet people around campus with common interests as you.

College is not something to be scared of. Even though it seems stressful and it is a big new place, it will be some of the best memories you will have for life.


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