Gender Roles Are So Old Fashioned And Society Needs To Get Over It

Gender Roles Are So Old Fashioned And Society Needs To Get Over It

I'm sick of people associating gender and sex roles to individuals.


I'm going to get right to the point with this article. I hate gender stereotypes. For a man or for a woman. They're stupid. They're getting more stupid when you include sex and race in them too.

The other night I am with my friends in the car. Two of them are women and dating each other. They start telling stories about how when they're out in public how much judgment they get more dating each other. In a society so open now, how could people judge these woman for being together? Well, that wasn't the end of their story. They said they actually get people that come up to them and say "Hun, well neither one of you look like the manlier one." "Who is the male and who is the female?"

So hold on a damn second. Are you telling me that in relationships now in this 21st century progressive society where we protest everything, write our opinions on basically anything (including myself right now), can identify as anything. Do we still need to have stereotypical gender roles in relationships? No, no, NO.

I just want to get the word out there. Stereotypes are gone now. The older generation of stereotypes should be demolished. We have gotten so far, how are people still assuming and expecting this.

I'll start with the men. Men do not need to be a "stereotypical man." Frankly, that turns off a lot of women Mr. Manly Men out there. A woman doesn't want her man to not tell us how we feel or shut us out or down. We want men to be open and compassionate. We like sensitive. Hell, I do. This goes for all genders. You shouldn't feel emasculated for crying about something sad.

You shouldn't feel less like a man for caring about your appearance or fashion. This doesn't make you "a woman" or "make you have a vagina." Offensive terms I hear constantly that need to be thrown away. I am a woman and I have a vagina, does that automatically make me not strong, overly sensitive and emotional.

As a woman, I find it incredibly offensive that men still feel the need to help me. I was parallel parking into a spot at Downtown, West Palm Beach. I am with a friend, doing perfectly fine. This man is walking about, he sees my parking and feels the need to stop what he is doing and waves his hands back to tell me how to park.

How much further I need to go when to stop and keep going. SIDE NOTE: I am an excellent parker. I do not mean to toot my own horn, but TOOT TOOT. I don't need anyone to show me and tell me how to park! I yell to this man out of my window as nice as possible "I don't need the help, thank you." But he continues to move. It was aggravating! If you're going to count stereotypes, I have been a better parker than all the men I've been with and better than I lot of guy friends I know.

I know how to park, I know how to shop for myself, I can go on appointments alone, I can cook, I can bartend, I am intelligent. I do not need anyone, man or woman to assist me.

Little stereotypes like that really piss me off. Whether a man cares about fashion and is labeled as gay. A man crying over a sad movie and that makes him sensitive like a woman. A woman being strong and wearing more masculine clothing and that makes them a horrible word that I refuse to type out, but I hope you understand the word I'm implying. Just because two men are dating each other or two women, a stereotype shouldn't fall on them to dress and act a certain way.

Just because I am a woman, the stereotype of me cooking and cleaning and not knowing how to do simple task shouldn't be a stereotype anymore. I bleed once a month for a week and can do the same task as a man and better. Any woman can. And lastly, a man shouldn't be made fun of for doing anything "not masculine" and then be insulted by being called a pussy, vagina, girl, or woman. It's absurd. I am extremely sick of these gender stereotypes that then affect sex, race, and other stereotypes.

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7 Of The Most Influential Women In History Who Left Their Stamp On The World

In honor of International Women's History Month, here are seven of the most influential women in history who left their stamp on the world in today's society.


These are the women who made put the foundation to make our present and future possible. Even today, they still continue to inspire other young men and women. In honor of international women's history month which lasts from March 1st through the 31st, here are seven of the most influential women in history.

1. Rosa Parks

Rosa Parks is a well known African American female who refused to give up her seat on a segregated bus in Montgomery, Alabama in 1955. As a result of her actions, she was arrested which led to a nationwide campaign boycotting city buses in Montgomery.

Her brave actions played a very important role during the civil rights movement that eventually led to the end of bus segregation. Rosa Parks was given the nicknames "The First Lady Of Civil Rights" and "The Mother Of Freedom Movement".

2. Harriet Tubman

Harriet Tubman was a former slave and abolitionist who escaped from her plantation to lead other slaves to freedom using the Underground Railroad. The Underground Railroad was a network of secret routes and safe houses that led to the northern states. She dedicated her whole entire life to helping others slaves escape who wanted freedom too. Harriet Tubman also led a secret life as a former spy during the war helping the Union Army.

3. Madame C.J Walker

Madame C.J. Walker whose real name was Sarah Breedlove, an African American, who became a self-made millionaire and entrepreneur. In fact, she was considered the wealthiest African American businesswoman in 1919.

She created her own wealth by developing and selling her hair care products. Madame C.J. Walker stumbled upon her wealth when she tried to find a product that would help with her scalp disorder which made her lose the majority of hair.

This is when she began to experiment with home remedies and store bought hair treatments which inspired her to help others with their hair loss after she saw significant improvement in her hair. She also was a very generous person who helped her community by giving to those less fortunate.

4. Coretta Scott King

Coretta Scott King was an American activist and writer alongside her husband, the world famous, Dr. Martin Luther King Jr, who fought for civil rights through peaceful protest. She supported nonviolence and women's rights movements.

After her husband's assassination, Mrs. King assembled and established an organization called "The King Center" in memory of her husband who believed in non-violent social change. She also led the petition to have her husband's birthday become a federal holiday which was eventually successful.

5. Susan B. Anthony

Susan B. Anthony, a Caucasian female, was a suffragist and civil rights activist. She campaigned against slavery and fought for women to be given the right to vote.

Her role definitely played a vital part in providing for the preparations for laws in the future for women rights. She worked with Elizabeth Cady Stanton to create the America Equal Rights Association (AERA) in 1866.

6. Daisy Bates

Daisy Bates was an African American activist and in 1952, she became the president of the NAACP in Arkansas. As a mentor who played a key role in helping to integrate the school system in Arkansas, she wanted to end segregation and helped do that with the introduction of the Little Rock Nine.

The Little Rock Nine was nine African American students who were enrolled in Little Rock Centeral High School, but the governor of Arkansas refused their admittance. In 1954, the Supreme Court ruled segregation in schools were unconstitutional; however, African American students were still being denied in all white high schools.

In 1957, history was made when Daisy Bates helped nine African American students known as the Little Rock Nine to become the first African Amercians to attend an all white high school.

7. Ida B. Wells

Ida B. Wells was a former slave in Mississippi, African American journalist, and a leader in the civil rights movement in its earlier years. Ida was born in 1862 to parents James and Elizabeth Wells.

In 1892, she began an anti lynching campaign after three African American men were abducted by a mob and then subsqequently murdered. She was a founding member of the National Association for the Advancement of Colored People also known as NAACP.

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I'm A Christian Girl And I AM a Feminist, Because Everyone Is Equal In The Eyes Of God

If you were waiting for me to post a picture of me in front of an Olive Garden you've come to the wrong place.


Recently, I saw an article here on Odyssey that has been swirling around on twitter titled, "I'm a Christian Girl And I'm Not A Feminist, Because God Did Not Intend for Women to Be Equals."

As a Christian Girl who IS a feminist, I have a critique for this article.

I'm all for freedom of speech and people having their own opinions, but the argument that this woman makes needs to be challenged. She asked for Feminists to back up their arguments and I have delivered.

Let me give you some background into my own religious story. I grew up in a very religious family, my dad is even a pastor of his own church, so you could say that I am relatively well versed when it comes to the Bible and Christian Beliefs. Not once was I told that I could never do anything a man couldn't. I had every capability of doing anything a man could, and I'm grateful that I was raised to have my own autonomy. That being said, I also grew up watching my Christian, feminist, single mother be the head of OUR household, and NOT submit to a husband. That did not make her evil, nor did it make her sinful in the eyes of God. She was my provider during this time and I wholeheartedly believe God intended me to grow up this way.

You can say I'm biased, but let's take a closer look into what arguments were made.

God Made Man First

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While this is true, God did make man before woman, God also recognizes that Adam needed a HELPER. Not a servant, not a sandwich maker, not a sex slave. A HELPER. "It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him." (Genesis 2.18 NKJV) Another key thing to note here is that comparable is written. Meaning that women are equal enough to be compared to men, they are parallel, different yes, but equal in importance just the same.

We Are to Submit to our Husbands

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I don't know how many of you know this, but not everybody has a husband. That's just a fact of life. However, something you might find interesting is that submit has two definitions. The first is the kind where we are under the authority of someone, and the other being subject to a particular process, treatment, or condition. Perhaps this is God telling us to let go of fears and EMOTIONALLY give yourself and your love to someone. As it is later stated in Ephesians 5 (NOT Proverbs BTW.) Husbands are meant to love their wives in return. (Also why aren't we calling out the men who left single mothers behind and not loving them?)

"Proverbs 31 Woman"

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What does this even mean, and why is it relevant? Proverbs 31 is about a prophecy the mother of King Lemuel, who we don't even know to be quite honest, had laid out for him. Not ONCE did Jesus utter these words, and why should it be up for interpretation as this book was not made by Jesus himself.

Women and Men are not equal in God's Eyes

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First of all, how do we know? Second of all, I could have 5lbs of apples and I could have 5lbs of pears, and I would still have an EQUAL amount of each. Different things with different features that appeal to different people, but I still have an equal amount of each. Equality does not mean that we don't acknowledge differences, but rather we allow each other the same opportunities because when it comes down to it, we are all human beings, and for me personally, we are all children of God.

I love my church, I love God, and I love others just as I was taught. That does not mean it's my job to judge people, nor does it mean I need to shove my beliefs in their face. I also do not have to accept what each church tells me, the Bible has many different translations and is up for interpretation, who are we to decide which is the correct one? My faith does not restrict me from being my own individual, and trivial interpretations do not stop me from standing with and caring for my fellow women who are raped, molested, slut-shamed, sold, murdered, harassed, oppressed, beaten, and married off as children every day. Being a feminist is recognizing that women have the same fundamental rights as men, and are equal in the eyes of the law. Being a feminist is looking out for my fellow women. It is me loving my neighbor as I would love myself, next to loving God with my whole self.

To non-feminists and those that are, you are loved despite your differences. You are loved equally. Just like men and women should be.

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