Through my 19 years on this Earth, I've realized that people don't like to be alone. It's normal and natural to not want to be alone. However, I have also seen people get into relationships they don't necessarily want to be in simply because of their fear of being alone. Being in a relationship is okay, but being single is also okay. Here are 3 reasons why.
1. You can focus on yourself, whatever that means to you.
Maybe focusing on yourself means putting your head in a textbook and studying and getting good grades. Maybe focusing on yourself means going to the gym and getting in shape and feeling good in your own skin. Maybe focusing on yourself means not letting another person into the equation and putting yourself first in some situations. Relationships mean compromise. Relationships mean always thinking of that other person when making decisions. Being single means you put yourself first and you make decisions based on you and want you to want.
2. Learning what you want and need out of relationships.
I know it seems more logical to know more about your standards when you are in a relationship, but when you're single, you learn more about yourself. You can learn what you value most in a person and what you want out of the relationships. Along with this, you have time to reflect on past relationships and evaluate what went well and what went wrong. Maybe you value someone who can make you laugh, but you most want someone who is stable. You will learn more about what you value when you are single.
3. You're waiting for the right person... and moment.
Most importantly, when you're single, you're waiting. My advice is to continue to wait. Wait until you find someone who ticks all of your boxes and makes sense to you. Don't get into a relationship just because you're lonely or all of your friends are in one. If you know someone just isn't the right one for you, don't waste your time or their time. It's hard to wait. It's hard to be single. It's hard seeing everyone else happy with their significant other. But, I promise, if you wait for someone who you can truly see yourself with, you'll have a much more successful relationship. Besides, you might miss an opportunity with someone if you're with someone you can't see yourself with. Just be patient. You'll get what you're supposed to when you're supposed to. There is no need to rush.
Make the most out of being single. Live your life. You don't need a significant other to be happy. Make yourself happy. Do things for yourself. Cheer up. You'll find them someday.
