My Mother Always Said, 'If You Don’t Have Anything Nice To Say, Don’t Say Anything At All'

My Mother Always Said, 'If You Don’t Have Anything Nice To Say, Don’t Say Anything At All'

The world has enough problems without people being mean to each other on Facebook.

My mother raised me on the perhaps very cliché, yet absolutely true virtue: “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”

I can admit, firsthand, that this is no simple feat. People will say things you absolutely do not agree with, they may say something rude to you, do something you don’t like, act a certain way, the list goes on.

And it’s fucking hard to bite your tongue when you really really want to tell someone they’re wrong, stupid, rude, an asshole, etc, etc… I’ve been there. I’ve had my fair share of saying shitty things to people.

Regardless, sure, sometimes you want to be a dick, and maybe sometimes it’s deserved. I’m sorry to say though, 99% of the time, you have no fucking right to tell someone off. If someone is being harmful to you, that’s a whole different story. Telling someone off for their opinion? Or something they can’t control? Trashing them because of an affiliation, an identity? Maybe just because you hate them? Stop right there and check your ego.

The fact of the matter is, if you think you have the authority to tell someone they’re wrong without probable cause, you need to keep your opinion to yourself.

It’s like, why do people ALWAYS have to find something to shit on?? Like, I am so over it.

Last week I wrote an article about stereotypes knowing that a discussion of stereotypes is a sensitive topic. After, I kid you not, HOURS of pouring over every detail and having it read by countless people JUST to make sure the moral of this article—“ALL stereotypes are offensive, perhaps some more than others, but ultimately no stereotypes are good. So just stay away from any and all”—was clear, I finally submitted it.

I was harassed by girls just like me for failing to mention certain stereotypes, for speaking from experience, for stating an opinion in an article. A 500-word article. I received essays about how ignorant I am, comments making fun of me. It wasn’t even controversial—do we not all agree stereotypes are harmful? No stereotype is harmless, I’m stating a fact, not belittling your experience, I don’t know your struggle. Furthermore, I’m advocating on each and everyone’s behalf for the elimination of ALL stereotypes.

So who are you to act all “better-than-thou” and pollute my inbox, my notifications, with hate?

Who are you, with your incorrect grammar and distasteful use of language, to make me feel bad about myself?

Who are you to tell me I’m wrong when I’ve barely even made an argument?

Who are you to make me feel like a piece of shit when I’ve written something in favor of EVERYONE?

Fuck off.

In this day and age, it’s hard to escape the constant influx of negativity. My facebook feed is poisoned by fights in the form of comment wars, hurtful or pointed memes, and angry statuses. I mean FOR THE LOVE OF GOD people, can everyone take a breather? It’s exhausting.

Maybe I don’t agree with your post about this or that. Maybe I don’t agree with you posting this image or that image. Am I going to leave hateful, hurtful messages in your inbox? Am I going to comment on your post in a belittling tone? Am I going to confront you to bash you in person? Absolutely not. You wanna know why? My mother raised me better than that.

So stop your whining. You will never be in agreement with everyone. One of the hardest thing in life is to argue someone out of an opinion they hold. So rather than waste your time and energy on fighting with strangers, why don’t we just ignore it? You have every right to block someone. You are absolutely capable of not commenting on something. You are, in fact, able to de-friend someone so you don’t have to see or hear what they think. DISENGAGE.

And, if you really must say something, I think we all are more than capable of having a mature, non-confrontational conversation about differing views. There is no need to be on the offensive and attack. The world has enough problems without people fighting over opinion on Facebook.
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Ariana May Be Bigger Than The Beatles, Hard As It Is To Believe

55 years later and Ariana has taken No. 1, 2, & 3 on Billboards Hot 100 Chart.


Ariana Grande has simultaneously claimed the top 3 spots on the Billboard Hot 100 Chart. This feat hasn't been achieved since the Beatles did it 55 years ago. All three of these songs are from her most recent album, "Thank U, Next." Her No. 1 song is currently "7 Rings," which has been in this spot for 4 weeks now. This song was truly inspiring to a lot of fans, including myself. No. 2 is one of her newest songs, "Break Up With Your Girlfriend I'm Bored." There has been a lot of controversy regarding this song, but it has still found its way to the top. Finally, taking lucky number 3 is her song "Thank U, Next," which moved from No. 7 to No. 3 and has been a leading song on the Billboard Hot 100 chart for 7 weeks now. Ariana's hit song "Thank U, Next" has been an all-time favorite for most Arianators since it first came out in early November. I personally could not be more inspired to see the Queen herself take the top 3 spots.

The last time this happened was in 1964 when the Beatles lead with their top 5 hits: "Can't Buy Me Love," "Twist and Shout," "She Loves You," "I Want to Hold Your Hand", and "Please Please Me."

While the Beatles may have been hot stuff 55 years ago, Ariana definitely has them beat in this day in age.

After this major outbreak, Ariana's career has hit an all-time high in less than 24 hours. Her music video views have increased tremendously and so have her followers. However, Ariana's songs are still competing against the song "Without Me" by Halsey, which has been on the Billboard Top 100 List for 19 weeks now and was No. 1 for 3 weeks. Right behind "Without Me" is "Sunflower" by Post Malone, which has been on the list for 17 weeks and was also the No. 1 spot for a couple of weeks. With just these two songs, Ariana has a lot of competition and the pressure to keep the top 3 spots is going to be very important for her if she wants to continue going forward with her career.

Does Ariana deserve the record she just broke, taking the spot from the famed Beatles? Is her music truly worthy of being compared to legends like Michael Jackson? Some seem to think so, while others argue that her fame is helped along by today's social media influence.

While Ariana creates outstanding music, not everyone is a fan. However, because of today's social media influences, these people are now exposed to her music even more. From Instagram to Twitter, Ariana's music is posted everywhere by all of the Arianators in the world. Even people who have no idea who she is or what her songs are called listen to her simply because she's 'popular' and nowadays popularity plays a huge role in what people think they like versus what they actually like. Yes, I love Ariana Grande's songs simply because I enjoy them, but this isn't the case for all of her 'fans.'

Now there is only one question that remains, "Has Ariana's career hit its peak or will she be able to uphold this title and stay in the top 3?"

1. "7 Rings" by Ariana Grande

"7 Rings" has been the leading song for 4 weeks now. It is indeed a jam.

2. "Break Up With Your Girlfriend, I'm Bored" by Ariana Grande

"Break Up With Your Girlfriend, I'm Bored" is now ranked the No. 2 song. Some love this song while others argue that it sends the wrong message, especially to her younger fans.

3. "Thank You, Next" by Ariana Grande

"Thank You, Next" moved from No. 7 to No. 3 and spent 7 weeks as the No. 1 spot when it was first released in November. It's views on YouTube continue to climb while many praise her for her unique and creative approach.

In conclusion, all hail the Queen herself.

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In The Words Of Casting Crowns, My Life Will Be For 'Only Jesus'

"Only Jesus" by Casting Crowns has inspired me to live my life for Jesus.


When I watch the music video for Casting Crowns "Only Jesus" I am reminded of the reason why we are on this earth, alive, breathing air through our lungs, our hearts beating, and time going on and on.

We are on this earth, not to seek our own glory, our own accolades, and our own selfish greed, but to know God, love God, and to make Him known in this world, through sharing how God's son Jesus has set us free from our sinful lives and has resurrected us spiritually.

At the beginning of the video, we see Mark Hall, the lead singer of Casting Crowns, driving down a road, eventually driving into a junkyard. The junkyard is both a setting for the music video and an allegory. The junkyard is allegorical to show that everything we obtain in this world, both material things and in achieving our own selfish pursuits of self-glory, self-pride, and self-adulation, will one day rot away and decay into nothingness.

No one will remember you in 500 years when you are dead and gone. The only exception to this is if you do something spectacular with your life that makes you famous. Only then will people remember what you did, not the person that you really was.

But living for Jesus and dedicating our lives to the "good fight" is the everlasting legacy we should pass on.

We should be remembered how we dedicated every minute of our lives being fishers of men for Jesus. When Christian men and women live this way, their children learn about God's love, which in turn causes them to surrender their lives to God, then passing God's love to their children, repeating this infinite loop of love for all time until Jesus comes back. Only Jesus is eternal. Only His love is eternal.

So when I die, "I don't want to leave a legacy. I don't care if they remember me, only Jesus."

Because my Lord Jesus Christ, God the Father, and the Holy Spirit is the only thing that matters.

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