If you haven’t seen the Netflix original movie “XOXO,” you probably have no idea what a “swirl girl” is. In the screening, Modern Family’s Sarah Hyland plays Krystal, a hopeless romantic who is finally meeting a boy in person at a music festival who she has been in touch with online for some time.

While in the VIP section with her friends, Krystal meets an older man who she has a serious talk with. She tells him that she doesn’t want just anyone; she wants “something more swirly" and believes this Internet boy will give her that. She describes “swirly” as wanting a soul mate; she wants a person to experience life with. The man tells her that not being a swirl girl is called having freedom, but Krystal argues that that “freedom” he speaks of is pretty much just an excuse for being alone.

I'm not sure if I believe that everyone has a soul mate. Or maybe I just don't believe that I have a soul mate. I guess sometimes when you fall in love and then that relationship ends, it becomes difficult to believe that those feelings will happen again. And maybe my thought process will change tomorrow, or a year from now, or ten years from now. But as of right now, I am not a swirl girl. All of my roommates are happily in love, and sometimes it's weird for me to listen to them talk about love. I enjoy hearing about it because it interests me and I'm extremely excited for them, but in a way it confuses me. They're swirl girls--the relationship type. They'd rather spend every day and night with the same person, but I get bored really easily. I like adventure, I hate routine, and I love being able to end the day thinking, "wow...today was insane." I feed off of excitement and freedom. I am not a swirl girl, and that's okay. It’s okay to not want a relationship right now, and it’s okay to not want something “swirly.”