Cuffing Season Is Upon Us And I Am NOT Here For It

Cuffing Season Is Upon Us And I Am NOT Here For It

It might be time to sit this one out.

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Cuffing season. Who would've thought that two words could have such an impact on us college students? For those not familiar with this term, cuffing season occurs during the winter months (primarily November and December) and is when people who are usually single end up in or begin looking for relationships. No one can explain the science behind it, but the cold weather has everyone yearning for someone to cuddle with.

Over the past month, I've begun to notice that most of my friends have either entered into relationships or talked about wanting to be cuffed. It was so weird to see all my friends finding significant others, and I started to question whether I, too, wanted to find a special someone.

Someone to watch movies with, to drink hot chocolate with, and to visit the Christmas tree at Rockefeller Center with. It all seemed so sweet and wholesome that I thought to myself if all my friends were seeking a serious relationship, why shouldn't I? However, there was one thing keeping me from jumping into cuffing season: I don't believe in it.

To put it simply, I consider cuffing season to be incredibly flawed. Sure, it may seem nice to spend the cold months with someone you care about but are you really entering into a relationship for the right reasons? If you happened to find someone who gives you butterflies or makes your heart flutter, then props to you. But if you're getting into a relationship solely because you want to be cuffed, you could end up in a tricky situation down the line.

The person you're with is nice and sweet, but eventually cuffing season will end and you may find out that you didn't actually like this person, but instead focused on the idea of being with this person. Trust me, there's a difference. Falling for someone and falling for the idea of someone are two completely different things.

If you are adamant on entering into a relationship, which is what happens to many people during this time, you may settle for someone you don't actually like. And by the time you realize you don't really like this person, it'll be too late and feelings will get hurt.

I'm not in any way saying that there's anything wrong with dating or trying to date during this time. However, it's so easy to get carried away by the enamor of the winter months and cuffing season. Individuals may focus on their want for a serious relationship instead of considering whether they even want one or are ready for one. Relationships only work if the two people are truly invested in and care for each other, and that extends beyond these few months.

Big gestures during the holiday season seem nice, but it is often the small things that are the most meaningful. If you find someone that you genuinely care for and want to be "cuffed" to, then go for it. But if you don't think that you're at that point yet, sit cuffing season out. There'll be plenty of winters down the line, and spending it with someone you truly want to be with will only make it more meaningful. For now, enjoy this independence.

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An Open Letter To My Boyfriend's Mom

A simple thank you is not enough.
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Your son and I have been dating a while now and I just wanted to thank you for everything.

Wow, where do I start? Ever since the day your son brought me into your home you have shown me nothing but kindness. I have not one negative thought about you and I am truly thankful for that. I first and foremost want to thank you for welcoming me with open arms. There are horror stories of mothers resenting their son's girlfriends and I am blessed there is no resentment or harsh feelings.

Thank you for treating me like one of your children, with so much love but knowing exactly when to tease me.

Thank you for sticking up for me when your son teases me, even though I know it’s all in good fun it's always comforting knowing you have someone by your side.

Thank you for raising a man who respects women and knows how to take responsibility of mistakes and not a boy who is immature and doesn’t take responsibility.

Thank you for always including me in family affairs, I may not be blood family but you do everything you can to make sure I feel like I am.

Thank you for letting me make memories with your family.

There is nothing I value more in this world then memories with friends and family and I am thankful you want and are willing to include me in yours. I have so much to thank you for my thoughts keep running together.

The most important thing I have to thank you for is for trusting me with your son. I know how precious and valuable he is and I won't break his heart. I will do everything I can to make him happy. This means more than you could ever imagine and I promise I will never break your trust.

The second most important thing I must thank you for is for accepting me for who I am. Never have you ever wished I looked like another girl or acted like another girl. You simply love and care for me and that’s all I could ever ask. Every person in this world is a unique different person and understanding that means a lot.

The third most important thing I must thank you is teaching me how to one day in the future treat a potential girlfriend that I may interact with as a mother. I am not a mother, but I one day plan to be. If I ever have a son it is because of how you treated me that I am able to be a humble loving mother to this new face that could one day walk into my door. How you have treated me has taught me how I should one day be in the future and I thank you for that.

This may seem all over the place but that’s how my brain gets when I try and thank you for everything you have done for me. It’s all so much and even the little things are so important so I promise my scattered thoughts are all with good intentions and not meant to bombard you. I just want to get the idea across to you that you are important and special to me and everything you do does not go unnoticed.

Sincerely,

Your Son’s Girlfriend

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There's Nothing Wrong With Meeting The Love Of Your Life On A Dating Site

In such a tech-savvy world, why are we so afraid to admit that we found love online?

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Growing up watching rom-coms like "When Harry Met Sally" and "Notting Hill," I've always been a bit of a romantic. I can't count the number of times I've constructed in my mind a completely unrealistic meet-cute where I would find the love of my life. I mean, who doesn't want their own fairy tale romance?

But in this age of social media and dating apps, the chances of accidentally bumping into your soulmate is slim to none. Dating apps like Bumble and Tinder are becoming ever so popular, with more and more individuals meeting their significant other online. So why is it that in such a tech-savvy society, people are still afraid to admit that they found love online?

I blame romantic comedies. Even though many romantic comedies are focused on being "realistic," the chances of me meeting the LOML at a carnival when he decides to climb up the Ferris wheel to talk to me (*cough* "The Notebook" *cough*) are highly unlikely. We've become so fixated on the idea of this perfect relationship that it becomes almost inferior to meet someone through a dating app.

But it's time the stigma ended. Who cares where you met your significant other? Sure, maybe you originally swiped right on Tinder with the sole intention of hooking up, but life happens.

It shouldn't matter that you didn't meet in some crazy, over-the-top fashion.

And sure, there's nothing wrong in hoping for a romantic comedy worthy meet-cute, but you shouldn't let modern cinema dictate your relationship. There's no shame in saying that you met your boyfriend or girlfriend on a dating app. I mean, what are these apps meant for? Meeting online doesn't in any way take away from the legitimacy of one's relationship. So instead of focusing on these so-called perfect moments, let's focus on building perfect relationships because life isn't always a movie.

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