Many times students enter college and befriend everyone because, well, they come in knowing no one, and later frolic around like everyone’s their best friend. Let’s take a step back here and look in from the outside, is everyone you consider a best friend even truly a real friend? You may think having a large circle of best friends is the greatest thing ever, but it’s not. In fact, the smaller your circle of best friends is, the better because it’s likely those are your true friends.
In college, you’ll come across a lot of different people you may think are worth your time at first, until you realize they actually suck. There are those that talk to you in class only so they can later depend on you for help in the semester. Those that act like you’re best friends when you see each other at a party, but are so quick to turn their back and trash talk you. Those that wish you the best of luck on getting that internship you’ve worked so hard for, but secretly hope you don’t so they can excel instead. Even the best friends you consider closer than others, but end up surprising you when they reveal their true colors. These fake friends are all around; trust me.
It may take you some time to realize that not everyone wants the best for you; but whether you like it or not, one day it’ll hit you in the face like a ton of bricks. Realistically speaking, it’s college, and everyone’s out for themselves. More than likely, the girl you sit next to in class that you text all the time about homework and life, isn’t a best friend and doesn’t actually wish you luck on the test you’re both about to take. She rather you do bad and her do well. Like they say, it’s a dog eat dog world.
Before befriending and trusting the numerous amounts of best friends you think you have, give yourself a reality check and think would they be there for you if you truly needed them. Keeping your circle small, enclosed with those best friends you know will always be there for you and help you in any way, shape or form, should be your trustworthy and closest friends. Not the girl you talk to only when you’re at a party, who probably doesn’t care about your life, but thinks your hair looks pretty. “Like omg she’s my best friend.”
Having a small circle of best friends still means you can have other friends, just learn who’s worth your time and who’s not. Likely not everyone you meet is worth your time, so open your eyes and try to understand the right people from the wrong. Trust me, I’ve learned this the hard way.
