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I Am Not A ‘Boss Bitch’ Or A ‘Princess,’ I Am Just A Quirky Girl Trying To Be Her Most Authentic Self

As someone who has a very quirky personality, I can say without a doubt that it takes some getting used to.


Everyone knows that Zooey Deschanel is the queen of quirk, so it would be impossible not to mention how she is the perfect example of this attractiveness to quirkiness ratio. In her show, "New Girl," Deschanel's character is a fun, loving teacher named Jessica Day who does many "quirky" things, such as randomly breaking into song, wearing polka dots, and crafting with a lot of yarn. Her three male roommates and most of the world find her quirky personality adorable.

As a girl, I had to go through all of the most awkward phases: braces, glasses, and a bob cut with bangs, as well as wearing heavy makeup to school and posting inspirational quotes on Instagram every day. I outgrew all of that to become the person that I am today: a quirky girl trying to be her most authentic self.

I love being quirky.

I have always been eclectic, but instead of accepting being called weird, I prefer to be called what I truly am: quirky.

Quirky: /ˈkwərkē/ adjective: Characterized by peculiar or unexpected traits.

Synonyms: idiosyncratic, unconventional, unorthodox

I cannot be defined by one specific quirk. I think that it is a combination of my need to break into song when I hear a phrase that reminds me of a lyric, my talent of tripping on thin air, my ability to talk so much that I could carry a conversation with a brick wall, and my innate ability to dance like no one is watching.

For others, it could be an insane love of lizards, a need to wear Crocs everywhere, or not being able to laugh without snorting. Being quirky means that there is no one else like you. Being unique is very challenging in a world that supports social norms.

I am awkward, I like baggy t-shirts and shorts, and I often wear my glasses with a messy bun. Being quirky is a way to show everyone what I am passionate about and who I truly am.

It can be very natural to shy away from your quirks and try to hide them from others, but being quirky makes you an individual. The truth about being quirky shows people that they shouldn't be afraid to be themselves, no matter how goofy. If you like blowing bubbles into milk? DO IT. Who cares that you are a Potterhead and read Harry Potter fanfiction? Honestly, no one.

Being quirky shows you who your true friends are. I never want to be afraid to be my authentic self. The honest fact is, people who care about your quirks shouldn't matter. Your true friends will love and support you no matter what. Allowing yourself to be goofy and relate to your imperfections shows your humility and proves that no one is perfect.

I get to wake up every morning with messy hair and put on my oversized glasses. I sing all the time, especially in the shower at the top of my lungs without question. I love that I have a passion for elephants. I get excited when I use essential oils after yoga. I love that I see the best in people.

But most of all, I love being quirky.

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