Everyone I know from school is doing their own thing. I have a unique major that no one I know is doing. To me in college, there is no need to compare to others. The reason why we should not compare to each other in college is because no one will understand what you are going through in your major, minor, and college.

Most of my friends and classmates went to a different college or university. They were studying a different major and minor. Some of my friends and classmates are able to go to college events and hang out with their friends after classes. At my university, I am very busy and do not have too much time. If I want to see my friend at college, we have to arrange a time and day very carefully. Maybe those colleges that have people partying or hanging out with friends have less work than my university. Either way, I cannot compare my social time with those students because we are in different universities that gives us different times to do something.

Some of my friends and classmates are able to get A's for all classes. I have seen them post on social media about it. I did not get A's for all my classes so far. However, I cannot say that they are smarter than me or I am dumber than them because their college might have an easy curriculum than my university. They also could be taking classes that are very easy to take while I am taking classes that are very moderate to take. Also, they might be studying an easy major or minor. I will never know what they have to go through to get the A while they will never know what I went through to get at least a passing grade.

If you have a friend that is struggling with a major and is different from your major, then you should encourage them and be sympathetic to them. Let's say that my friend is majoring in math while I am majoring in English. My friend has a C in her math classes while I have a B in my English classes. If she tells me that she is dumber than me, then I will say that she is wrong about that fact. I understand that college math especially college calculus is very challenging. It must be the college level that is bringing down her grades. Maybe if she does English as her major instead, then she might do better than me. Maybe if I major in math, then I might do worse than her. We will never know the outcome because we are in different situations that shield us away from it. All I can say to my friend is to keep working hard in math and feel free to ask the professor for help. I will also add that she will have a good outcome in the end of her math studies and that she did not make the wrong decision to study math as a major.

Let's turn this part around. Let's say I have a classmate majoring in business while I am majoring in English. Let's say that the classmate is not doing well in business and is scolding me for doing well in English. That is where I am going to hate the idea of comparing others a lot. I am going to respond by saying, "Hey, business student! Mind your own business! Did they ever teach you how to deal with personal finances or business in class? Cause I got something to tell you! Whatever I do will not matter to you. You choose the major on yourself. That is okay. I understand that you are into business. I also understand that business is a lot of work and the work is challenging. However, you cannot compare yourself to me like this! You will never how well you will do in English because you are not majoring in English! Maybe you will do better than me if you did! The same thing goes for me in business. I might do worse than you! One thing for sure is that if you really hate it, then you should change it. If you want to keep going, then stop complaining and get all the help you need! Don't blame me or yell at me for your own suffering because I am not in the same place as you! If you really want to compare yourself to others, then you should compare yourself to the other business students instead of an English student!"

The same thing goes for dormers and commuters. Dormers have to take care of themselves in college while commuters can come back home with the aid from their family. Dormers might be jealous that commuters do not have to do laundry, cook, and be independent. However, commuters have it hard as well when it comes to driving, traffic, and making sure that they will go home early. Also, some commuters probably want to dorm at college, but they cannot do so because their family disapproves of them dorming or cannot afford the money for dorming. Both sides may not understand the challenges in dorming and commuting.

Overall, what is the use of comparing to others when you are in college? It does not change anything in college. One thing that will never change is that you are all alone in your major, minor, and college.