I Don't Care What Anyone Else Says, Night Owls Are More Successful Than Early Birds

I Don't Care What Anyone Else Says, Night Owls Are More Successful Than Early Birds

The early bird doesn't always get the worm.

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I am a night owl and I say this maybe because I want to find evidence for myself stating how I can be more successful in the future. But, one thing is for certain, my mind does work better at later hours of the day. If my parents want to wake me up at five or six in the morning, I notice that my mind does not function. I would need a huge amount of coffee, preferably a large cup to get my mind going, yet at night, I don't need coffee or energy drinks to keep me alive.

Why?

Maybe it's because I'm a gamer. I like to stay up all night to beat my levels. Maybe it's because I like working in the dark, away from glaring eyes and judging expressions. The dark is something I embrace, which explains the nightly episodes of watching "Batman" and singing in the dark. There is a certain peace that I love, and working in the daytime is just sometimes too much noise.

My brother waking up, having a temper tantrum about how much he doesn't want to go to school, my parents rushing to and fro finding their car and house keys simply give me a rambunctious headache in the mornings. Compared to the nighttime after everybody dozes off in their bed, that is when I can give my mind the quiet it deserves, and that is when my gears start turning.

That is when I start thinking of writing plots for my currently working novel, the goals I will be having for next semester, helping my family by doing chores around the house. That is where I can multitask by eating a bag of chips and switching it off with Netflix and Chill (by myself, of course). Sitting in the dark away from all the people in the outside world gives myself the impression that only I can make my own choices, with no one else disrupting my thought process.

However, my parents don't understand it. They believe that "the early bird catches the worm." And no matter how many times I say to them, that phrase is WAY too overrated, they can't understand. They will not be open-minded about it.

Why?

Because they were raised by their parents a certain way. At their time and age, their parents have told them to keep pushing themselves to be able to get into college. Back then, it was more challenging considering only a certain percentage of their graduating class would be lucky enough to get a proper education. Both my mom and dad worked hard to achieve their goals by waking up early to memorize lists of vocab and do thousands of problems to improve their expertise in school subjects.

Times are changing, though. Now, there are so many selections of schools out there students can apply to, and each school has their own form of excellence. Whether it would be art, science, research, humanities, math, the list goes on and on, every student can find a certain trait or skill in themselves that they can depend on to give them their own individual success.

Mine is writing. And because it is writing, I struggle with it a lot. Not because I don't know what to write, but because morning just isn't my prime time. The morning correlates to sleepy eyes and messy ruffled hair. Most of the time, when I do wake up at a normal prime early time of the day, it takes me ages to drag myself out of bed. Between 6 AM and 6 PM, I would personally say I am more active around 6 PM. Maybe that's why I sleep so late.

And that's where the pattern keeps continuing.

But one thing is for certain: if you're a night owl, don't try to be an early bird. Your mind isn't wired that way. You do you and keep pushing forward.

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To The Person Who Feels Suicidal But Doesn't Want To Die

Suicidal thoughts are not black and white.
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Everyone assumes that if you have suicidal thoughts that means you want to die.

Suicidal thoughts are thought of in such black and white terms. Either you have suicidal thoughts and you want to die, or you don't have suicidal thoughts and you want to live. What most people don't understand is there are some stuck in the gray area of those two statements, I for one am one of them.

I've had suicidal thoughts since I was a kid.

My first recollection of it was when I came home after school one day and got in trouble; and while I was just sitting in the dining room I kept thinking, “I wonder what it would be like to take a knife from the kitchen and just shove it into my stomach." I didn't want to die, or even hurt myself for that matter. But those thoughts haven't stopped since.

I've thought about going into the bathroom and taking every single pill I could find and just drifting to sleep and never waking back up, I've thought about hurting myself to take the pain away, just a few days ago on my way to work I thought about driving my car straight into a tree. But I didn't. Why? Because even though that urge was so strong, I didn't want to die. I still don't, I don't want my life to end.

I don't think I've ever told anyone about these feelings. I don't want others to worry because the first thing anyone thinks when you tell them you have thoughts about hurting or killing yourself is that you're absolutely going to do it and they begin to panic. Yes, I have suicidal thoughts, but I don't want to die.

It's a confusing feeling, it's a scary feeling.

When the depression takes over you feel like you aren't in control. It's like you're drowning.

Every bad memory, every single thing that hurt you, every bad thing you've ever done comes back and grabs you by the ankle and drags you back under the water just as you're about the reach the surface. It's suffocating and not being able to do anything about it.

The hardest part is you never know when these thoughts are going to come. Some days you're just so happy and can't believe how good your life is, and the very next day you could be alone in a dark room unable to see because of the tears welling up in your eyes and thinking you'd be better off dead. You feel alone, you feel like a burden to everyone around you, you feel like the world would be better off without you. I wish it was something I could just turn off but I can't, no matter how hard I try.

These feelings come in waves.

It feels like you're swimming and the sun is shining and you're having a great time, until a wave comes and sucks you under into the darkness of the water. No matter how hard you try to reach the surface again a new wave comes and hits you back under again, and again, and again.

And then it just stops.

But you never know when the next wave is going to come. You never know when you're going to be sucked back under.

I always wondered if I was the only one like this.

It didn't make any sense to me, how did I think about suicide so often but not want to die? But I was thinking about it in black and white, I thought I wasn't allowed to have those feelings since I wasn't going to act on them. But then I read articles much like this one and I realized I'm not the only one. Suicidal thoughts aren't black and white, and my feelings are valid.

To everyone who feels this way, you aren't alone.

I thought I was for the longest time, I thought I was the only one who felt this way and I didn't understand how I could feel this way. But please, I implore you to talk to someone, anyone, about the way you're feeling; whether it be a family member, significant other, a friend, a therapist.

My biggest mistake all these years was never telling anyone how I feel in fear that they would either brush me off because “who could be suicidal but not want to die," or panic and try to commit me to a hospital or something. Writing this article has been the greatest feeling of relief I've felt in a long time, talking about it helps. I know it's scary to tell people how you're feeling, but you're not alone and you don't have to go through this alone.

Suicidal thoughts aren't black and white, your feelings are valid, and there are people here for you, you are not alone.

If you're thinking about hurting yourself please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or visit suicidepreventionhotline.org to live chat with someone. Help it out there and you are not alone.


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Why You Should Consider Spring Recruitment

the benefits of sorority life

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It's that time of year again!! Time for sororities to get back in the recruitment swing and gain some awesome new members! I serve as recruitment coordinator for my sorority here at The University of Georgia, and love everything recruitment has to offer.

Some of my closest friends in my sorority rushed in the spring as opposed to the beginning of the fall semester. Talking with them and having helped plan spring recruitment, we all came to the common conclusion that spring recruitment is the best!!!

I know that a lot of girls hold themselves back from joining a sorority because of the overwhelming journey it takes to receive a bid. However, spring recruitment is different because often times it is a whole lot more low key and less intense than the typical fall recruitment. It is done on a much smaller scale and really allows you to talk with a handful of sisters in order to get a better idea of what the sorority offers. There can be games, food, and activities involved - who doesn't love the sound of that??!

Maybe last semester was a tough one or you just weren't sure sorority life was for you- whatever the case may be, now is your opportunity to be a part of one of the best things college has to offer!

I'll admit I definitely did not see myself as the "typical sorority girl," but here I am convincing you to take a chance. I can truthfully say that the time I have spent in my sorority has given me some of my favorite memories and has proven to be the biggest blessing. Being a sister has allowed me to travel, find personal growth, develop the strongest of friendships, and ultimately has given me the best support system. Going through my college experience knowing that I have a group of girls that have my back and are there to support me 24/7 has been such a gift. Plus it is always fun to have a class or study buddy! Not only do you gain best friends, but you truly do gain a family as well.

I know it can be a daunting task to put yourself out into an unfamiliar setting with new people, but I promise, if you embrace the experience and stay open you may just find yourself hanging out with your new best friends. Going through recruitment forces you of your comfort zone and pushes you in the best ways possible. Start the year off experiencing something new and exciting! It is so much fun to get to talk to new people and hear all new stories. I can truly tell you that I have laughed louder and smiled more because of taking a chance and going through recruitment. Seeing my sisters brightens my day and adds more joy to my life. And besides, what girl doesn't love an excuse to get all dolled up and put on her cutest outfit?!

Recruitment is a 11/10 experience – would 100% recommend!

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