Failing Your New Years Resolutions Doesn't Really Mean Failure, It Means You Did Something Different

Failing Your New Years Resolutions Doesn't Really Mean Failure, It Means You Did Something Different

A different look at New Year resolutions.


It's December 31stand like clockwork I am preparing my New Year Resolutions. I'm sitting down with a pen, a pad, and a list of goals and expectations for the new year. It's always the same. I want to lose a few pounds, go to sleep by 10 pm, wake up at 6 a.m., create a schedule for my day, join a protest, start and keep a journal, be more adventurous; the list is endless and detailed. Despite the fact that it's the same, I can never check them off my list. I can never keep the journal or constantly schedule my day. In my mind, I need to reach all the goals by December 31st or I have failed as a person. The new year, new me craze always felt like I was expected to completely change the second the clock hit 12:00. However, that is not the case.

There are two parts to New Year's Resolutions: starting them at the beginning of the year and the disappointment I always face at the end of the year when I look over my list and realize I accomplished nothing from it. I haven't lost the 20 pounds, I didn't improve my sleep schedule, I have five journals with only one page filled out, I haven't traveled all over the world. I haven't improved. Or at least that's how it seems.

This past year I may not have checked off my goals, but I have changed. I may not have lost the extra 20 pounds or organized every aspect of my life, but I did accomplish things over the year. Instead of losing 20 pounds, I became more comfortable in my own skin. Instead of starting a journal, I started my book. Instead of traveling the world, I explored new places in my own town. Instead of joining a protest, I learned to listen. Instead of becoming a brand-new person, I became I better version of the person I already was, which is a harder task to accomplish.

Because of the list I wrote and shared, I felt that it was unchangeable. I mean I told people my goals, if I back out, they will think less of me. What I failed to realize was that my goals should be for me, not for others. I change through the year, therefore it's only natural that my goals change as well. I used to hate December 31st because it marked the end to another unproductive year, however, now I look forward to it because I get to see how my goals have changed and developed over the year. I get to see who I have become even if it's not what I expected.

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13 Gifts That Any Sports Fanatic Is Sure To Love

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Check out these 13 gifts that any sports lover in your life will absolutely love this holiday season.

1. NFL Barware Crate

This NFL Barware Crate from Man Crates is ideal for any football fan. It includes pint glasses with any NFL team's logo, bottle openers and a mix of bar nuts. The perfect mix of gifts for the perfect football Sunday.

2. NBA ugly Christmas sweater

If your sports fan is a fan of the NBA like me, they would LOVE this NBA ugly Christmas sweater. It's festive and shows off who you're rooting for this basketball season.

3. Knitted beer mitt

I'm from Wisconsin so, obviously, I'm a Green Bay Packers fan. Most of our football season is played in the winter, and Lambeau Field's nickname is "the frozen tundra," but that doesn't stop us fans from going to Green Bay and supporting our green and gold. And what's a football game without beer? This knitted beer mitt is ideal for any football fan that cheers their team out in the cold.

4. Golf mug

For the golf fan who is also a fan of coffee. With this coffee mug, you also get a mini golf ball and a putter that is actually a pen. During some downtime in the office, start a round of golf.

5. The Sports Bucket List book

This sports bucket list book written by Rob Fleder and Steven Hoffman is a great gift for a sports fan who likes to travel. The book includes 101 different and memorable places, games and matches around the world. Gift this book to your sports lover and help them complete their brand new bucket list!

6. MLB game used uniform wallet

This wallet is definitely something a baseball fan would cherish for a long time. This wallet includes interior dividers that are made from game-used MLB jerseys. You can choose from seven MLB teams.

7. Funny sports socks

One of the most practical ways to tell someone you're busy watching football. These socks are not only cozy but sport the, "Shhh, I'm watching football" saying to let everyone know that you shouldn't be bothered while your feet are up.

8. Vineyard Vines college shirt

Vineyard Vines is a brand that is known to be worn around college campuses. If your sports fan is currently enrolled at a university and loves supporting his colors, this shirt is the perfect fit for him this football season.

9. Unique cuff links

If your man is strictly business but loves strutting off the love for his NFL team, these subtle but super unique cufflinks are best gift he'll receive yet. They are not only classy, but the color inside is actually a piece from an NFL stadium seat!

10. Game used hockey puck bottle opener

For the hockey fanatic that also is a fanatic for brews. These hockey puck bottle openers are not only cool (hockey pun intended) but were once played as game pucks for an NHL game.

11. Sports mug with backboard 

This mug is fun for all ages and comes in other sports like football, basketball and more. For once you won't get yelled at for playing with your food.

12. Their favorite player's jersey

Every sports fanatic has a favorite player. A jersey is one of the easiest but one of the best gifts you can get someone. If they have one already, get them one from a different era or a different color!

13. Tickets to a sporting event

Another easy but perfect gift for a sports fan. Get them tickets to their favorite sporting event. Give them an experience they will never forget.

Please note that all items are in stock as of the time of publication. As an Amazon Associate, Odyssey may earn a portion of qualifying sales.

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It's Always A Good Time To Better Yourself

New year, new you.


We all like to play the New Year's game of creating resolutions most of us will most definitely not keep. We hear everyone going on and on about "new year, new me" and pretend like we want to engage as well. I failed to realize what it is about the new year that makes people want to change themselves. It's as if the digit changing at the end of the year is important to us changing ourselves.

You can make a change at any time of the year, so why now?

With this upcoming year, I feel like I have answered the qualms of the above statements. I have realized it is less about a new you, but more about a better you. The new year makes us feel fresh and gives us new energy. The digit changing, it gives us the motivation to make the changes to improve ourselves. While the last year has been so generous, I want to make the next year even better.

This is not a how-to guide on how to keep your resolutions, but more on how to make them. We tend to set unrealistic goals based off of ideas perpetuated by society rather than what truly makes us happy. We think by losing weight we will feel better about ourselves. By doing this we bypass the real goal altogether, feeling good about ourselves. This can apply in other circumstances. as well. If you're a writer, your goal could be to write more instead of writing better or writing something you care about. By deciding what truly matters to us, we can set goals that guide us to success instead of deterring it.

Even a simple task every day, like making the bed, can set the tone for the day as productive and neat.

Everyone is different and having the same three goals as every other person will not help you. Think about who you are and what you need to motivate you. Going to the gym may make you hate getting out of bed in the morning, but a small workout at home can be just as effective and more interesting for you.

Resolutions are what you make them out to be. You can choose to make them something meaningful.

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