October 3rd is National Boyfriend Day. Do any of my married friends out there miss the thrill of when you first started dating your husband? Maybe it's a millennial thing? After 10 years of marriage and two special needs kiddos I have found joy in dating my husband. The spark that brought us together when we were sixteen, the one that seemingly fades in so many modern relationships ITS STILL THERE. I refused to let it go out by treating my husband any different than my boyfriend - when I was first trying to get him to fall in love with me… when he was trying to get me to fall in love with him… the dates, the sneaking around our parents… it's all still there, just different. Instead of waiting for one of us to drive to the other for our weekend date, we are finding sitters, instead of sneaking around our parents to have sex, we are sneaking around our children. What I have found is that even though you get older and life throws itself at you in all various forms its really all the same when you get down to the core of what makes a person your lover, your boyfriend or your husband… its all the same. You are still committed to that person, to the agreed upon boundaries of your relationship,
If we wanted to get really technical and literal, Marriam Webster Dictionary has "Boyfriend" defined as a frequent or regular male companion in a romantic or sexual relationship - sounds like a husband to me. In fact, most people would argue that the only difference between boyfriend and husband is the piece of paper you get when you get married. NOW, I know there are other people who will argue it differently BUT if you were as serious about your relationship when they were your boyfriend… and then finance… then husband… then father of your children… they all require the same amount of work, tenderness, care, love and attention. SO, why, WHY would you put any less effort into showing your appreciation for them, WHY does that spark that started everything fade?
It doesn't have to IF you never stop treating your husband like your boyfriend. So, my dear sweet friends, celebrate your husband as if he is your boyfriend. NEVER stop fighting for that spark to stay as bright as it was the very first time he ever kissed you!
