When I first recorded and uploaded this video on July 3rd, 2016, I was experiencing a lot of failed friendships, relationships, and my grandmother had recently passed away. I was hurting and I wanted to lash out. I was holding in a lot of resentment and anger. Day in and day out, I would go through each and every scenario, getting more heated than I was before.

But, I realized that there was no sense in lashing out. I did not have to constantly get myself hyped up by playing the scenario over and over again. It was all over and there was nothing I could change about what had been set in stone. I could have fought for my friendships, but how good would it be to try to convince them to change their minds because I was use to the comfort of their presence? What was the point of holding on?

At this point in my life, my response to these painful situations were my responsibility. Although I could not change the past, I could change my perspective. I could hope for the best and believe that God knew what He was doing. Instead of leaning into my own understanding, why not acknowledge the one I say that I love so much: God.

Remembering what my pastor, Dr. Mike Freeman, taught about our response being my responsibility, helped me to trudge through the pain and anger, and take claim and change over what I was thinking and believing. So, when I did this video, I had a strong desire to help other people to change and take charge of their response. Changing your response can help you more than you think!