My identity, What Is That?

My identity, What Is That?

If we would just realize our identity lies in something higher maybe we wouldn't be looking down for such earthly desires.

As I lay here awake this thought crossed my mind. It's the night before Christmas eve and all the gifts are wrapped, stockings are stuffed but my heart isn't full. In fact, my heart breaks right now as I think of this holiday season and what it has become, to me it highlights an identity crisis within our nation. A society that no longer knows its own identity because it has become so caught up in materialism and self-centeredness. Where our individual importance and self-worth is determined by money, grades, job status, achievements, and so on and so forth.

Ask anyone today what do they define themselves as or what makes you good, they don't know. There is this perverse reality that if you accomplish this grade, are in this tax bracket, work for this company or can afford that vehicle you have somehow "made it" in society. No longer is someone free to explore and be themselves, longer are they defined by personal success or achieving their goals. No, suddenly in order to feel valued, to feel like others care we are doing jobs we hate, hurting others just to gain a promotion or stressing ourselves to unhealthy points just to try and prove to ourselves that we matter. I mean how messed up is it that in order to believe in ourselves need others approval?

So what happens when we fail to meet someone else's expectation of who we need to be or what we need to do? The answer, brokeness. It's so heartbreaking to see we have set ourselves up for failure. Just because you didn't get the grade your parents pressure you to have doesn't mean you are a horrible person. Just because you didn't take the job all your friends expected doesn't mean you suck at your job. We have to believe in ourselves and trust that we were all made with a plan for our lives. No other person gets to determine that plan or tell us who we are, we must believe in ourselves and our self-worth must be found within us, not outside us. That's why this time of year breaks my heart because I see how self-focused we have all become this doesn't exclude myself. Christmas has become about what can I get and how much of this can I earn or what extra could I gain. It's all about how I can feel better. Don't get me wrong I love Christmas as much as many of you do but there is also a lot of pride and self-focus this time of year.

It's an identity crisis at Christmas but it's clearly evident anytime of the year. Each one of us is built to do good and meant to be a part of other peoples lives but those very good things that are meant to push us forward often become our biggest stumbling blocks. We aren't the people we know or the money we make, we aren't the grades we get or the job we have. We are all human with special stories, those stories in our lives are defined by our choices and actions. If we would just realize our identity lies in something higher maybe we wouldn't be looking down to earthly desires.

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17 Empowering Bible Verses For Women

You go, girl.

We all have those days where we let the negative thoughts that we're "not good enough," "not pretty enough" or "not smart enough" invade our minds. It's easy to lose hope in these situations and to feel like it would be easier to just give up. However, the Bible reminds us that these things that we tell ourselves are not true and it gives us the affirmations that we need. Let these verses give you the power and motivation that you're lacking.

1. Proverbs 31:25

"She is clothed with strength and dignity and she laughs without fear of the future."

2. Psalm 46:5

"God is within her, she will not fall."

3. Luke 1:45

"Blessed is she who believed that the Lord would fulfill His promises to her."

4. Proverbs 31:17

"She is energetic and strong, a hard worker."

5. Psalm 28:7

"The Lord is my strength and my shield."

6. Proverbs 11:16

"A gracious woman gains respect, but ruthless men gain only wealth."

7. Joshua 1:9

"Be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."

8. Proverbs 31:30

"Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised."

9. 1 Corinthians 15:10

"By the grace of God, I am what I am."

10. Proverbs 31:26

"When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness."

11. Psalm 139:14

"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made."

12. 1 Peter 3:3-4

"Don't be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God."

13. Colossians 2:10

"And in Christ you have been brought to fullness."

14. 2 Timothy 1:7

"For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline."

15. Jeremiah 29:11

"'For I know the plans I have for you,' says the Lord. 'They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.'"

16. Exodus 14:14

"The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm."

17. Song of Songs 4:7

"You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way."

Next time you're feeling discouraged or weak, come back to these verses and use them to give you the strength and power that you need to conquer your battles.

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Christmas Of Remembrance Series: My Last Letter

Christmas time is not about the gifts... It is about something far, far more special.


Dear Reader,

Thank you for your time.

This is a series that I have dedicated to those I have loved and lost. It was merely a thought, then an idea, and now a realized creation. Christmas time… all winter really is a hard time for me. It holds this duality in my life of being both my favorite and also my least favorite and difficult time of year. It has been that way for years now.

In a way, this series aids my closure and healing further, and it allows me to tell my story in a way that, to me, is less scary (one of the many great facets of this platform). It was never my intention to write this in order to reach people, or encourage people, or serve as an inspiration to anyone. This was for me and only me. No one else. But, if these pieces of writing do impact someone, somewhere, or make them feel encouraged or inspired in some way or another, or just simply make them feel, then I hope you have enjoyed them. If I can make someone feel, then I guess I have done my job.

The life of an artist is often an uncertain one. The life of a human is a trying one. But life is a journey, and all journeys have their trials. Their tests. Their triumphs and rewards. And they all have their losses. What matters most is what you make of all of it. What lessons you learn. What changes you make. What life you create for yourself. What art you create because of it all. It can be very, very hard. But it can all be glorious at the same time.

At the heart of this series, my words, there is this deep and valuable belief of mine: Christmas (or the Winter Holiday that you may celebrate) is so much more about presents and cooking and shopping and all that other bullshit… it is about family.

The family that is related by blood. The family that surrounds your heart. Your Mom. Your brother. Your dearest friends. The bonds that make life valuable. Worth living. These bonds are soulful bonds, ones that are far more special than any mere trivial object. So… be with them. Forgive. Forget. Heal. Mend what is broken. Reassemble what has been shattered. And stop worrying so much. Laugh together. Cry together. Heal on another. Heal together. And may your new days be better, brighter, and full of love.

Happy Holidays.


A song for you...

"Sense of Home" — Harrison Storm / YouTube

If you liked this series, I invite you to check out my previous article below…

To My Fellow 孤, The Sons Without Fathers On Father’s Day

As well as this article by a fellow creator…

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