To My Guy Best Friend, You Are Literally Everything To Me

To My Guy Best Friend, You Are Literally Everything To Me

I don't give you enough credit for putting up with my antics.


Dear Trevor,

A year ago at this time, we were bonding over student debt, contemplating if $70k a year was worth it and here we are at the end of our first semester, still just as much of a mess. From the very first text scramble and drunk 1 a.m. call, I knew we had a long, long friendship ahead of us.

You are the most dependable person I know.

It can be 3 p.m. or 3 a.m., but regardless you always pick up the phone. I can be mid-crisis over some boy or having a really bad day and you, without a doubt, will always come to my rescue.

When I feel as though the entire world is falling apart around me, you're the first one to help me pick up the pieces. When I need a good laugh after a long day, you're always there with an Ariana quote and some story from your weekend. When all I want is a Jersey bagel and quick ride down the Garden State Parkway, you completely understand the feeling.

I confide in you some of my deepest thoughts and my biggest fears and never for a minute have you ever judged me. You have so much love in your heart for the people in your life and I am so grateful that I am one of them.

Our weekly Chipotle dates will always be my favorite time of the week.

I'm not sure when this little tradition of ours started, but I'm all for it.

Even with no money in the bank, we still manage to stop at Chipotle every single Monday after our Psych lecture and catch up on our lives. We act as though we haven't seen each other in years, but sometimes the weekend is so crazy we have stories that seem as though a year has passed.

I take any opportunity to go to Chipotle, but I honestly love our little Monday dates because they're filled with ridiculous moments and more Trevor quotes to add to my collection. I don't know what I'm going to do next semester when we don't have a class together and we can't force each other to go.

No one loves Ariana Grande the way we do.

Every time Ariana is about to drop a new music video or a new album, I anticipate a text from you.

One of my favorite memories is when you came to my room before a party and instead of pre-gaming with friends, we watched every single Ariana music video and jammed out up until it was time to leave. It was that night where I realized that I didn't need a huge group of friends to make me feel happy, sometimes all it takes is that one person.

Every road trip we take, every study session we have, Ariana is always blasting. March 18th is not ready for us when we finally get to see the love of our lives in concert.

You're one of the strongest people I know and I will always, always be there for you.

In all the times you have watched me cry and comforted me on a rainy day, I hope you know that I will always do the same for you.

The past year has brought about many changes in your life, both with college and your family, and I know the constant burden it has on your mind. We talk about it in bits and pieces, but I know how hard it is to formulate the right words to explain what's going on. Nonetheless, you wake up every single morning, throw a smile on your face and make the best of every day.

I admire the strength you have in facing every situation and how the world never seems to never knock you down. You inspire me in the way that you never remain bitter toward the people who have hurt you, but instead become the bigger person.

I wish I could handle every awful situation with grace the way you do. Never change who you are, not for anyone.

We argue like assholes, but I love you with all my heart.

Nothing beats us yelling at each other in the middle of the bookstore and having some random lady laugh at us.

We bicker 90% of the time we're together, but I realized that it's impossible for me to ever be genuinely mad at you. You can call me out on toxic behavior or when you realize I'm self-sabotaging. You are always looking out for my well-being and point out when I'm just being an idiot. Not many people have the ability to do this as I get mad anytime people like to judge my life, but you, you Trevor, somehow have the ability to verbally smack me across the face and keep me on track.

I can't believe we spent our entire lives living 30 minutes apart and just now did we find each other. Despite my occasional hatred toward our school, I am so incredibly blessed that it allowed us to meet each other.

Here's to more carpool karaoke, dancing on washing machines, funny Snapchat memories, Chipotle dates, and bullshitting in Bird Library. I can't wait to fuck the club up with you for another four years and many years to come after that.

Love you always,


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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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Vans' New Harry Potter Collection Is The Perfect Evidence As To Why Ravenclaw And Hufflepuff House Needs More Representation

You can't make several detailed shoe designs for Gryffindor and Slytherin and hand Ravenclaw and Hufflepuff generic designs and expect people to just be okay with it.


Vans are usually known for coming out with some pretty cool collaborative collections. In the past, they've done Disney, Marvel, and even Van Gogh.

So when the company announced that they were teaming up with Harry Potter to make a "magical" line, thousands of Harry Potter fans got their wallets ready to spend their money on yet another pair of shoes.

But, when launch day came around, a lot of people looked at the options and were left unsatisfied and felt cheated. These people, like myself, were either Ravenclaws or Hufflepuffs. Vans had done us dirty just like every other brand out there that sells Harry Potter merchandise.

When you go into, say, Hot Topic, and walk to the Harry Potter section, you are greeted with a sea of red (Gryffindor) and green (Slytherin). Which is nice, if you belong to either of those houses. But if you're not, you have to dig through clothing racks and look behind other things with the hope of seeing blue (Ravenclaw)or yellow (Hufflepuff).

Gryffindor, of course, gets the largest amount of merch since pretty much all of the protagonists were Gryffindors and then the antagonists were Slytherins.

In the original movies, there were a few background Ravenclaws and Hufflepuffs, but it really wasn't until Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them did we finally see a Hufflepuff main character. Thankfully, Hufflepuff is getting some more recognition and respect.

Still, that doesn't make it fair for Vans to put out several shoes geared towards Gryffindors and Slytherins, and then one pair each for Ravenclaws and Hufflepuffs. With designs that are lazy and subpar.

Let's go through the collection, starting with the blatant "House" shoe designs.

1. Gryffindor Sk8-Hi

A very cool design that proudly shows off your Gryffindor Pride and can be worn with most outfits.

2. Slytherin Era

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I really like this design. It not only shows off Slytherin colors but also has a scaly texture, in honor of their serpent mascot.

3. Ravenclaw Authentic

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Now, this is just ugly. Sure, the Ravenclaw crest is on the tongue, but checkered, really? And the colors aren't even correct! They should be blue/bronze, not blue/silver/white! And what outfit would these ever go with?

4. Hufflepuff Slip-on

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This design is so lazy. "Let's just make a black slip-on with a yellow insert and slap a Hufflepuff Badger patch on the top!" I've seen shoes on Etsy made by Indie Brands that were more creative than this.

5.Obligatory Marauders Map Slip-on

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The Marauders Map design is pretty iconic in the fandom, but I have to say, I personally think it's overrated. It's plastered everywhere on merch, and when it comes down to it, it's geared towards Gryffindors anyway.

6. Snitch Old Skool

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Okay, now these are pretty cool. The Snitch ball is a golden charm on the shoelaces and the wings spread out on either side. Plus, they can probably be for any house, so long as you love Quidditch.

7. Death Eater Sk8-Hi Platform RB

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Another pair for Slytherin. Although, the green metallic shift is really cool.

8. Deathly Hallows Old Skool

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This design is also one that can be favored by any house, but with the Deathly Hallows symbol always being associated with Harry Potter himself, it's hard not to imagine these as a Gryffindor pair as well.

9. Deathly Hallows Slip-On

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Same with these.

10. Daily Prophet Comfycush Era

The Daily Prophet paper print is another overused design in the Harry Potter fandom. Especially when it shows the front page with Potter being the Undesirable. Another shoe for Gryffindor!

11. Transfiguration Comfycush Sk8-Hi

This is actually my favorite pair out of the entire collection, and even though they're covered in Harry's lightning bolt scar, they can be worn by any house. Plus, they glow in the dark!

Along with the shoes, Vans has also put out designs for shirts, bags, socks, etc. You guessed right, there's only one design for Ravenclaw and Hufflepuff, but plenty for Gryffindor and Slytherin.

It's sad that the books and movies have been out for so long now, and the Harry Potter fandom is growing every day, sorting more and more people into houses that aren't just Gryffindor or Slytherin, and we still can't find equal representation for merchandise.

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