During the ninth episode of the eighth season of RuPaul's Drag Race, I was crying during the part when the last four contestants were giving advice to their younger selves. Out of the four queens in the running, Kim Chi was very emotional during her turn. Like her, I felt different from everyone else and I wish I could have given my younger self advice.
You can watch the clip here.
Because of this scene, I, too, want to give advice to my younger self. I might or might not while writing this article.
Okay Marc. Here I go:
Hey little guy. I see that you're enjoying playing with the doll that's not particularly for boys. Other people, especially other boys, might make fun of you because of it. Don't worry about it. This will teach you how to become a passionate and caring person.
Oh no! I also see you crying. It must have been those stupid bullies that do no understand you. They are making fun you because you do not act the same way as them. I want you to learn how to love yourself because there will be a time when both you or family, friends, and peers will reject you for who you are.
I also need you to stop trying to fit in. You will face so many rejections. Both personally and professionally, almost everyone will reject you. You trying to "fix" yourself or wishing to fix yourself will not not help you because all it does is tears you from the inside out. You are loved by your friends and you need to realize that you are an amazing person. If you as horrible as you think you are, then you would be alone. Stop putting yourself down and REALLY learn how to love yourself.
Lastly, you need to learn how to forgive. Yes, you have lived a difficult life and a lot of people, especially men, will give you nothing but a difficult time. They will hurt you. Unfortunately, that is part of life that I wish I can defend you from but can not. Instead of holding a grudge, you need to learn how to let go and forgive. If you do not know how to forgive, the only person you are hurting if yourself.
Remember, accept yourself, love yourself and forgive others.
