Women today seem to be enjoying the feminine qualities in a man. For example, women enjoy seeing a well-dressed man, preferably in a straight-legged pressed suit, with a fun sock to match his contrasting color saddleback lace up boots. Or the fact that I make my eyebrow appointment with my brother so we can drive together. 

“Manscaping” is a thing, and I find it very necessary, even if you have a man bun or 5-inch long beard. But no matter the woman, they show a true interest in a man that is feminine in one way or another. 

But my question is why? Why do we all of a sudden like a man more that pomades his hair back and wears Nordstrom shoes that are more expensive than our own?

Now, I'm not against it, the men I find most attractive have a few feminine qualities. I mean for heaven sakes, I would do anything to marry a man with a mun. But what has changed in a man’s personal choice that made them start caring? Is it really the look we like in a man that seems feminine, or is it the unknown question of whether or not they have other feminine qualities that aren’t just in physical appearance?

“I enjoy dressing nicely because it not only shows an understanding of the world around you, “ said Jordan Adamson, 23. “Today’s modern world prioritizes setting ourselves apart from others and dressing nicely can definitely do that, it fills you with confidence and portrays a manner of success which is very attractive, and it feels good to have confidence in the way you dress.”

Who wouldn’t want to date a man that smells good and understands the time it takes to pick out a coordinating outfit? They would acknowledge the process and make you feel beautiful because they know it’s not a easy to be handsome either.

“I think men are paying more attention to their hygiene and are being more put together because it has been deemed more attractive by women in the past decade. We see a trend of more styled haircuts, more in shape bodies and less body hair, except for the beard fetish,” said Adamson. “Seeing this in magazines and on TV influences people tremendously and competition is big, for guys. We all want to beat each other for the pretty girl and one way of doing this is by being what is considered attractive. “

I guess what I'm trying to say is men: we like seeing you in a nice pair of jeans that are around your waist, not under your butt. We like to see a trimmed beard that looks like you decided to grow it out, rather than looking like you can't afford a pack of disposable razors to clean up your face.

If you care about your personal presentation, then we will care more about ours. If a woman is trying to get a man and that man dresses nicely, then she too will step up her game and wear presentable outfits that catch his eye. As a female, I've realized that I am not the only one who has to be body conscious and take care of myself. If you decide to be the guy that showers once a week and wears the same shorts three days in a row, I would encourage you to rethink that decision.

So, to those guys that complain about their girlfriend's dressing sloppy and not caring if you see them in baggy sweats and no makeup, how about you look in the mirror and decide whether or not you present yourself in the same sloppy manner? If you wear nothing but gym shorts and a t-shirt every day, then of course you might not attract a super model. So brush your hair, please do not forget deodorant and use cologne. Start doing this and you will get more respect... you may even meet some more girls!