Maybe We Do Go For The Good Guys?

Maybe We Do Go For The Good Guys?

There's the good, there's nice, and there's the jerks

Nice guys seem to take the approach, "If I compliment her, she’ll find me sweet," which is true, but at the same time, just another compliment will not always make the girl remember you.

As a contradiction, girls want a nice guy and even comment on wanting to find a boy that is boyfriend material. The song “Hide Away” by Daya is a great approach to exactly what a girl is looking for. She wonders where, “All the good boys go to hideaway," but in the next verse mentions how she wants, “A boy who is down for the chase,” and this is where truly nice guys lack winning.

There is a difference between the terms "nice guy" and "good guy." If you google synonyms for nice, many examples that pop up are agreeable, pleasant, satisfying, enjoyable, and many more. These words alone help describe what nice really means. It’s a guy who is agreeable and may not challenge you. Someone who is pleasant to be around, but not someone to always have by your side. Someone is satisfying, but not does not push you to your limits. Being nice is a great quality, but there has to be the boundary where you will push your partner and also have your own views and not being “whipped."

When it comes to a good guy, the examples are outstanding, brilliant, and potent, with many others. Having someone who is outstanding, will prove his worth and value. The guy who is brilliant will challenge you and your own thoughts. The potent one will influence you for the better and give new experiences to your life.

The good guy is the one that comes out ahead, not the jerk nor the nice guy. To smoothly flirt and catch a person’s attention takes thought process and being able to always think of a response. A boy who uses his brain is more impressive than a guy who agrees with my own thoughts than having his own.

Some girls do tend to go for the jerks, but those that do show how mature they are. As we grow, we start to find out who we are. We sometimes have to go out with some not so great guys until we find the one that is worth the time to take over spending the rest of our lives with. For the girls who are going for the jerks, they have yet to discover their own worth and have the guy's want for them overpowering what they deserve.

The good boys not only remind you of your worth, but continue to help you grow instead of holding you back. They push you for your dreams and not have you settle. They want what's not only best for themselves and you, but for the both of you together. The relationship is something for them to work for and to keep cherishing.

Yes, nice guys finish last and jerks finish last.

Good guys are the ones who come in first each time because it is their own drive of knowing what they want which puts them there. It is them who are willing to open our eyes to so many possibilities. It is them who keep a spark going in a relationship instead of letting it die the moment something goes bad. It is because of them that girls are willing to take a chance of their own when it comes to falling for someone.

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6 Things I Didn't Really Need in My Freshman Dorm, And 6 Things I Wish I Brought Instead

I promise you, being Pinterest-worthy just doesn't make sense in a dorm.

As I packed up my dorm room and unpacked it all once I got home, I kinda felt stupid. I moved in with 2 cars full of stuff (yes, I know how extra that sounds and yes, it was indeed that extra) and I didn't end up needing half of it. Now, I'm swimming in stuff I need to get rid of while holding on to the stuff I didn't realize I would need and ended up buying mid-year. No matter how much you think you know everything, first-time dorm residents, please listen.

6 things I DIDN'T need but swore I did

1. All my personal books

I mean, I'm an English major and I love to read, but no one, and I mean no one, A) has free time and B) uses that free time to read in college.

2. Keurig

There's a coffee shop I can use my cafe credits at on my way to class. I never woke up early enough to brew my own coffee, and I never craved it bad enough in the afternoon to feel like I needed to make my own immediately. It was nice to make tea with though.

3. Dishes and Silverware/Excessive Mugs

All you need is 1 mug and a couple of water bottles. I promise you paper plates and plastic silverware are all you need.

4. An overabundance of office supplies

I didn't use all those fancy office supplies in high school, so as much as I love them, I have yet to reach for them in college.

5. T.V.

The T.V. I had was only slightly bigger than my laptop screen and the wifi at my dorm wasn't good enough for streaming. I hardly used it, but I know others used theirs a lot. Just a personal preference!

6. Tons of wall art

I totally believe wall art has the power to make a dorm room feel less institutional, but I wish I had brought more pictures from home to make my room personal. Pinterest dorm rooms just aren't real, and they aren't what you want when you're homesick.

6 things I wish I had bought before school started

1. ID Lanyard

I personally love these ones from Vera Bradley , but honestly, any way you can carry your ID, money, and keys all in one is a life changer.

2. Earplugs/Eye Mask

Dorms are loud even during quiet hours and sometimes your roommate stays up later or gets up earlier than you do. Amazon couldn't ship these to me fast enough.

3. Wireless Headphones/Earbuds

Personally, I'm an earbuds girl, but either one does the trick. It's nice to not have to deal with cords and to be able to connect to any of your devices without an adapter.

4. Laptop Shell/Stickers

Almost everyone ends up ordering stickers to put on their laptop to express themselves to those around them. On a practical level though, you're probably going to have the same laptop as 5+ other students in your lecture and you will probably throw your laptop in a bag and run at some point. A shell and some stickers will provide more protection than you realize. Check out for some great options.

5. Small vacuum

This is especially important if you get a rug. Sweeping is not pleasant, and the vacuums at your dorm are probably older than you are.

6. Pictures from home

Like I said before, wall art isn't going to comfort you when you want to go home. A picture of your dog or best friend sure will though.

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I'm Not The Person I Was In High School And I'm Not Sorry I Changed

I'm sorry, the old me can't come to the phone right now.


If those who knew me in high school hung out with me now, they probably wouldn't recognize me. If my friends from college hung out with me around two years ago, they probably wouldn't recognize me. It's safe to say I've changed... a lot. I definitely find the change to be for the better and I couldn't be happier with the person I've become

In high school, I would sit at home every night anxiously waiting to leave and go out. Now, honestly, going out is the last thing I want to do any night of the week. While everyone in college is at a fraternity party or at the bars, I prefer to sit at home on the couch, watching Netflix with my boyfriend. That's an ideal night for me and it is exactly the opposite of what I wanted to do a couple of years ago. There's nothing wrong with going out and partying, it's just not what I want to do anymore.

I craved attention in high school. I went to the parties and outings so I could be in Snapchats and photos, just so people would know I was there. I hung out with certain groups of people just so I could say I was "friends" with so-and-so who was so very popular. I wanted to be known and I wanted to be cool.

Now, I couldn't care less. I go to the bars or the parties if I really feel like it or if my friends make me feel bad enough for never going anywhere that I finally decide to show up. It's just not my scene anymore and I no longer worry about missing out.

If you could look back at me during my junior year of high school, you probably would've found me searching for the best-ranked party schools and colleges with the best nearby clubs or bars. Now, you can find me eating snacks on the couch on a Friday night watching the parties through other peoples' Snapchats.

Some may say that I'm boring now, and while I agree that my life is a little less adventurous now than it was in high school, I don't regret the lifestyle changes I've made. I feel happier, I feel like a better person, I feel much more complete. I'm not sorry that I've changed since high school and I'm not sorry that I'm not living the typical "college lifestyle." I don't see anything wrong with that life, it's just not what makes me happy and it's not what I want to do anymore.

I've become a different person since high school and I couldn't be happier about it. I have a lot that's contributed to the change, but my boyfriend definitely was the main factor as he showed me that staying in can be a million times better than a night out. My interests and my social cravings have completely transitioned into that of an 80-year-old grandma, but I don't regret it.

Change doesn't have to be a bad thing. In fact, it can bring a lot more happiness and comfort. The transition from high school to college is drastic, but you can also use it as an opportunity to transition from one lifestyle to another. I don't regret the lifestyle flip I made and I couldn't be less apologetic about it.

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