I'm A Material Girl, And The Mall Is My Happy Place

I'm A Material Girl, And The Mall Is My Happy Place

The pros and cons of shopping.

When I was a little girl, my mother would always take me to the mall to do some shopping for clothes or toys or food. For days after school, during vacations, and during holidays, I was mesmerized by clothes and brands and jewelry, without knowing what would work on me. I would go through these halls as doors which opened to a new me. More important for me was how it was a bonding experience with me and whomever I was with—we would talk about what we want and our likes and dislikes.

Going to the mall recently causes me to yawn out of boredom, as we spend too much time in an aisle which renders no relevance. I am left wondering about why my mother would buy so many shoes; or why whenever my relatives come along we always go shopping.

Whenever I have spare time and a bit of money, I go to different places to immerse myself in the material world. I would saunter through different stores and smell the different perfumes, try on varied dresses and enamor myself with teas, and think about what lipsticks look good on me.

Most times, I would leave these stores without buying anything. I’m a college student without a job; the things I desire are beyond my financial bracket, as well as my parents. The things I would buy included books I won’t read for a year, CDs, and outside foods, including candy. I would also buy posh teas—a dimension above the box teas from the grocery store.

Yet, most of these things are on impulse.

That way, when I’m shopping, it’s not merely buying one thing, it’s making a dream come true. I have a vision of what I want, based on the internet and frequent trips strolling through aisles and streets, and I’m going to go get it, no matter what.

Yet compared to my mother, where she would wait for the right deals to come through so she could get a sweater for under ten dollars, I’d pay full price for something, without considering how much money I would have left.

This causes grief for my parents—I had to hide my bank statements multiple times because they would lecture me, again, about how I would never learn about financial responsibility. I recognize that if I lived alone, with no other forms of support other than from myself, this would be unsustainable. And with the clock on familial dependence ticking down as the days in college fade away, it’s something I have to consider.

I may want something, yet I cannot drop everything to get it.

This doesn’t mean I shouldn’t step into a specialty shop again, nor into the loving walls of the mall. This is very much a part of my life—seeing the new clothes, interacting with customer service, and seeing what I like for the future.

When some stores I like are either bankrupt or on the verge of closing, it gets to me inside.

Online shopping is the future, especially with vintage clothing and jewelry manufactured in the past, but it never has the exact same feeling of entering a new world.

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13 Summer Struggles Only Thick Girls Understand

Chafing. So much chafing.


Summer is a lovely time. A time of cookouts, swimming, and sunny weather. But if you're a " thick girl," summer sometimes brings more unpleasantries than it does for slimmer women. No matter how beautiful and confident you are in your body, it can bring some struggles.

1. The living hell that is shorts-shopping

Step 1: Find the biggest size the store has.

Step 2: (If you can even get those on): Realize your stomach is being squeezed into the top, your butt is falling out of the back and your thighs are having the life squished out of them.

Step 3: Realize why winter isn't so bad.

2. And dealing with them even after finding a pair that "fits"

Nothing like taking a pair of shorts home you remember fitting you okay in the store and then walking for 45 seconds and pulling them out of your butt or crotch 17 times. Truly a magical experience.

3. And every bathing suit you try on shows more skin than you'd planned

Even the most conservative bathing suit turns into cleavage-city and a non-cheeky set of bottoms turns into a thong. I promise, older people glaring at me in my sexual bathing suit, I didn't mean for this to happen!

4. Chafing. So much chafing.

No better feeling than four minutes into wearing short shorts realizing that your inner thighs are literally tearing themselves apart. Body Glide and baby powder are a thick girl's No. 1 necessity.

5. Loving rompers. Rompers not loving you.

Rompers are made with short and skinny girls in mind. Heaven forbid you're not short, and heaven forbid you're not skinny. Rompers are like a mystical article of clothing that, no matter what, always just barely doesn't fit.

6. Imagining wearing a sundress with a strapless bra and just laughing

Of course, not all thick girls are well-endowed in the boob department, but if you are, you understand how hilarious the thought of you wearing a strapless bra truly is.

7. And bralettes are a thing of fantasy

Once again, bralettes are designed for a very specific body type. One that I do not fall into.

8. Feeling like you need to constantly defend yourself for dressing like you want to

There are so many posts and tweets and just general ideals that people have that certain sized women can't wear certain clothing. You shouldn't feel the need to defend yourself for wearing a cute crop top or a bikini, but you will.

9. And always feeling looked at when you're rocking your swimsuit

Yes, I see your judging eyes, and yes, they are making me feel like shit. It doesn't matter how confident you are in your body, people looking at you like you just killed somebody just because you're wearing something typically made for smaller women doesn't make you feel good.

10. Did I mention chafing?

I just felt like something so horrible couldn't just be mentioned once.

11. Online shopping for cute summer outfits and then none of them fitting you correctly

There's always the dreaded "one-size-fits-all" for plus-size women. As if there's just one way to be plus-size. No matter how much they promise online that it'll fit well, it won't.

12. Seeing tiny girls complaining about losing their "summer bodies"

So many tweets talking about choosing food over a summer body. So many profile pictures of traditionally skinny women. I'm not saying that thick girls are the only ones who can complain about their summer bodies, and thick girls do not have a monopoly one not feeling confident in their bodies. But it is hard to see those posts knowing that those women would be glorified in their swimwear while you'd be gawked at.

13. The "you go girl!" comments on your oh-so-brave bikini photos

Compliments are nice, and positive comments while wearing a bikini go a long way. But the dreaded "you go girl" comment just seems so condescending. Just treat me like anyone else you'd see wearing a bikini. I promise, I'd like to feel like that.

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The Life Of A Retail Worker As Told By Chandler Bing

The best person to explain retail life is Chandler Bing.


The life of a retail worker can be very interesting. You never know what you'll encounter each day. Some people don't really understand what retail workers really deal with and the stress it causes. The best person to explain it is Chandler Bing. So, here's how Chandler describes the life of a retail worker.

1. When the customer says they know the manager and will contact them

2. Then, everything seems to start going wrong and you're starting to get angry

3. That feeling you have when a customer says they will never come back

4. "You didn't do my order right" well, you signed off on the order form

5. And you can't say what you want to because you need your job

6. This is how a customer walks in when its closing time

7. And they have to look at EVERYTHING in the store 

8. Black Friday in a nutshell

9. How it feels trying to carry boxes to the back

10. When its finally time to leave work after a long day

11. When you can finally relax 

12. But then you realize you have responsibilities to do around the house, so you can't relax anymore

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