The Familiar Mask That We Choose To Unsee, To See Again

The Familiar Mask That We Choose To Unsee, To See Again

We cannot grow if we do not get hurt at one point or another.


We are constantly letting people into our lives, whether we like it or not. The difficulty in doing so is repeating patterns from the past and incorporating those types of figures into our lives who may be toxic in the present and future. We seek this familiar aspect of our lives and want it due to being comfortable with the elements that we've seen over time. This could be both a positive and negative aspect of the way that we live and communicate. At times it feels as if this is amazing and the best thing to happen at the moment, and at others, you're in immediate denial as to a positive outcome.

As humans we get hurt, we feel everything and every emotion that may come our way. Once we become happy or hopeful, we begin to love again and feel these emotions to the extent. We let people in continuously and allow for ourselves to be immersed in environments which make us vulnerable and excited. It's a scary and frightening sight to not know what someone will say back to you or communicate as you state your feelings and allow yourself to be fully immersed in the relationship. As we all know it's life, and we need to take the good with the bad in order to get the best.

There's a mask, we do our bests to cover the not so great qualities we see in a person, to discover the absolute best ones in general. This is a difficult task, as someone could do so much wrong but you are still so amazed by the person they are and what they mean to you. Others may judge you for being close to that person and define you by the qualities they uphold within their conversations and ties with people. This can cause conflicts within your own life as well as with others that are upset with the fact that you choose to be around that person.

Is it worth it, we ask? Yes, it is worth it to surround yourself with a diverse amount of people who bring different personalities and qualities into your life. Times get hard and arguments occur with those that you love and care about, but that's how we grow and progress within our lives. The start of a new relationship may be a fall or a dip in another one, and those changes can be a lot for one person to digest. Taking the good with the bad is so crucial in life itself and letting life in is the biggest step you could take. Once you let life in, the possibilities are endless and your dreams and aspirations could actually come true.

We hurt, we struggle but we succeed in the areas of life that we are passionate about. It's okay to be passionate and care for those that you love and to give your absolute one hundred percent into every situation that you encounter. So, take your past experiences, and allow for yourself to feel everything in the present and future. Life gets difficult and it becomes harder as time goes on, but always listen to your heart and be true to yourself.

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13 Signs You Grew Up In The 2000s

Get ready to feel nostalgic

The 2000s, generally referred to as the decade falling between 2000 and 2009. However, these 10 years were so much more dear to our hearts and definitely cannot be limited to this simplified definition. From hopes that you had the best kooky pen collection, to dreaming about making it to see the year 3000, there was never a dull moment. So, put on those terry cloth sweatpants, charge up that nano iPod, and read about the signs that prove you grew up in the best decade:

1. You might have jammed out to “Girlfriend” by Avril Lavigne on your nano IPod

Yes you had one, and your playlists consisted of the best songs the 2000s had to offer; All American Rejects, Fall Out Boy, The Killers and of course Avril Lavigne.

2. You treated your tamagotchi as if it were your child

This hand held digital pet probably occupied a little too much of your time. You spent your days feeding it scones and watching them reach a new life cycle.

3. Your wardrobe consisted of every color Juicy sweatsuit and Ed hardy tees...

Thank god these terrycloth outfits made a comeback!... Right?

4. ... Oh, and gauchos, you LOVED gauchos

These pants took over your wardrobe before yoga pants came into your life. Gauchos flooded the playground in pink, blue and tie-dye. I miss you gauchos.

5. You had the debate with your friends over whether Webkinz or Club Penguin was better, but you begged your parents for a membership to both

As soon as you logged onto your account your afternoon was booked up. While on your Webkinz you visited the curio shop, got a checkup with Dr. Quack, made a hamburger in the employment office and played cash cow in the arcade.

6. Your friends always had these in their pantry

At the end of a long, hard day of multiplication, going to your friends house for a playdate and indulging in a cosmic brownie was a necessity.

7. This was your first experience with makeup, and a cell phone

This accessory gave the lyrics "my lipgloss is cool my lipgloss be poppin" a whole new meaning. Pretending to answer the phone while smearing your lips in every color imaginable; this was the perfect mix of feeling like you were a teenager while also staying true to your child like self.

8. Lizzie Mcguire was the first ever Bitmoji

You watched her on Disney Channel as Lizzie McGuire, admired her fashion sense, and sang to "Hey Now" an endless amount of times. Hillary Duff was the definition of goals.

9. The auctioning off of silly bandz in elementary school was basically Wallstreet

The must have accessory of the 2000s.

10. You would beg your mom to buy you lunchables when you walked down the frozen food isle

Looking back on it now, eating these was probably not the best idea.

11. You had a favorite Jonas Brother

And it was NEVER Kevin.

12. You dreamed of riding around in a JetX just like the kids in PCA

You put getting a JetX on your To-Do list right under making a key necklace.

13. Instead of homework, your after school activities consisted of watching THE BEST Disney Channel and Nickelodeon shows

Disney Channel and Nickelodeon will sadly never be the same. Classics include: Hannah Montana, Ned's Declassified, Suite Life of Zack and Cody and That's so Raven.

Don't you want to just go back in time and bask in the simple days where all you cared about was how good your blue eyeshadow looked and when the next Disney Channel Original movie would come on?

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'The Farewell' Brings An Asian-American Narrative To Hollywood

I've never imagined that a story like this would make its way to Hollywood, and it's definitely a welcome change.


The trailer for Lulu Wang's "The Farewell" was recently released. The film, based on Wang's own experience, stars Awkwafina as Billi, a Chinese-American woman who travels to China after learning her grandmother has been diagnosed with terminal lung cancer. "The Farewell" initially debuted at the 2019 Sundance Film Festival in January, and currently holds a rating of 100% on Rotten Tomatoes.

"The Farewell" is an exciting film for members of the Asian-American community, as it encompasses many of our own experiences in having family overseas. Having this Asian-American narrative portrayed in Hollywood is especially groundbreaking and important to the community. "Crazy Rich Asians" has received much well-deserved acclaim for its leap in Asian representation, but the film did not necessarily depict a completely relatable experience and was only one story out of many in the Asian-American community. There were aspects of the characters' cultures that allowed the Asian-American audience to connect with much of the film, but the upper-class narrative wasn't quite as accessible to everyone.

While "Crazy Rich Asians" portrays Asians in a way that is very much uncommon in Hollywood and American media in general and had a hand in helping to break stereotypes, "The Farewell" introduces a nearly universal first-generation American or immigrant narrative to Hollywood. In doing so, the film allows many members of the Asian-American community to truly see their own experiences and their own stories on the screen.

For me, the trailer alone was enough to make me tear up, and I've seen many other Asian Americans share a similar experience in seeing the trailer. The film reminds us of our own families, whether it's our grandparents or any other family living overseas. I've never imagined that a story like this would make its way to Hollywood, and it's definitely a welcome change.

"The Farewell," which is scheduled for release on July 12, 2019, depicts a family dynamic in the Asian-American experience that hits home for many, including myself. The initial critical response, especially towards Awkwafina's performance, is certainly promising and will hopefully motivate more Asian-American and other minority filmmakers to bring their own stories to Hollywood.


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