The Familiar Mask That We Choose To Unsee, To See Again

The Familiar Mask That We Choose To Unsee, To See Again

We cannot grow if we do not get hurt at one point or another.

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We are constantly letting people into our lives, whether we like it or not. The difficulty in doing so is repeating patterns from the past and incorporating those types of figures into our lives who may be toxic in the present and future. We seek this familiar aspect of our lives and want it due to being comfortable with the elements that we've seen over time. This could be both a positive and negative aspect of the way that we live and communicate. At times it feels as if this is amazing and the best thing to happen at the moment, and at others, you're in immediate denial as to a positive outcome.

As humans we get hurt, we feel everything and every emotion that may come our way. Once we become happy or hopeful, we begin to love again and feel these emotions to the extent. We let people in continuously and allow for ourselves to be immersed in environments which make us vulnerable and excited. It's a scary and frightening sight to not know what someone will say back to you or communicate as you state your feelings and allow yourself to be fully immersed in the relationship. As we all know it's life, and we need to take the good with the bad in order to get the best.

There's a mask, we do our bests to cover the not so great qualities we see in a person, to discover the absolute best ones in general. This is a difficult task, as someone could do so much wrong but you are still so amazed by the person they are and what they mean to you. Others may judge you for being close to that person and define you by the qualities they uphold within their conversations and ties with people. This can cause conflicts within your own life as well as with others that are upset with the fact that you choose to be around that person.

Is it worth it, we ask? Yes, it is worth it to surround yourself with a diverse amount of people who bring different personalities and qualities into your life. Times get hard and arguments occur with those that you love and care about, but that's how we grow and progress within our lives. The start of a new relationship may be a fall or a dip in another one, and those changes can be a lot for one person to digest. Taking the good with the bad is so crucial in life itself and letting life in is the biggest step you could take. Once you let life in, the possibilities are endless and your dreams and aspirations could actually come true.

We hurt, we struggle but we succeed in the areas of life that we are passionate about. It's okay to be passionate and care for those that you love and to give your absolute one hundred percent into every situation that you encounter. So, take your past experiences, and allow for yourself to feel everything in the present and future. Life gets difficult and it becomes harder as time goes on, but always listen to your heart and be true to yourself.

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9 Things Girly Tomboys Know Too Well

It's all about balance.
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Most girls are either girly girls or tomboys, but for some of us, we are a cross between the two. We are a rare breed between wearing dresses and shotgunning beers. We can relate to other girls but play sports with the boys without batting an eye. It's all about balance like balancing your ratio of pieces of pizza to how many pieces of cake you'll still be able to eat.

1. You love your comfy clothes.

You wish you could live the rest of your life in your favorite pair of sweatpants, yet you know you have to "adult" sometimes and put on more socially acceptable clothes.

2. You don't love shopping.

You find it a real hassle to drive all the way to the mall, just to aimlessly walk around looking for expensive clothes that you can't afford. Your one saving grace is the food court, that's your happy place.

3. You LOVE food.

Most of the time when you're in a bad mood it's because no one has fed you in a few hours. When you finally get that burger you've needed, you don't care who sees you devour it.

4. You're not graceful.

When you wear heels you look like a baby giraffe learning to walk. You wonder how these other girls glide around in heels while you're falling in trash cans.

5. You love wearing a dress.

You love wearing a dress, because think about it, it's one piece of clothing instead of having to put an entire outfit together. But you are sure to always wear some shorts under it, knowing that if shenanigans present themselves a dress isn't going to stop you from participating in the festivities.

6. Your makeup routine takes 10 minutes or less.

Sometimes you get in a girly mood and try to watch makeup tutorials, the end result never turns out well and normally results in you wiping it all off and eating an entire frozen pizza instead.

7. You love playing/watching sports.

You feel at home on the field or court, you're never afraid to get down and dirty when it comes to your favorite sport. You'd rather watch sports than "Say Yes to the Dress."

8. You love beer.

If given the choice between a fruity girly drink or a nice cold beer, there is no hesitation for you, beer it is.

9. Sometimes you just really don't know what kind of girl you are.

You don't consider yourself a girly girl, a tomboy, or anything else really...so the best title is a girly tomboy.

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I Won't Forgive The Anti-Semitic Students Of Spain Park, Not Yet

Maybe it isn't time for an apology.

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I am Jewish. It is something I have never been afraid of and something I value as much in life as I do with my family and friends. Throughout my life, though I have witnessed hate of the Jewish people and jokes made about Jewish people.

In high school, I had to listen to jokes about Jews and the gas chambers and was asked because I was Jewish if I could do someone else's math homework.

To say I had to deal with anti-Semitism in the South does not come close to describing what I had to go through. As time went by the jokes stopped and I thought I would not have to deal with instances of prejudice or bigotry but I was wrong. Growing up as one of the only Jewish people in my friend group and in high school it made me consider myself strong and ready for college but in my freshman year I had to go through other jokes about my religion and even in sophomore year had to witness someone I thought was my friend make a joke about my religion because "he thought it was funny."

I let the instances of anti-Semitism serve as times when I could prove people wrong I learned to forgive and forget.

But I had to witness other acts of hate towards Judaism while in college. From swastikas on a fraternity house, a synagogue shooting, the BDS movement and more hate speech, the hate towards Jews have seemed to grow and I do not understand why. I get hurt each time I hear of an instance but it has not allowed me to view my Judaism any differently. However, there was an occurrence that has affected me in a different way.

It happened in my home state and it has not sat well with me.

On Monday a video surfaced of multiple high school students making anti-Semitic and anti-Black comments. The video featured a guy turning around the camera multiple times to show he was laughing and thought it was funny while others made comments about concentration camps, what would happen if Jews ruled the world and asking what the world would be like without the Holocaust. The students were from Spain Park in Birmingham and have gathered quite a reputation online.

To say I am filled with anger, disappointment, and embarrassment is an understatement.

This is my home state and these students are not only disrespecting the Jewish and Black people in the state of Alabama but throughout the US and possibly even in the world. I am hurt by this instance but I am not ready to forgive these students just yet.

After the video was leaked online some of the students sent messages to the person who uploaded the video apologizing. That I took as a mature gesture until I read the apology from the girl in the video. The apology asked if the user could remove the video because it would ruin her life and reputation. It was later found out that the female student is the daughter of the manager of the Toyota dealership in Hoover after the manager posted an apology.

Any remorse I had going for these students was now gone.

They were not sorry. They were sorry that they got caught and were facing consequences. They gave the apology that your parents made you say when you did not want to apologize. They did not care about who they had harmed or what they had said, they cared because they had to face consequences and they know that this mistake would follow them for the rest of their life.

I'm at a loss for words.

I don't know how to feel. I know someone will tell me I am overreacting but how am I supposed to approach this? What they said was wrong and there is no proper way to express frustration for it. I know people get offended by certain things but some things are not meant to be a joke. So I hope what you said was worth it and was fun to say because it will follow you for the rest of your life. Some lessons are best-learned overtime and it looks like you will have a chance to reflect on these events.

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