Now before you think, "this can't be about me," consider a few things. Let's take a moment to think about the importance of using one's manners.
1. Why don't we hold the doors for people?
Saying that "chivalry is dead" is not correct in any way. There are still men who try to hold the door for women and for their elders. Unfortunately, in our society, it has become a "sexist" gesture if a man holds the door open. We get it ladies, you don't need a man to hold open a door, but the boys were taught right. It is a polite thing to do, not a sign of dominance or empowerment.
2. What ever happened to "yes, ma'am" and "no, sir?"
People nowadays just talk to others however they want. There is a lack of respect between children and their elders. Kids are taught that they are on the same level as people who should be above them.
3. What about old table manners?
It is acceptable for
kids to chew with their mouth open because it is "funny" or
"cute." Children eat with their hands instead of using utensils. They
may be found screaming or not listening to their parents. Whatever happened to eating what
everyone else is eating, or not eating at all?
4. What ever happened to eye contact?
No one nowadays ever has the time to look up from their phones or electronic devices. Often times, you will see people looking at their phones while other people are speaking to them. People just nod or make little noises to confirm that they are "listening" when in reality, they do not even know what the person just said.
5. What about the common "please" or "thank you?"
Kids now are not always taught to say "please" or "thank you." Often times, they just expect things. This is because everything has been handed to them. Kids are not taught a proper work ethic nor are they contributing to society in any sort of way. They demand and are greedy when they receive.
Now, I say all that to say this: I have not been around for a long enough time to say "back in my day." However, I am old enough to realize what this society lacks.
Manners may not seem important. I am by no means someone who always practices their manners. I try to use them at all times, but I sometimes forget. They are important because they show signs of respect and kindness. They display forms of gratitude which may be taken for granted.
So put down the cell phone and talk to someone, practice manners at the table (or make sure that your children do), say "yes ma'am" and "no sir," display gratitude by saying "thank you," ask for things while saying "please," and hold the door for others.
The only way to make this generation achieve greatness is through working on improvement. It's a small start for the greater good.
