Love Is A State That Only The Brave Are Destined For

Love Is A State That Only The Brave Are Destined For


"Being deeply loved gives you strength. Loving deeply gives you courage"

-Lau Tzu

We often tend to avoid or think twice about situations in which we may hurt ourselves. We like to make sure we are safe, which is why many in this current generation believe in the common stigma against being in a relationship. We tend to say we are not looking to have the "commitment at a young age" or that we don't want to have so much "responsibility." But honestly, we are avoiding the pain.

If you have ever been through heartbreak, you know firsthand how crushing and exhausting the experience is. It takes everything from you. Your thoughts are consumed and racing, your days blend together, your soul literally aches. You put yourself to bed anyway you can, and pass the moments along as quickly as humanly possible. You want time to move along to separate yourself from this period of pure and utter pain. You want your heart to close up and to build your strength up again.

But is this really what strength is? Is it strong of us to keep ourselves closed off from others? Is it strong of us to not care about our relationships? We have all come to believe that those who hold no feelings are the ones with the upper hand. But as a generation, we are strongly mistaken. We are missing out.

We are missing out on that connection where someone knows every corner of our brains and can tell us what were thinking before we even know it ourselves. We are missing out on that feeling of pure joy just by seeing someones face. We are missing out on the euphoria of a feeling so beyond ourselves, because we are scared. Not because we are strong.

Love is being vulnerable. Love is leaving yourself open to someone who could choose to break every part of you at any moment. Love is scary. Love is a state that only the brave are destined for.

Bravery is not the absence of fear, it is fear being present, but deciding to go for it anyways. We are all scared; of the future, of the unknown. We all start off with fear, we all have fear intertwined in our brain down to our hearts. But it is moving past that fear and opening yourself up; that is what love is all about.

Those who have experienced heartbreak and can open themselves up to love again; those are the few who truly know the depths of bravery. Those are the ones that are in touch with the very essence of their souls, and are destined for a love so incredibly strong. Those are the ones who will find life's great love, because they are brave enough to do so.

You give yourself to someone fully, and thus, trust them to hold your heart in the most gentle form one can. They are yours, and you are theirs. And together you are building a strong, yet vulnerable bond. And that is the most beautiful thing a couple can do. Letting go of fear in any part of your life lets you fully experience what is in front of you. So why are we fighting against this?

Here's to those brave enough to bare their souls in the name of love. May your hearts stay free and vulnerable in your journey.

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What Your Hogwarts House Says About You

Get yourself sorted and find out where you belong in the world of witchcraft and wizardry.

Sorting at Hogwarts is a big deal. Being sorted into a house is essentially being placed into a family while you are away from home learning about witchcraft and wizardry. Your house is made up of the people you will live with, go to classes with, play Quidditch with and everything in between. You basically spend 24/7 with them. Your Hogwarts house is your home away from home.

When you get sorted into a house, it is based on your personality traits. The people in your house are typically like-minded people who display the same characteristics as you.

When you’re a first year at Hogwarts, the minute you set foot in the castle you are swept into the Great Hall to have the ancient Sorting Hat placed on your head. This Sorting Hat decides which “family” you’ll be spending your seven years with.

For some, it is very obvious which house they will be in, due to certain personality traits they possess. For others, they may exemplify traits that fit a multitude of houses and are uncertain where they may end up.

To find out where you belong, you can take the official "Harry Potter" Sorting Hat quiz at For all you muggles out there, these are the characteristics that the houses possess and what your house says about you:

Gryffindor: The house of the brave, loyal, courageous, adventurous, daring and chivalrous. Those who stand up for others are typically Gryffindors. Brave-hearted is the most well-known Gryffindor characteristic, and Gryffindors are also known for having a lot of nerve.

Gryffindors are people who hold a multitude of qualities alongside the ones listed, making them a very well-rounded house. People who are Gryffindors are often people who could fit nicely into another house but choose to tell the sorting hat they want Gryffindor (there's that bravery). "Do what is right" is the motto Gryffindors go by.

Being a Gryffindor means that you're probably the adventurous and courageous friend, and you are usually known for doing what is right.

Ravenclaw: The house is known for their wisdom, intelligence, creativity, cleverness and knowledge. Those who value brains over brawn can be found here. Ravenclaws often tend to be quite quirky as well. "Do what is wise" is the motto they strive to follow.

Though Ravenclaws can be know-it-alls sometimes, they most likely do know what the wisest decision is.

If you are known for being the quirky friend, the smartest in the group or just great at making wise decisions, you're definitely a Ravenclaw.

Hufflepuff: This house values hard work, dedication, fair play, patience, and loyalty. Hufflepuff’s are known for being just and true. "Do what is nice" is their motto.

Hufflepuff is known as the “nice house” and believes strongly in sparing peoples feelings and being kind. This is not to say that Hufflepuffs aren't smart or courageous. Hufflepuffs just enjoy making others happy and tend to be more patient towards people.

If you ever find that you are too nice for your own good and cannot bear to hurt someone’s feelings, congratulations, you are a Hufflepuff.

Slytherin: This is the house of the cunning, prideful, resourceful, ambitious, intelligent, and determined. Slytherin's love to be in charge and crave leadership. "Do what is necessary" is the motto of this house.

Slytherin is a fairly well-rounded house, similar to the other houses. They are loyal to those that are loyal to them just as Gryffindors are and are intelligent as Ravenclaws.

Slytherin house as a whole is not evil, despite how many dark wizards come out of this house. That is merely based on the choices of those wizards (so if your friend is a Slytherin, don’t judge, it doesn’t mean they are mean people). Slytherins do, however, have a tendency to be arrogant or prideful. This is most likely due to the fact that everyone in Slytherin is exceedingly proud to be there.

What Hogwarts house you’re in says a lot about the person you are, the traits you possess and how you may act in some situations. But in the end, your house is really just your home that is always there for you. Always.

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