Love and Dependency. The Difference.

When you are in a relationship, and you find your emotions being changed due to your significant others feelings, would you say that's being a dependent lover?

I know that when I am in a relationship, and I have always been told this, but when someone else's happiness becomes your happiness that is love.

I have said many times before that some people are in search of home within another. We want to find refuge and safety in the presence of another individual.

Being someone who has been through some pretty significant events, it isn't uncommon or unusual for me to want to find something grounded. I want something that will not only be temporary but strive or flourish. I am a motivated individual, so I have pretty high set goals for myself.

When I am in a relationship, I want to equally coexist with whom ever I am with. I want to build together and grow together as a whole. I want to battle obstacles together, and rejoice in the outcome together.

I don't like temporary, everything else has been temporary. All these aside, these are things I would LIKE to have. Not that I NEED them. Only people I need in my life are my grandparents, siblings, close friends, or other close people. They all make me feel safe, and loved so much. Having one more person to make me feel that way would be great, but I'm not missing out if I don't have it. I feel things deeply. Which isn't unusual either. I'm a person of feeling and emotion. Maybe I'm dependent to an extent? I don't know. But if you want to walk away from it you can. I don't feel empty or alone if I don't have someone with me. I don't have to be constantly talking to someone. I don't have to always do things with people. Even though company is appreciated. I don't live my life with fear. I don't desire to get love, nor to I try and seek it. You just came out of the blue. I wasn't looking. I don't have the "get" mindset, I focus on what I can give and offer. What I get in return is great. I'm not focused on the outside of the relationship, I'm focused on the inside. I'm not focused on how a person treats me but what's on the inside and the simple essence of that person that makes me love. I don't have a "list" of expectations. I just know what I deserve simple as that.

Some may consider this dependent, but I see it as a description of the person you are.