One of the biggest things that stress people out regarding college is the concept of long-distance relationships. If your significant other goes to a different school than you, it sucks more than anyone could know. I see people talk about it all the time, and I, too, have to deal with living two hours away from my boyfriend and it's so hard, don't' get me wrong. However, something I feel like is slightly undermined is being in a long-distance friendship with your best friends.
Three of my very best friends and I are in a very long-distance relationship and it HURTS. I'm lucky that I have some of my greatest friends (new and old) here in Raleigh with me, however, nothing is worse than missing your best friends that you used to be able to see every day if you wanted.
You used to know every detail about everything in their life. Now you're supposed to catch each other up subtly over text or if you're lucky enough to both have free time at the same moment, see each other through facetime or talk on the phone. That is not a very easy way to fill your bestie in when something eventful or juicy happens. Even if you talk every single day, it's not the same.
My best friends are the people that know me the best. They are the ones I laugh the hardest with and do the most stupid stuff with. They get me and I get them and it just works, ya know? It's hard when those are the people that are tens to hundreds of miles away. If you're also in a long-distant friendship, you'll be able to relate with me when I say there is not ONE time that you are out at a party, a dinner, a night out, or really any daily routine event that you don't think to yourself: "I wish so-and-so was here, too."
Don't get me wrong, I am so so happy for these friends of mine to be doing big things in big places. However, the endless phone tag and the budgeting for weekend reunions are not anything to be excited about. I guess it would be pretty selfish of me to wish for them to drop what they are doing and to be here with me, but I can't help it. My best friends are my people.
For now, I just have to deal with the dreadful distance that separates us and look forward to the time that we can all be back together in the same zip code.
