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5 Things That I Learned Growing Up As A First Generation American

Being born into an immigrant family has its ups and downs but at the end of the day, I am a proud first generation American in my family.


Being a first generation American is rewarding but at the same time, it can be stressful, especially when your ideologies are way different than your parents. Here are some things I learned growing up with immigrant parents.

1. Hard work takes you places

Growing up my mom was a landlord, and with that came work. I honestly hated the fact that I had to help fix up the houses and did not understand why I had to work hard while other kids got to play around. It wasn't until I started working as a teenager and realized how much work ethic I had to the point where my supervisors would call me in on my days off, and of course, I happily said yes to working an extra shift or two.

Looking back I had to thank my mom because not only did she made me work hard at an early age she also worked hard herself. Being a single mom is not easy and although she was an immigrant she still made sure my sister and I never went without anything.

2. Never take education for granted

Education was a big priority growing up. It was to the point where my mom would be discontent if I made a grade below a B. I was also made to study for the SAT earlier than most kids and had to do extra homework. I never understood why education had to be a big deal for me. Now that I look back I realized that with society demanding education to work certain careers and minimum wage workers getting treated badly, I now see that my mom did not want me to suffer the way that she had to.

3. Be very selective of who you date and marry

Although I never been married I now realized why my past relationships did not work out. Most guys I had dated did not meet the level of education and work ethic that I have. One thing that I learned growing up is that it is better to struggle on your own than to add someone in your life who does not benefit you in any way.

I now base who I want to be with more on logic than depend solely on my heart because at the end of the day using your brain is how you avoid unpleasant situations.

4. Represent yourself in a way that you don't embarrass your mom

I admit I am not a perfect daughter and I do stupid stuff sometimes. As I gotten older I realize how much reputation is important and that I needed to be more aware of what I do. At the end of the day I know my mom is not perfect but she made sure I was raised to do good for society and I want to make sure that I act that way

5. Life does not have handouts

With all that I learned one main valuable lesson that my mom taught me was that if I want something I had to work for it and if I don't then I get nothing. I use to get jealous of people who had parents that paid for their cars, tuition, and even rent but then I realized that the things I worked for myself were things that I had appreciated more. Me earning things in my life through hard work made me think about why I got what I have in life and every good and bad thing that is given to me I am always aware of.

Life being a first generation child has its ups and downs. Although I was given the responsibility with no choice I can honestly say that I had handled it very well. In the future, my dream and goal is to not only be the first American born in my family to graduate from college but also be the first doctor in my family.

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47 Things All Female Athletes Have Said

Yes, I know I am sweating a lot. No, I do not enjoy practices. Yes, I have said all 47 of these.

Whether you're a collegiate athlete, or a high school one, you have probably found yourself saying most of these phrases. Us athletes know that the athlete life isn't for everyone, and we often find ourselves questioning if it's still for us. So, this is for all my fellow athletes.

All my fellow athletes who know the struggle is undoubtedly real, and who find themselves saying these 47 phrases almost as often as I do.

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1. Do you have an extra hair tie?

2. What if we just said no? What if we just didn't run when the whistle is blown?

3. I, like, really, am not feeling practice today.

4. Do these pants make my quads look big?

5. Are you going to eat before or after practice?

6. I'm so sore.

7. Want to get McDonald's after practice?

8. Did you see that she wore makeup to a preseason practice?

9. I actually looked like a girl today.

10. I wonder what college would be like if I wasn't an athlete.

11. We're up before the sun way too often.

12. Is it gross if I don't shower after weights?

13. How hard do you think practice will be today?

14. Coach is literally crazy.

15. I ate like 20 minutes ago, so there's a 50% chance I puke during this practice.

16. I'm not going to drink the protein shake they gave us because it's going to make me gain weight.

17. I think my legs are bigger than his, so I can't date him.

18. I think my arms are bigger than his, so I can't date him.

19. Today in class a non-athlete was talking about how busy her schedule is. It was so annoying.

20. Thinking about preseason makes me want to cry.

21. Is it even healthy for us to have this many practices in one day?

22. I'll be right back, I'm having PGD (pre-game dumps).

23. I think I'm going to throw up.

24. I should have worked out more on my own.

25. How do other girls have the energy to put makeup on for class every day?

26. My legs are dead.

27. Why did we think being a college athlete was a good idea?

28. Do you think coach will be mad if I have to go pee?

29. I think I peed my pants a little bit during conditioning.

30. Should I wear my hair in a pony-tail, or in a bun?

31. I should probably start eating healthy soon.

32. Only six more practices until the weekend, we can do this.

33. I'd rather be sore for a week straight than climb into this ice bath.

34. They might have beat us, but at least we're still pretty.

35. I can't wait to celebrate our win this weekend.

36. How many hours of sleep did you get? I got 6, it was crazy, I feel so refreshed.

37. I look like such a boy right now.

38. Will you braid my hair?

39. That referee totally rigged the game. We should have won.

40. I think I'd hate being a reg (regular student).

41. It's OK if I eat this since we had conditioning this morning, right?

42. If you're not doing homework, get off the bus Wi-Fi, everybody.

43. These pants fit my legs perfectly but are huge on my waist.

44. I smell so bad right now that I can smell myself.

45. I bet my grades would be so much better if I wasn't an athlete.

46. Coach only gave us, like, one water break during practice. It was horrible.

47. I am so happy that I'm an athlete.

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I Used To Think Height Didn't Matter, But Maybe It Really Does

I've come to a conclusion


I've had my fair share of boyfriends in the past. A common theme in my past choices of boys is that they were all an inch or two taller than me or the same height. Now, I am a little on the taller side considering that the average height for a woman in the US is 5 feet 4 inches tall. I'm not saying all the tall boys belong to all the tall girls and the shorter guys should stick with shorter girls, but I do think there might be something behind all this madness.

My reasoning for this is simple: I've been in an amazing relationship with someone who is fairly taller than me. Is this reason totally irrational and have no sort of concrete evidence for this argument? Yes, totally, but hear me out. All my other relationships haven't been this good or even had the potential to be this good. Is it a coincidence that they were all shorter? I think not!

There is absolutely nothing wrong with boys who are under 5'9''. There are some nice ones who probably don't talk to 5 other girls while you're dating, I just never happened to come across one back when I was in the game. I just find it interesting that I've been in a really healthy relationship for awhile now with someone who is over 6 feet tall.

Many amazing relationships have happened between all different types of people, no matter the height. It's just if you are having problems with boys who are under 6 feet, you may have some thinking to do.

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