Sometimes, The Options We Get Aren't Always The Ones We Want

Sometimes, The Options We Get Aren't Always The Ones We Want

Even if you holding onto hope for something, don't pass up the options that are available to you currently.
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We all have dreams: some big, some small. Some people dream of obtaining a job they have always wanted since childhood while others dream of getting pizza for dinner, the latter being my situation today.

Dreams are hard to chase, regardless of who you are or where you come from. Opportunities worthwhile aren't easily obtainable and often require maneuvering obstacles. In my case, you can jump all the obstacles and still not get what you wanted.

It's a hard pill to swallow when even though you worked your hardest, you still didn't get the thing you aimed for. It's a blow to the self-esteem and an engine combustion, but just because you're broken down doesn't mean you're totaled.

I spent months working toward my goal of obtaining a specific internship: I contacted everyone I could, I polished my resume to the best of my ability, and I was tedious with my efforts by completing each task at hand. I put an immense about of effort and hope into the position, which was one I thought I could easily get after being in my specific situation, but months passed and time was coming to an end.

I had a choice to make. Would I take the chance by passing up opportunities laying at my feet that would offer me valuable experience, or would I take a leap of faith and hold onto the hope that I would get the position I was dying for, which could easily end in failure?

With only two hours to make this decision, I was panicking. Those hours were filled with phone calls to my parents and friends, constant nail-biting, and a pro/con list.

My head was spinning from the stress of deciding what my future would look like in a matter of minutes. I was laying on my bedroom floor flat on my back questioning why life needed to be so stressful and why I had to be going through this. You know, I work hard; I get good grades; I built great relations; I didn't deserve this.

And that's when I realized, I did deserve this.

I was pining for a position that was going to consist of the same tasks as the one I had the year prior. I wasn't going to be learning anything new and I was only doing it because I thought of it as a protection net. If they wanted me back as an intern, then they'd obviously want me back as an employee when I graduate, right?

Most of all, I didn't want to let my parents down. I didn't want them to think I was taking a step backward in my career by taking a position somewhere else that was less prestigious. Also being states away from home, I didn't want to disappoint them by not being able to come home for the summer.

I didn't want to let them down, but in the process, I was letting down myself.

I was stressing myself out over what I thought would please my parents, not what would please me. All this time, I was pining for an internship that I wanted but also knew wouldn't really help me in the long run. I always wanted to branch out and work in an environment that was different, but taking chances is scary because what if you fail? What if you hate it?

But these opportunities came to me and I chose them. I chose to step outside of my comfort zone and take the chance. If I hate it, well, that sucks, but at least I can say I tried it and I will never wonder "what if?"

Sometimes, the options we get aren't always the ones we want, but they might exactly be what we need.

Cover Image Credit: Kinga Cichewicz

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10 Pieces Of Advice From My Parents That Have Helped Me Survive This Thing Called Life

I don't like admitting that they're right, but they've helped me through more than they'll ever know.

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As I've entered my 20s and have made it halfway through college, I've learned that life can be hard and challenging at times. Like many kids, when I was growing up, I could care less about what my parent's advice or opinions were. Nine times out of ten, I would do the complete opposite of what they said. Once I got older and actually started listening to their advice and put it into perceptive, I learned that they're right more often than I'd like to admit.

1. Don't take things for granted

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I've learned to cherish what I have because I might not always have it. It's easy to take life itself and many things it involves for granted. They've taught me to take a step back from this crazy life sometimes and be grateful for all that I have.

2. Don't be afraid to put your heart on your sleeve

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My parents have taught me that if you feel something, don't be afraid to say it or embrace it. If you love someone, then tell them. Don't be afraid to put your heart out there just because you might get hurt.

3. Be vulnerable

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In life, in relationships, in your work. Take risks, get shot down, and then try again. Being vulnerable is scary yet so powerful.

4. You can never have too many shoes

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Otherwise known as it's okay to treat yourself. Life is hard, so take care of you. If that means going on a shopping spree every once in a while, then so be it.

5. You're going to be okay

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Whatever it is you're going through, you're going through it and you're going to come out on the other side. It may seem horrible now, but you'll learn from it and be okay in the end.

6. You have to have friends in life

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It's important to have people to lean on, especially on your bad days, and to celebrate with on your good ones. You can't just have you or a significant other to rely on.

7. Never be afraid to share your opinion

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Don't be afraid to put your thoughts and opinions out there because they might be wrong. They could have a huge impact on someone or something.

8. Don't stress over things you have no control over

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Everyone is on their own path, which means everything will work out the way it's supposed to, even if it doesn't make sense right now. Again, you're going to be okay.

9. Happy, healthy, wealthy, wise

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My dad always says if you tell yourself every day that you're happy with yourself or your life, you're healthy and strong, you're wealthy in love and surrounded by great people, and you're knowledgable or wise, then you can achieve anything in life.

10.  S*** or get off the pot

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My all-time favorite piece of advice. Making decisions can be hard and scary, especially if the outcome could be getting hurt in the end. So, you either make a decision and roll with it no matter the outcome or you walk away.

Thanks, mom and dad for always being a phone call away when I need it! Just know that your advice and words of wisdom don't go unnoticed. For others, your parents have been on this planet much longer than you have and most likely experienced the same situations that you're dealing with. They don't have all the answers, but they are there to help.

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