The Present Is The Future Of The Past

The Present Is The Future Of The Past

"Don't dwell on the past or fear the future, live in the present – the here and now, as it determines who you are: where you came from, and where you're going." - Ryan Canaday


A ball and chain, a leech, quicksand; not wanting to let go, the Past holds fast to its host to the point of becoming one with them. Given the opportunity, it has the power to define a person. The weight of mistakes and regrets can overpower, as dwelling on the Past brings turmoil.

A mysterious figure, the Future hides in the shadows, promising a better life. With nothing to lose, one follows blindly at the possibility of a fairy-tale life unaware of where they tread. One misstep leads to a dream-like fall into the empty abyss.

There is a light shining in the darkness, where the Past and Future meet, known simply as the Present. A sliver of time that determines where the Future leads and where the Past follows. Strain arises from the Past, weighing down on one side, and the Future pulling the other direction. Hot and cold, fast and slow, Past and Future; trapped between two extremes, failure seems imminent, but the choice made in the here and now offer a chance to break free from the Past and ordain the Future. With this choice, the Past becomes stepping stones that pave a way for a brighter Future.

The burdened life of the Past becomes free as the leech turns into a companion – the load becomes a blessing. The unknown Future becomes known as it throws off its dark cloak revealing the different outcomes based on the choices made in the Present. The ignorant child of the Past and the demented elderly of the Future attain, the overflowing wisdom of the Present.

Essentially, the idea I'm trying to convey is that if you regret your past and dread your future your life will be a mess. The past is not all bad and the future has great potential, but in order to recognize those, you need to accept who you are in the present. Your past and future can define you if you let them, but your present self needs to be the one to define your past and your future. We've all make mistakes, and we all ponder how our future will look, but we need to take time to appreciate life at the moment; for only then will we be able to live life to the fullest.

Another key idea to recognize is that yesterday is gone, and tomorrow is not promised. This means that the past is behind you, there is nothing you can do about it, so why regret it when you can just accept it and move on. In addition, why worry about the future when there is no definitive that it will come about? Death lurks around the corner waiting to strike, but it is unknown when it will. Why fret over the future when the future could be gone tomorrow

"If we don't let Jesus deal with our past and heal the pain, our past will have power over our present and future." - Unknown

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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