Life Lessons From Someone Who Didn't Want To Live

Life Lessons From Someone Who Didn't Want To Live

All of the things I learned about life and friendship from having a suicidal friend.

The lessons that our friends teach us often are more valuable than we originally think that they are. We all learn different things from people, especially when they are opposite from us. What I have learned over the past few years from my friends has taught me more than I have learned in school about life itself. I didn't realize how many of my friends struggled with life until I hit high school and expanded my mind. People looked at the world in such a different way than I did, and it completely shocked me.

Having a suicidal friend taught me to love, more than anything. We don't realize that today could be the last time that we see somebody, and we don't tell those we love, that we love them, as much as we should. Sometimes all that people need to hear is that somebody cares about them. They need to know that somebody wants them in their life and that they are not as useless as they believe they are. After people are gone from our lives, we find ourselves with so many things we wish we could have said. So say them now, in case you don't get another chance to.

I learned that it is never too late to fix things or get a second chance at something.

I have learned how to be compassionate, even if I cannot be understanding. We do not know how people feel or how things affect them, even if we have been through a similar circumstance because things take different kinds of tolls on different people. More often than not I have been left unsure of what to say, while my friend has sat next to me breaking down, but I have learned that it is often the presence of another person that simply helps. Even if I don't necessarily have the right thing to say (and I never will) simply being there helps. Sometimes people need someone to sit there and let them cry and say everything that is going on in their mind just so they can get it out.

I learned that I didn't know everything. Because no matter what Google tells you about living with depression or being suicidal, you don't get it until you experience it. So I learned how to shut up and stop trying to be the smart person with all of the answers, and to just be the person that was there for them.

I learned that the little things count. That handwritten letters are still a thing, and they have a way of brightening somebody's day in a way that nothing else can. I learned that all it took was a "hey how are you?" text message or a CD with a note that said "this made me think of you" to pull someone back from the edge. I learned to pay attention to what people like and don't like, and what upset them the most. I learned to distract them with topics that would get their mind off of things, and I learned how to be a better listener. I learned to not judge someone by what others say because people get extremely good at pretending. I learned how to be a better friend.

No person is the same. Not everything will work for somebody. But I learned a lot about life, from someone who didn't want to live. And to this day I am beyond thankful that they are still here with me, because I couldn't imagine life without them.

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If You've Ever Been Called Overly-Emotional Or Too Sensitive, This Is For You

Despite what they have told you, it's a gift.

Emotional: a word used often nowadays to insult someone for their sensitivity towards a multitude of things.

If you cry happy tears, you're emotional. If you express (even if it's in a healthy way) that something is bothering you, you're sensitive. If your hormones are in a funk and you just happen to be sad one day, you're emotional AND sensitive.

Let me tell you something that goes against everything people have probably ever told you. Being emotional and being sensitive are very, very good things. It's a gift. Your ability to empathize, sympathize, and sensitize yourself to your own situation and to others' situations is a true gift that many people don't possess, therefore many people do not understand.

Never let someone's negativity toward this gift of yours get you down. We are all guilty of bashing something that is unfamiliar to us: something that is different. But take pride in knowing God granted this special gift to you because He believes you will use it to make a difference someday, somehow.

This gift of yours was meant to be utilized. It would not be a part of you if you were not meant to use it. Because of this gift, you will change someone's life someday. You might be the only person that takes a little extra time to listen to someone's struggle when the rest of the world turns their backs.

In a world where a six-figure income is a significant determinant in the career someone pursues, you might be one of the few who decides to donate your time for no income at all. You might be the first friend someone thinks to call when they get good news, simply because they know you will be happy for them. You might be an incredible mother who takes too much time to nurture and raise beautiful children who will one day change the world.

To feel everything with every single part of your being is a truly wonderful thing. You love harder. You smile bigger. You feel more. What a beautiful thing! Could you imagine being the opposite of these things? Insensitive and emotionless?? Both are unhealthy, both aren't nearly as satisfying, and neither will get you anywhere worth going in life.

Imagine how much richer your life is because you love other's so hard. It might mean more heartache, but the reward is always worth the risk. Imagine how much richer your life is because you are overly appreciative of the beauty a simple sunset brings. Imagine how much richer your life is because you can be moved to tears by the lessons of someone else's story.

Embrace every part of who you are and be just that 100%. There will be people who criticize you for the size of your heart. Feel sorry for them. There are people who are dishonest. There are people who are manipulative. There are people who are downright malicious. And the one thing people say to put you down is "you feel too much." Hmm...

Sounds like more of a compliment to me. Just sayin'.

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