Season Three of "Queer Eye" finally dropped on Netflix on March 15th. Our hearts are full and our eyes are full of tears. If you have not watched the show, you are missing out. This show is made for everyone and anyone.
It does not matter if you are gay, straight, bi, trans, religious, atheist, a Jesus freak, this show is for you! There are so many life lessons that can be learned from this show, so I decided to make a list.
1. When you do not take care of yourself externally, you are not taking care of yourself internally.
As displayed on the show, when things around you are messy can be the expression of an internal conflict that has not been resolved. A messy room, piled up dishes could actually be your subconscious way of telling the world there is an internal war going on. Take the time to clean up what is on the outside, but while through what is going on in the inside. Is there something stressing you out, are you overwhelmed? Dig deep and hash it out with yourself.
2. Make yourself uncomfortable and go talk to someone who has a different opinion, worldview, lifestyle than you. This is how you become well rounded.
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In today's political climate, it is so easy to just listen to respond. It is easy to turn a blind eye to another side because we often make the opposing view the enemy. In reality, the opposing view is just a different opinion. Everyone has a right to their opinion, and by allowing yourself to listen - to simply listen - opens up a whole new world of open-mindedness and understanding.
3. "Self-care is not mutually exclusive for femininity or masculinity."
A lot of times people think face masks, manicures, pedicures, hair trimming, is for women. However, these things are just as relevant to men self-care. There should not be a line between self-care for men and self-care for women. It should be just self-care.
4. "Confidence is sexy. Knowing who you are is sexy."
People often say "you cannot fix ugly" but in reality, we cannot change how we came out of the womb. Beauty fades, but personality does not. The thing that makes a person sexy is their personality. If your personality is self-degrading, no one will find you attractive. But when you walk into a room with your head held high, you will be turning eyes.
5. When you are in a relationship, grooming yourself shows love and respect towards your partner
Just simply putting on a nicer pair of jeans to go out to dinner can show your partner that you are invested in them and are still wanting them. It shows that you are still in it to win them over every day. When we let ourselves go every single day in a relationship, it can actually send subconscious cues to your partner that you no longer care.
6. Start your day by putting sunscreen on yo face!
Pair that glowing confidence in yourself with some SPF to keep your skin healthy!
7. You have to take responsibility for your situation
In American culture, it is so easy to blame or deflect our problems onto an external thing. If we fail a class, we blame the professor. In reality, you probably could have put forth more effort into the class to have been more successful. When we take responsibility for our situations, we give ourselves a new found motivation to be better.
8. It's not about changing who you are, it is about changing things in your life to be the best version of you!
The amazing thing about this show is that the fab five does not come in and completely flips their lives upside down. They meet the person where they are at and figure out ways to better help their situation. There is no right or wrong way to live your everyday life. You just have to see the areas in which need help and change things so that it works best for you.
9. The biggest part of being accepted, is allowing people into your world.
When we hide parts of ourselves whether it is sexuality or just interests, we are refusing the chance for people around us to engage in that part of us. Yes, it may be scary because we may not know their reaction. But, when we keep that door closed, we are refusing everyone access to that beautiful side of you.
10. When you make an effort, it shows people you are serious about the life you want.
If you show up to your job dressed in sweats everyday, you send off a message that you do not care. When you put forth effort in yourself, you are telling people you are confident and ready to take on the world.
11. Take time everyday for yourself - even if it is 3 minutes
In today's culture, we are all on the go go go! However, we often run ourselves into the ground when we live like this. Make sure to take time in your day to focus on you and your sanity - even if it is three minutes.
12. Anyone can cook a delicious meal
You do not need mad kitchen skills to make a healthy, delicious, easy meal. All you have to do is a little research and doing.
13. "If you try to numb vulnerability, you also numb joy, happiness, and connection. You cannot have joy, happiness, and connection without vulnerability."
Again, if you do not allow people into your life, you are refusing an opportunity for other things to take place like joy, happiness and human connection.
14. When we build walls, we keep people out, but we also end up keeping ourselves in.
We keep ourselves locked away when we build walls and refuse to let others in. We miss out on expressing our true selves because of the walls we build.
15. Love yourself!
The key to all of this, is to love yourself. Love your quirks, love what makes you different, love YOU!
