8 Lessons I Learned In 2018 Despite It Being The Hardest Year Yet

8 Lessons I Learned In 2018 Despite It Being The Hardest Year Yet

Tough years make for better growth.


When 2018 began, I thought that it was going to be the year I would reinvent myself. In a way, that was true, but it also led to a lot of backtracking, heartbreak, life lessons, trauma, and growth. Although this year was difficult, and I wasn't sure if I would get through it in a healthy mental state, I am glad that I experienced it. It showed me how to be strong, it showed me that the hard times aren't going to stop, I'm just going to know how to deal with them in more progressive ways as I grow. I wanted to share the 8 main lessons I learned so that these lessons could help anyone who is or has gone through similar situations.

1. Sometimes trauma that you thought you worked through, completely, comes back to haunt you.


When this happens, it does not mean that you have backtracked. All it means is that you have some unfinished business to take care of. You just have to learn how to cope and how to overcome it.

2. Some people are uncomfortable with the topics that you choose to write about.


People are not as much of an open book as you may be. Some people don't like to face their past or their problems head-on. It doesn't mean that you shouldn't. Don't let them drown out your voice. Keep writing.

3. Girls are still ruthlessly mean, even in college, even if they pretend to be your friend.


Cliques and mean girls don't disappear once you go to college, no matter who tries to tell you they do. If you find yourself caught up in the drama of a mean girl, do yourself a favor and distance yourself from that toxicity.

4. Romantic relationships can also be amazing friendships all at once.


A quote I live by is to "fall in love with your best friend." My boyfriend and I are backward with that one. I fell in love with him and then we became best friends. Either way, it's how you know it's real.

5. Alone time doesn't mean that you're lonely.


Loneliness means that you are lost, but alone time means that you're growing and learning about yourself, which I find to be two completely opposite things. Don't let anyone take your alone time from you, it is sacred.

6. College doesn't have to solely be about your career. 


Take it a day at a time and you will find yourself valuing your education more than you did when you were only focusing on your future job.

7. Real friends will understand why you can't make time for them.


Still, try to make time for them when you can. Remind yourself that they would do the same for you and that they don't have to be understanding, even though they are.

8. You can be there for people without trying to fix them.


The people who truly love and care for you won't ask you to fix them in the first place. All you need to do is to be a shoulder to cry on and a good listener in order to be there for someone. Your real friends won't expect you to fix their problems.

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7 Things You Do If You’re One Of Those 'I Always Order Chicken Tenders' People

It's hard to love food but also hate it at the same time.


Growing up, my mom would usually have to cook me a separate dinner from my siblings. Why? Because I was ridiculously picky and wouldn't eat the same foods as everyone else. Trust me, it gets old. It's not my fault certain things just taste gross, you learn to live with it.

1. You eat something you hate just to see if you still hate it

I'll take a bite of a burger every once in a while just to reaffirm that it still tastes like dirt. I just have to know. Don't even get me started on vegetables.

2. When trying to explain what you actually like to eat, people give you major side eye

Don't ask me about my eating habits unless you want to get into a long, confusing conversation.

3. Eating at someone else’s house when you were younger was a pain

You hate to tell their parents just how much you hate the food that they gave you. So, you sucked it up and ate it anyway only to come home and whine to your parents.

4. There’s one thing on any menu you always fall back on...even if it’s on the kids menu

Pizza, maybe. Chicken tenders, always.

5. Trying a new food is a very proud moment

It's like, wow! Look at me being all adventurous.

6. When you realize you actually like some new food, that’s an even more amazing moment

Crazy times. This rarely happens.

7. Sometimes it’s the texture, sometimes it’s the flavor, all the time it’s left on your plate

Oops. At restaurants it's either left on your plate or your order is very specified.

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Why You Should Consider Spring Recruitment

the benefits of sorority life


It's that time of year again!! Time for sororities to get back in the recruitment swing and gain some awesome new members! I serve as recruitment coordinator for my sorority here at The University of Georgia, and love everything recruitment has to offer.

Some of my closest friends in my sorority rushed in the spring as opposed to the beginning of the fall semester. Talking with them and having helped plan spring recruitment, we all came to the common conclusion that spring recruitment is the best!!!

I know that a lot of girls hold themselves back from joining a sorority because of the overwhelming journey it takes to receive a bid. However, spring recruitment is different because often times it is a whole lot more low key and less intense than the typical fall recruitment. It is done on a much smaller scale and really allows you to talk with a handful of sisters in order to get a better idea of what the sorority offers. There can be games, food, and activities involved - who doesn't love the sound of that??!

Maybe last semester was a tough one or you just weren't sure sorority life was for you- whatever the case may be, now is your opportunity to be a part of one of the best things college has to offer!

I'll admit I definitely did not see myself as the "typical sorority girl," but here I am convincing you to take a chance. I can truthfully say that the time I have spent in my sorority has given me some of my favorite memories and has proven to be the biggest blessing. Being a sister has allowed me to travel, find personal growth, develop the strongest of friendships, and ultimately has given me the best support system. Going through my college experience knowing that I have a group of girls that have my back and are there to support me 24/7 has been such a gift. Plus it is always fun to have a class or study buddy! Not only do you gain best friends, but you truly do gain a family as well.

I know it can be a daunting task to put yourself out into an unfamiliar setting with new people, but I promise, if you embrace the experience and stay open you may just find yourself hanging out with your new best friends. Going through recruitment forces you of your comfort zone and pushes you in the best ways possible. Start the year off experiencing something new and exciting! It is so much fun to get to talk to new people and hear all new stories. I can truly tell you that I have laughed louder and smiled more because of taking a chance and going through recruitment. Seeing my sisters brightens my day and adds more joy to my life. And besides, what girl doesn't love an excuse to get all dolled up and put on her cutest outfit?!

Recruitment is a 11/10 experience – would 100% recommend!

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