I came into college knowing I wanted to be in a sorority, but I didn't know why. My mom questioned me a lot, but I didn't have an answer other than "Everyone is doing it, Mom!".

That being said, that meant I would leave for school first of all my friends and head to the south to endure what most girls describe as a week of hell. I think every girl goes in thinking "That won't be me, rush will be fine" followed by "What if it isn't?" about two seconds later. I'm not going to take you through my rush process, but I'm going to explain what it did to me.

This isn't a sob story. I did find the rush process to be awful, but It made me a stronger person. The thing that no one tells you about rush is the rejection you are going to feel.

Regardless of your process, good or bad, you are going to be rejected from sororities multiple times throughout the week. Even if you have a "perfect rush," I found that a lot of girls still question, "well even though I didn't want them, why did they want to drop me?" It just a grueling process in the sense that you sit and talk to a girl in a very constructed situation and about 5 minutes later they're gone.

You may think it was the best conversation of your life and that this girl could be your big and then you find out they dropped you and you're left feeling "What the hell just happened?"

Although, I stuck it out. I went through the whole week with the thought in my mind that I might not even get a bid. It was a week of tears if I wasn't crying, my suitemate was crying, or the girl down the hall was crying. There's just a lot of emotion built up into that one week. I think part of the issue, at least for me was the fact that this was the first thing I did when I came to school. It makes you question yourself and your choice of school. I remember I kept thinking to myself "If the girls don't like me, will no one like me here?"

However, that was not the case at all. I ended up in a sorority that personally just wasn't for me, so I dropped. However, my roommate loves her organization with all her heart. My best friend from home loves her sorority too, and the one thing we all have in common is that we love our schools.

While the beginning of this letter is sort of a dump on the rush process, I am not saying I don't do it. I think sororities are fun and sometimes I wish I was in one, but luckily for my school, I don't need to be in one to go out and be a part of the social scene. For that, I am thankful.

To any girl out there who is planning to rush, I am not going to stop you because I don't think that's right. There are some significant benefits.

However, I want you to know that the rush process is not a definition of who you are. These girls base their opinions of you off a five-minute conversation, and that's not who you are, and that's sure not who I am.

The mistake I made was letting that get to me. I have never really been a judgmental person, and I think that's why rush was so hard for me because of its straight up judgment.

However, that being said, there is going to be a sorority that loves you for who you are and doesn't allow themselves to get caught up in the superficialness of it all.

I hope that every girl can hold their head up and remember that a sorority doesn't define you and I didn't let it define me. You will find your niche whether it's in greek life or not.

Best of luck out there.