Hi there, beautiful girl!
First off: you are beautiful. No matter what anyone says. I know it’s tough. You may you feel like you’re ugly, fat, not good enough, weird, geeky, etc. I have been there. It is AWFUL. I was bullied severely by guys in middle school. They would constantly call me fat and ugly. I went home to my parents and just cried about it the whole night. It was a constant factor for 2 years. I couldn’t escape. I wanted to change everything about me at one point. Now, I’m a college student, and of course I still struggle with weight and not being “perfect” but then I wouldn’t be me.
I want to tell you first on why it’s not ideal to achieve the “perfect” body. You would be changing yourself to become someone else. You wouldn’t be you- the person that you were born to be! I promise you that things will work out with your situation- whatever it may be. Tough times DO NOT last forever, although it may seem like you. You will learn to become comfortable in your own skin, I promise. You will learn the ways to enhance beauty by how comfortable you feel about it, and you will learn that you can do what you want!! It’s your life, girlfriend!
Girls have it SO TOUGH. There’s this stupid pressure to be someone else, to be like that model in Seventeen magazine or to wake up like Beyoncé. As fabulous as models and Queen Bey are, they aren’t realistic to you and who you are. Girls can also be SO catty!! The cattiness really affect a girl which sucks so much. But girlie, you do not need anyone’s approval to shine like the star you are! Here’s what you can do: ignore those catty girls, flip your hair, and simply say: “I love myself. Have a good day!” (And I know you got that inside of you, it’s in there, trust me. This is coming from a girl who struggled so much with body appearance)
For the most part, those “perfect girls” or even guys, are struggling with themselves. Whenever you try to be something that you’re not, you lose yourself. You can lose happiness, your friends, family, and even come in contact with disease and pain. You DON’T want to lose your support system. Natural beauty is always the most beautiful part of a person!! Fake beauty? That’s not real. It doesn’t last forever either. Your soul lasts forever. What you should always be working on is your inner self- how to love yourself, how to be more confident, how to show the world that you are a queen (which you are!!). You DO NOT need to change your weight, hair, or clothing style to fit the needs of other people. Plus, it’s so expensive and time consuming to constantly be worried and buying products- which can cause stress and bad pressure down the road. Don’t do that to yourself! Life is short. You are young, fierce, and fabulous! Do what you want, be who YOU want to be. You are a wonderful person. You are loved. You are important. You are beautiful.
From one girl to another,
Sarah
